User post: The New Face of SAHMS—STUCK-at-Home Moms

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  Posted by ♥YogurtLover♥™ Wed Oct 14, 2009 11:20am PDT

  I'm a stay-at-homer too. I feel strangled. I do it for the kids, for the sanity and efficiency of my household, but I feel like I am lacking something major in my life and it makes me a bit resentful.

  Most of my conversations in any given day are on an 9 and 11 year old level.

  Did I mention my dogs are now my very best friends with the cat coming in pretty close behind?

  I can't tell you how sick I am of doing laundry, dishes, sweeping, mopping, scrubbing, running carpool, going grocery shopping all ALONE with NO HELP - because THIS is MY JOB! I feel like a dried-up, taken advantage of, unappreciated maid.

  And then I read these jerks telling me I am NOTHING but a lazy person because I don't work. I bet most working couples split household chores. BUT as I said.... THESE are considered MY DUTIES.

  Several times a week, I find the kids laundered and clean clothes, thrown haphazardly and lazily back in the hamper, stuffed among dirty and smelly clothes. Of course they get washed, dried and folded AGAIN.

  Buy me a vacuum or another crock-pot for Christmas or my birthday and I just might blow your face off.

  That's my rant. I need to go check my load of laundry now, since the floors are swept......

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  Posted by Kristy Wed Oct 14, 2009 11:45am PDT

  I about spit out my luke-warm coffee! You are HILARIOUS. I got a broccoli steamer for Christmas a few years ago, so I feel your pain. Why aren't you writing? I tried to follow you.

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  Posted by ♥YogurtLover♥™ Wed Oct 14, 2009 11:59am PDT

  Thanks, Kristy! I just took down my blogs.

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  Posted by ♥YogurtLover♥™ Wed Oct 14, 2009 12:41pm PDT

  I started a blog............

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  Posted by springtime Wed Oct 14, 2009 12:50pm PDT

  There's that old saying, " If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."

  You can't do it all. But you should carve out some time for yourself or for lunch with gal pals. And don't talk about the kids! There should be life after children. There's no reason why Daddy can't watch the kids for a couple of hours on Saturday or Sunday.

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  Posted by melissa Mon Oct 19, 2009 6:58am PDT

  As a former SAHM and now a divorced, single, full-time working Mom of three...I wish I was a SAHM again! Trust me, there are pros and cons to both, but as I've found...I now do all that I did when I stayed home in addition to working 40+ hours a week...by myself. SAHM definatly need some big girl time. Take an hour or so a day or even within the week to meet with other women (for lunch, book club, coffee, something). I actually started a Mary Kay business when I stayed at home and that was my sanity back then! It put me within a group of other women like myself, gave me something other than chores and kids to focus on, and I was able to contribute financially at least to some bills, which gave me a feeling of worth. If your kids are school aged, I also worked part time and that was great too. Home to get kids on and off the bus, and at work making money, and dealing with adults, while they were at school.

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  Posted by cindy Mon Oct 19, 2009 7:07am PDT

  I could go on a rant of being a full time working mom(outside the home) and feeling like the house is never clean (even though my husband does alot) and feeling like I dont spend enough time with my child, and he cries because he is unhappy at daycare, etc. But I won't....

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  Posted by Kristen Mon Oct 19, 2009 7:42am PDT

  Oh, YogurtLover - I could just kiss you! You are right on the money! Let me add though, please don't suggest, "big girl time (I'm not 10), or a book club". Frankly, I don't want to join a book club or sell Mary Kay!

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  Posted by Raynie8 Mon Oct 19, 2009 7:44am PDT

  It is interesting that we now have the internet to share these feelings. I wonder if back in say the 70's when my mom was a SAHM if she felt this way or just did it because times were different and there wasn't much exposure to this need for acknowledgement or liberation. There was no "mom confessions" and the like to identify with, ya know?

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  Posted by Robyn Mon Oct 19, 2009 10:04am PDT

  im in the mix with you women, for the past year ive been a sahm, i now have a part time job at a preschool wich i am so thankful for( just wish i could be more then an assistant , that i =what i went to school for) but at them same time i have my daughter with me all day. (she comes to work for free which is really nice but guess who gets to do everything in the house.... (points to self ). for all sahm if your looking fro a job or even just something to get out of the house you can putt his down on your application or resume....

  1: self organized ( i mean how else are gonna get the house clean with out being organized)

  2: self motivated, always looking for things that need to done ( above comment)

  3: extremely patient ( if you haven't blown up at anyone yet your patient)

  4: hard worker ( duh)

  5: great people skills ( if you can get down on a child's level and speak to them and understand

  what they need you can do it with adults, just might want leave out certain

  sayings )

  6: not afraid to get dirty

  if you can think of more go ahead and add them my 3 yr old is wanting me to sing with her

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