Military

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  Posted by Miss Independent Mon Nov 9, 2009 10:31am PST

  It is not easy being a military wife and takes a special kind of woman to do it. The most important thing you have to learn is that Army comes first, this means that as a family and individuals, you have to learn to make sacrifices. You can't be mad at your husband if he ahs to go to the feild all the time for training, or get up in the middle of the night to pull duty, or for being gone on deployment when you need him. It's not his fault, be mad at the Army instead. There will be times when you will have to do it all alone, be Mother and Father, manage your life and your husband's as well as your childrens. There will be times when the car will break down or the house needs a repair and you will have to figure it out on your own because your husband is gone. It takes a very strong woman to handle this lifestyle and all the time spent alone. The most important thing is to build a secure foundation in your marriage of trust, communication, respect and loyalty. If you have these qualities in your marriage it makes the time apart less stressful on your relationship. It can get hard sometimes to keep the fire burning in your relationship when you are so far apart or he is busy with work all the time, but it is so imprtant to keep those fires burning and with creativity and communication, you can do it! Above all, make sure you form a community and support system with other Army wives, good friends who won't lead you down the wrong path and both of your families. Doing this is paramount to surviving deployments. Good luck!

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  Posted by Tara G Mon Nov 9, 2009 10:36am PST

  Being part of the military family is the hardest thing you will ever endure. There are so many ups and downs and inbetweens. I am an Army brat and the sister to two AMAZING brothers who are both on active duty in Afghanistan. The hardest part is the not knowing. Never knowing when the next phone call will be, never knowing if they are feeling okay or just telling you that they are because they dont want you to worry. You are on "military time" which means they can tell you tomorrow and it may be next week. You never get a straight answer but in the end the waiting is worth it. With all the bad there is so much good in it as well. I have never been more proud, and never loved my brothers more than I do everyday now that they arent here living life day to day. You remember the little things in life that matter the most ... letters, phone calls, simple "i love you's". You will live for those. I love being in a military family although there are days I wish we could be like "normal" families. We are a select few so stand proud and remember people envy the strength you carry everyday. It takes a special person to keep up and be part of the military family. God Bless

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  Posted by BryanB Mon Nov 9, 2009 10:43am PST

  I am retired and I know you have one of the hardest job thier is good luck and take care ok ;o)I hope we can talk some time... two many question to answer here... but one thing I di know hang around the right pepole it will makke a lot of differance trust me ok

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  Posted by BryanB Mon Nov 9, 2009 10:45am PST

  and listen ok the outher two ladies know what they are talking about ok...love to talk to you any time you want ok... been thier done that !!!

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