My distant mother

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  Posted by my Fri Apr 25, 2008 4:22pm PDT

  as a mother and as a woman that lost her mother very young 13yrs old, i am now 45 i still regret the day i told my mom i hated her and still hold dear to my heart that i hugged my mom and told her i loved her the day she died. i have two daughters and one of them when she was younger we had a very hateful relationship when she was younger, now she is my best friend. so what i am trying to say is that some mother and daughter

  relationships take longer than others and also to say no matter what she is your mom. so maybe you just not talk to her as often and maybe the conversations will be better but for your sake and peace of mind dont cut her out of your life completely because when she is gone it will drive you crazy. i hope this helps you out.

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  Posted by Maria Fri Apr 25, 2008 6:42pm PDT

  It does drive me crazy not talking to her, I don't want to cut her off, but hopefully things will improve if I try talking to her less at first. Thanks for your advice

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  Posted by D-Train Thu May 1, 2008 11:36pm PDT

  Is it possible you and I have the same mother? I've been the same way all my life...the black sheep of the family and nothing's ever good enough. My mother's said some hateful things over the years, we've had many vicious fights and it exploded all over again over the holidays.

  I cut her out of my life and we have not spoken since Christmas Eve. I keep telling myself I don't care, but I think about her everyday. Mostly mad that she does not seem to care I'm no longer a part of her life. She didn't even call for my 30th birthday.

  Sure, she's your mom and all, but every relationship is different. If you're totally at your wits end, I say sever the ties. You'll be less stressed. But be prepared to feel even lower on her priority list of losers than you already do. That part sucks.

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