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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

The raw feelings of being unemployed

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Unemployment rose to 9.7 percent in August, when another 216,000 jobs disappeared. The numbers are so mind-boggling that it's hard to imagine what people who have found themselves laid off and out of work during this long recession must be going through. Even if you know someone who is looking for work, she may not tell you what she is truly feeling since we all have an innate need to put our best face forward, especially when we are looking for work.

For the past decade, the Heldrich Center for Workforce Development at Rutgers University in New Jersey has been tapping into attitudes about the workplace and, more recently, about being unemployed. In a nationwide survey of 1,200 Americans who have been unemployed and looking for a job for 12 months, the center discovered some pretty raw feelings of hopelessness, worry, and sometimes, depression.

Said one unemployed person surveyed:

"I know I have talent and skill in the profession I am trained in. It is a blow to my self-esteem that
I know I have this skill and it is just so difficult to compete for work in my field. I have already
moved to another state in an attempt to find work, and it’s still a struggle."

And another:

"Being unemployed is frustrating, demeaning and, at this point, frightening. Articles in the paper
say we “baby boomers” will have to work for a few more years especially since so many of us
have lost half if not more in retirement “funds”. Now, you tell me, how can I work for a few more
years if I can’t even get a job interview?!"

Yet another:

"The lack of income and loss of health benefits hurts greatly, but losing the ability to provide for
my wife and myself is killing me emotionally."

Most--82 percent--don't think they will have a new job within the next few months. That could be why so many say they are stressed (77 percent), depressed (68 percent), and feel helpless (61 percent). Money pressures are fierce: 84 percent got no severance pay when they were laid off, while 63 percent have used savings and retirement money to make it through unemployment. Half have no health insurance. Add to this the fact that 60 percent of the unemployed lost their jobs with no advance warning, and 80 percent got two weeks notice, and the emotional impact of being laid off is suddenly very clear. "The jobless have had to
face the fact that their old jobs, incomes, and work identity are gone," said Rutgers Professor Cliff Zukin, co-author of the study. "They are our neighbors, our former colleagues, and they are living in a world of hurt.”

Do the study's findings ring true in your own life, or of experiences of friends and family members who have been or are unemployed during this recession that won't quit?

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  • TasselLady's Avatar
    Posted by TasselLady Tue Sep 8, 2009 6:46pm PDT

    It's frightening to lose a job but especially now. I'm very fortunate that I have mine. I'm eventually looking for a new job, but at least I have one in the time being. It's better than nothing at all. My heart and prayers go out to all who are looking for work. I hope they find it.

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  • JoKTM's Avatar
    Posted by JoKTM Tue Sep 8, 2009 6:56pm PDT

    The longer people are unemployed the more anxious people get. I was unemployed for 4months befoe I was placed on an antianxiety drug.

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  • Jessica's Avatar
    Posted by Jessica Tue Sep 8, 2009 8:03pm PDT

    Go to the gym or buy/rent a work-out video. Believe me when I say exercise will help you keep your sanity. As Elle said (Legally Blonde), "Exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy, happy people don't kill their husbands." Or in our case, happy people don't kill themselves. Take care!

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  • anonymous whatever's Avatar
    Posted by anonymous whatever Tue Sep 8, 2009 8:21pm PDT

    "Unemployment rose to 9.7 percent in August, when another 216,000 jobs disappeared. "

    Since August.. Hmm.. That is not even the beginning of when 6 million people lost their jobs. Between the policies of this administration, the greedy bailed out banks, and illegals. How will anyone find a decent job. It is especially hard for the baby boomers who have an expectation and it just is not happening. If you have been out of work go to a community college and expand your skills. Vo techs could have opportunities for many.

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  • Sheryl's Avatar
    Posted by Sheryl Tue Sep 8, 2009 10:34pm PDT

    Wake up, people. In IL the state budget funding educational grants is still on hold, which means that GED instructors like myself have been unemployed since 06/30. We do not qualify for unemployment because our postions are uninsured! Vo techs and community colleges do not offer instruction for free! People who do not have a high school diploma cannot earn one presently because no classes are being held and you cannot be admitted to a community college without one. DUH?

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  • C's Avatar
    Posted by C Wed Sep 9, 2009 1:10am PDT

    Blaming illegals? Really? Read this: http://www.boston.com/bostonglobe/editorial_opinion/oped/articles/2009/09/06/a_bad_sign___illegal_immigrants_are_leaving/

    And honestly, these problems began during the previous administration, and the previous administration is the one that bailed out the banks. That is not to say that the economic problems we are facing can be pinned on any one administration. They have been years in the making and are due to the general culture of greed that exists in the United States.

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  • countnchickn's Avatar
    Posted by countnchickn Wed Sep 9, 2009 7:07am PDT

    My heart and prayers go out to these people without work. I still have mine to which I thank the sweet Lord above for daily. My husband's hours were cut back for some time and he took a part time job in the chicken plant where I am an Accountant. We are not too proud to do whatever it takes. Thankfully he has been able to leave that after a year and is back to full time. I also realize some people have not had even that option. The only thing I can say is keep your head up and keep keeping on man, in the words of Joe Dirt!

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  • siri's Avatar
    Posted by siri Wed Sep 9, 2009 7:23am PDT

    indiemamacita, You're right in that this just didn't start... I've been working on/off, doing administrative temp work, and have taken county exams for employment in my field. Jobs which btw, I have to pay for $25. each test. The last exam I applied for included Spanish speaking as well so that's $50. I've been doing this on/off for about 4 years now.

    The last job I had - I had to lie in order to apply. And that's by saying I had a car. I used my husbands car to interview clients and then head back to my office. They paid for mileage and gas - which when I quit never received a cent. I worked there for close to 3 mths. having been promised an increase in my pay, which I was later told 30 clients later, I'd have to be there another month or two? I was, according to my employer over qualified, which is why I had so many clients and the numbers climbing by the time I left close to 40. My pay - didn't cover- couldn't even cover my rent. And many of my clients lived all over my county.

    I'm not discouraged though and although I'm currently unemployed do not blame our current administration - that's just absurd. Whoever says this please come walk in my shoes for the last six years. I'll be more than give you a very clear description of every job, every position I've applied for in that time frame. I'm willing to work making whatever - and every position I've applied for is well below what I'm used to earning. I have applied to so many jobs and not one has contacted me. Which is why I end up having to pay for exams. A few of my friends have this theory - are jobs being posted real jobs? Or are they just a way to keep us unemployed busy thinking we're actually getting somewhere? That or the daily emails sending me jobs in other states. No, I never requested out of state employment.

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  • Mrs. Carol B's Avatar
    Posted by Mrs. Carol B Wed Sep 9, 2009 7:53am PDT

    My hubby is home at our choice. He was needing surgery and we decided he should not work instead. I support the family as a Registered Nurse and am happy to do so. He often tells me how he misses the interaction with other co-workers. Not that we had alot of friends we hung out with from his job but now he only gets interaction at the store, library, my grandson's school (he joined the PTO). We are each others best friend and that's great but I know how he feels when I have too many days off from work. It's different.

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  • Mrs. Carol B's Avatar
    Posted by Mrs. Carol B Wed Sep 9, 2009 7:57am PDT

    There are employers who'll place an ad looking for job applicants "just to see whose out there" and keep their current employees guessing as to who's leaving. I worked for one of these employers and caught on to what he was doing. He was not a very nice man. It never hurts to ask to see the "job description of the actual job opening" and if they won't provide one there is "no job opening."

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