i need...
....extra patience with my bosses M1 and M2. M1 is soooooo talkative and know-it-all. You can’t get a word, edge-wise. She finishes your sentences for you. Does not acknowledge what you just said first, but just add and add her thoughts. She always top up whatever you have to say. Like for instance, I will tell a story about an incident, she will always top it up with a story of her own.
Action plan --- let her talk and talk. Learn from her. Let her exhaust everything she knows. She needs to unload because she only has her cousin to talk to at home. Let her have her whole piece, before you finally share your own. Probably, M1 and I have more things in common that’s why I don’t like this quality of hers. Remember, you can learn more if you listen than, talk.
Now, M2 is another matter. She’s generous, easy to talk to and concerned. But she’s lacking in competence. Takes so long to respond to emails and her decisions. Her thought process takes a long time. But she tries her best.
Action plan – - I can use M2 to push my own agenda, like the programs I want, approval for small things that I want to do. However, she has the tendency to get the credits. It’s ok. It’s she who evaluates me anyway. What’s with the credits?
Lord, I know I have my own faults, as a colleague or as a boss, also. Please help me become more humble. I am slowly learning to let go. I cannot have a say in everything. I will be less pushy with my opinions. I will try to let others talk and talk before I share my piece.
More than being the bearer of opinions, knowledge / or being credited – here’s what I need to focus on:
1.) Caring – show more
care by listening, by appreciating, by acknowledging others’
efforts, by being more compassionate to the shortcomings of
others.
2.) Humility – again, don’t be too pushy, too aggressive, too know it all. State your opinions humbly and subtly. If they accept, ok. If they don’t, do not lose sleep over it.
3.) Do you best at tasks given, and then leave - I notice that if I do the extra mile here, I deprive others of their ability to shine also. If they want to do their extra mile, let them. Even if they suggest, don’t do it. If they suggest they must be able to do it themselves, and not expect you to do it for them. In short, lessen you extra mile.
