OK Please forgive me...... I need to b---- for a moment.....
Most of y'all know that my hubby lost his job, and we had to
move in with my parents.
I am so tired of being broke. My checking account is constantly
overdrawn. I can not buy things that my kiddos want, and can barely
afford groceries.
Now what I have not told is that this was not a surprise that hubby
lost his job. His boss had been stealing money, his pay checks
constantly bounced. I begged him for at least 2 years to find
another job. He said no that he was happy where he was. Every year
in November he would go for a whole month w/o being paid. Meaning
that Christmas at our house was really skinny, however his
boss's children had nice gifts.
When it all came to an end, my hubby said that since he was going
to school that he did not want to work. That it would be too hard
for him to do both. He only went to school 2 days a
week.....
I began to look for a 2nd job. Even though we were living with
my parents, we still had bills to pay that we could not pay on
time. My parents finally said something to hubby about finding a
job. So he went out and found another Dish network job. One that I
had asked him to get over a year ago. I even asked him before it
was to the point that we were moving with my parents.
So....today is my son's birthday. He is 11. I can not afford to
get him a present. I feel like the most horrible mom in the world.
I can not afford a party either. He is heart broken. He is trying
hard not to show it but I know that he is. What 11 year old
wouldn't be?
Now hubby is mad at me for being mad at him about this situation.
If he had made better choices then we would not be where we
are.
I know that I am a horrible wife for bitching about my hubby on my
blog. I just needed to vent a little. Thanks.
Life sucks
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Posted by Sat May 16, 2009 3:47pm PDT
Report AbuseWhen me and hubby got out of the service, we could not afford to leave his parents house for about 9 months.
29, been there and done that.
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Posted by Sat May 16, 2009 3:50pm PDT
Report AbuseI forgot it was Calebs birthday today....sorry!!!
29 I am so sorry......I will be back!
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Posted by Sat May 16, 2009 3:51pm PDT
Report AbuseOur first Xmas after we moved out was horrible. We moved into this small trailor, that roaches would have said was too small. We only had 25 dollars that we could spend on the kids. I went to Maxway, and bought dollar toys, the highest toy was five dollars. I actually cried until I threw up on Xmas day.
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Posted by Sat May 16, 2009 3:58pm PDT
Report AbuseBoth of us went from being in the military, having benefits and living in Gov. housing. To working at Kmart(me) and a printing co.(hubby). With no benefits and living in a tin can trailor. I was so embarassed and angry, that this is the best that I could do for my kids. Plus hubby and I were hardly speaking. S.C. does not recognize military experience, so we had to get our license by boarding for it. That cost money also, money that we did not have.
Girl there were days that I wanted to hit hubby with a brick, just because he was breathing. It was so hard 29, but we made it.
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Posted by Sat May 16, 2009 4:06pm PDT
Report AbuseGod bless us, it took 3 years but he blessed us.
My SIL had a house on my inlaws property, and she wanted to move to a bigger city. We signed a contract with her and took over the payments. Hubby finally got a decent job and so did I. We still penny pinch big time, to make sure that we always have something in the bank. I am hooked on Goodwill now. Yes I had to shop there for me and hubby, because the kids need new clothing. It felt like I was Job sometimes, with all of the trials we went through.
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Posted by Sat May 16, 2009 4:11pm PDT
Report AbuseOh did I forget to tell you one of my highlights during this time, he started to drink heavily. That really made me want to kill him.
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Posted by Sat May 16, 2009 5:05pm PDT
Report AbuseKim, at this moment I just hate him. I am mad that he put us in this spot. He has never been the man I needed him to be. I have always been the bread winner.
With the exception of 2 of our 10 years together. I lost my job when I was pregnant with Amber, and no one would hire a pregnant woman. I was able to stay home until she was 15 month old.
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Posted by Sat May 16, 2009 5:12pm PDT
Report AbuseHe has never really loved me. He told me the other day that he realizes that he loves me, and he does not want to lose me. Personally I think that he is afraid he will lose his maid.
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Posted by Sat May 16, 2009 6:09pm PDT
Report AbuseHi, 29
I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. Some folks don't realize how lucky they are to have the supportive people they have.
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Posted by Sat May 16, 2009 9:35pm PDT
Report Abuse29,
Girl, breathe
It had got to the point, where I was so angry at him, that I couldn't see straight. He lost his job at the printing company and got depressed. That is when the drinking started. He got a part time job in home health, but that was only 2 to 3 hours a day. So the bulk of our income was on me. I did good that first year, being supportive. That next year I started to lose my respect for him. The year after that, I showed my natural black a$$ to him.
29, I would fix enough food for me and the kids only. I stopped washing any of his clothes. If he asked me anything, I could freeze the pacific ocean with the look that I gave him. I took him off of all the accounts. Plus dare him to ask me for one penny. It got to the point where we were just living together and thinking about a divorced.
29, things might change, they did for us. However, thing got really bad before they got better.
I am praying for you and your family. SMOOCHES
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