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Thursday, December 3, 2009

Your work is likely suffering if you work for a rude boss

At one of my past jobs I worked for someone I consider a truly toxic person. He would go out of his way to make people feel bad, embarrassed, insecure, and he would often talk about doing this intentionally. “I like to put people off-balance and see how they react,” he would say.

Once I’d made a mistake in a document we had to send out. I’d emailed him the document to review and instead of emailing me back to let me know about the mistake, he forwarded the document to our client, with the mistake in it, saying that I’d authored it and if they had any comments, to get back to us. When the client responded, they pointed out the mistake and my boss came into my office to tell me that he knew it was in there, but he didn’t correct it because he wanted to me to learn from the embarrassment of my mistake. (I don’t cry at the office, as a rule, but I came close that day.)

I hated having him as a boss and I was always in a state of anticipation of something nasty he would say to me. I felt it made me less productive and it definitely contributed to my negative feelings about that job. So I was glad to read this post from two workplace experts about a recent study about the negative effects of bosses’ rudeness on employee performance. Apparently the anticipation of rudeness, as well as the actual acts of rudeness, make employees less effective at what they do.

Have you worked for a rude boss? How did it affect your job performance and job satisfaction?

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  • First L's Avatar
    Posted by First L Mon Apr 21, 2008 5:52am PDT

    what a nightmare. I hope when you left that position, you let Personnell know of your boss's antics. That truly is the only revenge is regaling the exit interviewer with your work history...

    I've learned to recognize the signs and move on quickly...

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  • Rae's Avatar
    Posted by Rae Tue Apr 22, 2008 7:17am PDT

    Oh yeah! I have worked for a rude employer. The prob for me is that you can't take to personnel because they don't do anything anyways! They are sometimes just as bad as the offender.

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    Posted by miruskee_78 Tue Apr 22, 2008 11:25am PDT

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  • Beth's Avatar
    Posted by Beth Tue Apr 22, 2008 1:23pm PDT

    I have worked with a few bosses that are very sexist and thus do not think woman should be in charge and continue to use i'm a mother aganist me as i'm very open that my child comes before the job but i'm a hell of a worker. I find that the older i get the more i'm intune with my feelings and letting them know they are wrong. I beleive in my values and just left a job from a toxic boss who I trained him in his job but the sexist supervisor didn't want a female in charge but its ok to train him. Whatever! i've moved on to bigger and better things. speak up for your self........no one deserves to be treated like this.

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  • keith d's Avatar
    Posted by keith d Tue Apr 22, 2008 3:12pm PDT

    I work with a person that holds the title as boss.I know for sure that she will do anything to bring u down.She sit there an act like she cares and all the time she not telling the truth.I work in the madical field,and it is surpose to be a faith base hospital. she will not hire a black nurse a blackperson.You mean to tell me that a black person that has nursing under their belt that they do not fit the bill.this town Alexandria La. her name is jo and she is ab----

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  • stephaniem's Avatar
    Posted by stephaniem Wed Apr 23, 2008 3:04am PDT

    I used to work for a woman who took pleasure in bullying people. In the two and a half years I worked for her I became really low. No matter how hard I tried to report her, nothing happened, I didn't feel heard by anyone in welfare or HR. I eventually moved out (sideways move) she wouldn't support me for promotion believing I wasn't "good enough".

    In reality, people like this are jealous of who we are and what we represent. They only wish to bring us down to their level and the only way not to look at their own bad "stuff" is to make others feel bad.

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  • C's Avatar
    Posted by C Wed Apr 23, 2008 4:57am PDT

    Been there, done that. Not a thing you can do if its a small company and HR is the same bully boss' wife. Left for bigger and better (they even did me a favor - cut my entire department one week before I was planning on walking out, insurance reasons were the only reason I stayed, so I received unemployment to boot) and have watched that firm slowly implode.

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  • keith d's Avatar
    Posted by keith d Wed Apr 23, 2008 6:07am PDT

    dooley50.Iknow this woman u are right this person has no respect for blacks or the people she has working for her i am white I would not work for her at gun point .alex la. her name is jo

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  • Beth's Avatar
    Posted by Beth Wed Apr 23, 2008 6:21am PDT

    I had a toxic boss at one of my previous jobs. She took pleasure in making people feel small. I didn't cower at the sound of her voice so I didn't last long, even though I tried my best to do the full time job, and two part time jobs that she assigned for me. When I caved and said I am not able to do all of that in a 40 hour week, they actually hired someone to take off some of the load. So I trained her, then 2 weeks later I was "let go" right before I was to have surgery. I also try to make it a rule not to cry at work, but that was just too frustrating to deal with.

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  • CandiceL's Avatar
    Posted by CandiceL Wed Apr 23, 2008 6:53pm PDT

    Oh god, my loser ex took like three years to get over me. Thank god he found someone and stopped obsessing over me.

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