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  Posted by t3chu Mon Aug 17, 2009 4:24pm PDT

  I am t3chu. nice of you to stop by.

  i just wanted to say hello! =)

  I am Asian (Taiwanese) and 35 yrs. old, born and raised in So. Cali.

  so when you read my posts, you will know who i am

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  Posted by Joslyn Tue Aug 18, 2009 1:26am PDT

  Im sort of stuck in between and I really need advice. This might be a bit complicated, so bear with me.

  I was with my boyfriend for a little over a year. During the relationship, I was depressed about my home life, which I was not open about to him. I made him miserable as well, so he broke up with me. He's a loving, sweet, understanding, unique guy. He got a rebound soon after and I was devestated. He left her twice in attempt of getting back with me, thinking that he made a mistake breaking up with me in the 1st place. The last time we got together, we were perfectly fine until he felt really anxious and wanted to leave to go back home. He suddenly felt as if he didnt know where his heart was. He was confused. That was over 1 month ago and I havent heard from him since. I cant believe he would pick a rebound over me. I feel like I was left hanging. Im furious. Should I stay friends with him if he comes around again? I dont know how to take it from here.

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  Posted by Carolina Tue Aug 18, 2009 5:51pm PDT

  hi,

  umm well i need some advise, i've gotten a few comments but i would love to get some more feedback, if when u have time u could go to my blog & read love dream & tell me what u honestly think that would be great! please & thanks!

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  Posted by Silence*Tells*All Wed Aug 19, 2009 12:02pm PDT

  lifelovedance08 :

  There are two roads you can take. 1. you can just let the whole thing go... mend your wounds (relationship and family) and move on to a better relationship or you can 2. call him up and tell him what was going on and leave it in his hands.

  You shouldn't have to keep contacting him... if he wants you he will let you know... but keep in mind that you shouldn't wait.

  Ask yourself if you really loved HIM or just the things he did/put up with??? And do you want him more now that he is with someone else.... he didn't chose her OVER you...he chose to move on... hope this helps you in your decision making process!!!

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  Posted by Silence*Tells*All Wed Aug 19, 2009 12:04pm PDT

  Carolina :

  I am sorry but I am unable to access your page from here (at work). :'( I will try to do it from home later!!! Take care!!!

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  Posted by Borikua princess Thu Aug 20, 2009 8:21pm PDT

  Long story short... I was in a relationship for 3 yrs he was perfect in so many ways but in others so wrong he is the type of guy that shows no emotion or limited. In those 3 yrs we went through do many ups and downs even lost a baby in the process (miscarriage) after that we lost our apt everything felt lk it was coming down. So i bailed on him I broke the relationship but he stayed by my side for another year and a half. but now he is movin on wit a new chick and I realized I Love him more then anything in this world and I want him back. I have tried for the past two months and he knows now how much I love him and he says he loves me too but he need to find out where his new relationship is going. I dont know how to let go and i dont know if he still loves me and wants me why he doesnt come back. This is takin a toll out of my life lost 11 lbs in a week and dont know how to just let him go. He still wants me in his life in EVERY way but I cant take sharing him.

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  Posted by Silence*Tells*All Fri Aug 21, 2009 8:10am PDT

  Borikua princess:

  As much as it hurts you MUST let him go. You had your time now it's his turn. It isn't fair to him to come back to a relationship with you when he is involved with someone else... it also is not right if the two of you are sleeping together still..... You let him go so it is up to him to come back... trust me: you do not want him to come back before he is ready. He may really still love you OR he may only have love FOR you b/c of all the memories and things you have been through together. Only time will tell... but in the meantime... DONT PUSH... it spells trouble.

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  Posted by Joslyn Sun Aug 23, 2009 1:25am PDT

  TO Boricua Princess Post and So Photogenic:

  It hurts so bad to know he is with another woman. Im assuming my ex boyfriend is dating the rebound. I told him that we shouldn't have contact. He didnt understand, but I guess he accepted it because I havent heard from him in over a month. I cant stand the thought of him with that other girl. Im to the point where Im very angry. I told myself that if he were to come back or surface again, I would shut him out and not forgive him. I just cant seem to look past everything. Now I just wait around for a call. It's pathetic. I just dont know what to do.

  Is there a difference between loving someone and having love FOR someone? I never really thought of it that way.

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  Posted by Silence*Tells*All Sun Aug 23, 2009 2:07pm PDT

  Joslyn:

  Yes. There is a difference. You can have love for many ppl and for many differnt reasons. When you have love FOR someone is not as deep (relationship-wise) as being IN LOVE with someone or even loving someone. Its easier if you think of it in degrees 1.love for 2. love 3. IN LOVE.....

  Well, since you are the one that said that you two shouldn't have contact, you really can't be mad if he goes out and does whatever.... of course it will hurt... but you DID give him the green light. If he does come back, depending on your situation, I would try to be friends again before anything... unless he just treated you VERY WRONG then just don't speak to him.... Think about it... while you are at hm stewig and thinking about how much you hate him/the situation... HE is out living his life--- you should do the same. Take some time from the field... and learn YOURSELF...

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  Posted by Anne Thu Aug 27, 2009 3:20am PDT

  I am in love with this guy and i think he's in love with me as well. He sees me as is girlfriend and wants me to himself but he had a girlfriend and he's finding it difficult to break up with her because she says she's going to kill herself. i don't know what to do because i can't share him with someone else but he begs me to give him some more time. What do i do?

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