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Wednesday, November 25, 2009

How to cope in a miserable job

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Many people feel stuck in their current jobs.  They may be grateful to have a job in this economy, but the job isn't satisfying them. If you're in that situation, some information below might help.

Begin by doing some self-reflection on the sources of misery on your job. Once you know the main cause, you can take steps to combat the misery. Here are some common problem sources:

The boss

Often communication is the problem. Schedule regular "update" meetings with your boss so that you can both be clear about goals and expectations. Take initiative in nurturing the relationship; don't expect the boss to do all the work.

Try to make his or her job easier; perhaps they are stressed, overworked. Find ways to take initiative to solve problems. Be solution-oriented!

Lack of challenges

Set goals for yourself and your performance, and share them with your boss, if possible. If not possible, make personal goals so that you gain a better sense of achievement in your work. You will have a way to measure success, which can help you feel more personally invested in your job.

Identify challenges in the company, and take initiative to solve them. This is especially good if you can find new ways to save money for the company!

Make sure you document your extra work, share it with your boss so that you can be rewarded/recognized, even promoted.  If the boss is unreceptive, you can still use the extra accomplishments for your resume -- leading hopefully to a better job!

Anonymity

Do you feel like a speck of sand on the beach? Focus on how your job affects others. How does your work matter for specific individuals, does it make their lives better?  Even if it's just a coworker whose life is made better by your work, focus on that.  That can change how you value those relationships and influence new, specific ways to improving your job.

Author Patrick Lencioni offers great insights about this in his fine book, "Three Signs of a Miserable Job."

Anxiety Over Possible Job Loss

Many people today fret over getting laid off soon.  Here are some ways to deal:

  • Go the extra mile to make yourself more valuable. Find ways to save money or make more money for the company. Volunteer for tasks that others may not want.
  • Nurture your networks. Networking can be easier while you still have a job.
  • Be prepared with an updated resume. Take some spare time to polish your resume and keep your eyes open for other opportunities.
  • Stay positive! Keep your focus on the big picture -- a layoff is not the ultimate tragedy. Recharge your batteries away from work. A good attitude can be a factor in your boss deciding to keep you on the team; it's also critical for helping land a new job.

I also did a recent segment on CNN discussing this topic. Watch it here.
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  • Katie B's Avatar
    Posted by Katie B Thu Aug 13, 2009 8:04am PDT

    Hmm... the only thing that is making my job miserable is the preferential treatment of one sector of jobs than another. My sector (within my employer) is paid 20k less than the other (and it's not even execs versus cubical rats) and they also recieve many more stipends than we do even though qualification levels are only slightly different. Because of the type of job they do I can understand them getting more... but not so much more. And this is the only thing making me and others like me very disgruntled.

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  • Rowdygirl's Avatar
    Posted by Rowdygirl Thu Aug 13, 2009 9:59am PDT

    I feel all these things at my current job, which is why I updated my resume and started searching again. I found a new job and will be out of here in a few months.

    Keep hope alive. If you're unhappy, start searching.

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  • effenjen's Avatar
    Posted by effenjen Thu Aug 13, 2009 10:09am PDT

    I don't think any of these tips help when you TRULY hate your job. These are things you would normally take on if you enjoyed your job. When someone really hates their job, the only alternative is to get the hell out!

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  • Robyn's Avatar
    Posted by Robyn Thu Aug 13, 2009 12:22pm PDT

    all my jobs i have had those people in power that you honestly stop and look and say "how the FU** are you in charge" stupid people in charge make any job miserable. and im not talking about 'i can so do a better job than you' type a boss i mean the 'i get paid more than you i have the title you have to do what i say becuase i siad so even if i have no clue what my job title actually means'

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  • TAY's Avatar
    Posted by TAY Thu Aug 13, 2009 3:57pm PDT

    It could just be a wrong fit. I'm creative by nature and passion. Any job that doesn't involve my creativity enventually bores me. When I'm bored with a job, I'm ready to find something more interesting. Of course, I tend to land in management positions that have nothing to do with my creativity, and I generally end up hating it. Of course I stay because a paycheck is better than no paycheck.

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  • Vanna's Avatar
    Posted by Vanna Thu Aug 13, 2009 9:33pm PDT

    Yes I agree with the 7 comments above, but sometimes the culture also make it problems then one more is the attitude of the boss or the superior level compress

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  • Linavibe08's Avatar
    Posted by Linavibe08 Fri Aug 14, 2009 6:02am PDT

    This doesnt help.

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  • Kitten's Avatar
    Posted by Kitten Fri Aug 14, 2009 9:01am PDT

    My boss helps make my job miserable, so discussing it with her isn't going to work. I've had this job 6 years; I've been looking for a new job for 5 1/2 years. I'm trying to figure out what's wrong with my resume so I can get out of here.

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  • Tam's Avatar
    Posted by Tam Fri Aug 14, 2009 9:14am PDT

    OMG!! I hated my job soooo bad, I quit, yes even in this bad economy. Although I'm only working temp, I am so happy to be away from that god awful place.

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  • Silence*Tells*All's Avatar
    Posted by Silence*Tells*All Fri Aug 14, 2009 9:36am PDT

    I love my job... but my boss is horrible.... i've gone up the chain of command.... it's a never-ending battle turning to a war

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