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Saturday, November 21, 2009

Solo In The City For July 4th

I know this note comes to you on short notice but I am seriously dreading July 4th weekend. Most of my friends will be traveling and somehow it looks as though I will be stuck in the city, solo. Normally, I love being alone on long weekends but for some reason this year I am struggling with the thought of it. I am hoping you can help me out on this one!

SingleEdition.com's Lifestyle Expert Sherri Langburt's Answer:

My immediate response to you is “Why is this year different than any every other year? Yes, I may have borrowed the question from the Passover holiday but it is an important one for you to consider. A personal/professional loss, or some sort of shift in your social world, may be troubling you more than the thought of being alone. I encourage you to dig a little deeper and figure out what is stirring up emotions which are atypical for you.
 
For many single people the struggle is not so much about being alone as it is about feeling left behind or excluded. And that’s when having a plan or a special project will be helpful. Once you build your own list of things to do, your outlook will shift entirely because your focus will not be on everyone else’s whereabouts and doings, it will only be on you.   
 
If ever there was a year when people were “staying put” this would be it. As a result of these tough economic times, staycations are on the rise and many singles, couples and families will be retreating at home come July 4th weekend. The stay-at-home vacation does require some preparation. Here are some do’s and don'ts to consider before taking the time off.

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  • Cynthia's Avatar
    Posted by Cynthia Thu Jul 2, 2009 2:13pm PDT

    I will be solo for the 4th. My family all had plans which is cool. I plan to start the morning off with coffee and begin planning my day. There is a parade nearby and festival-type atmosphere so that's an option. Otherwise, I am just going to let the holiday weekend flow and see what comes up.

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  • KH's Avatar
    Posted by KH Thu Jul 2, 2009 8:51pm PDT

    cici - don't go ...he is old enough to be your father.

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  • A S R's Avatar
    Posted by A S R Fri Jul 3, 2009 1:31am PDT

    I THINK I'LL JUST HOME AND ENJOY THE A.C.WITH MY PETS..............................

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  • Chris's Avatar
    Posted by Chris Fri Jul 3, 2009 1:50am PDT

    where d u live just asking.

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  • Chris's Avatar
    Posted by Chris Fri Jul 3, 2009 1:53am PDT

    hello?

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  • Chris's Avatar
    Posted by Chris Fri Jul 3, 2009 2:06am PDT

    cythina what's your last name/

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  • geraldine's Avatar
    Posted by geraldine Fri Jul 3, 2009 2:51am PDT

    since its very cold i will be in bed the whole weekend

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  • Billy Z's Avatar
    Posted by Billy Z Fri Jul 3, 2009 5:54am PDT

    Wow, people must really be retarded these days if they can't even figure out how to entertain themselves. Do you all need your mommy or something? Sheesh!

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  • CountryFriedChic's Avatar
    Posted by CountryFriedChic Fri Jul 3, 2009 9:32am PDT

    Well the best suggestion that I can give you is that if you were a little more social all the time then whenever it was time for these big events you wouldn't even have to plan anything someone else probaly would have it covered for you. So don't let this holiday get you down, besides all it is, is a way to keep the economy going. Why should one day out of the year be meant for one thing believe the same things all year and don't get caught up in the money scam. Another thing you could find your way to some local event where there are those you don't know and get to know then you will find some friends that stay in town just like you.

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  • Mrs. Carol B's Avatar
    Posted by Mrs. Carol B Fri Jul 3, 2009 10:11am PDT

    It has nothing to do with being "a little more social all the time". I am a very social person; outgoing, friendly, helpful to others at work and I don't get included in their fun nights out, barbeques, etc. I hear them talking about getting together to go to a comedy club and I'm sitting right there. I have barbeques, etc. and invite people over - they come but do they ever invite me to their place; NO. I had a big Mexican-style party one night with couples. Everyone said they had a wonderful time and I have the pics to prove they did. Never got one invite to any of their things. I just quit. It hurts less to expect nothing than to hope in vain. That's the saying I live by now. You are your own best friend. Enjoy your time to yourself. :)

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