I need help with something. I work at a huge company as an Assistant to a VP. My job requires me to keep a lot of things that I hear totally confidential, i.e. salary info, job changes, etc. I completely understand that and keep all things work related under wraps. Within the last year though, some not-so-work-related “stuff” started being brought to my attention. A woman that I work with told me about an affair she is having with one of my boss’s direct reports. He is a married man with two teenage children and he and this woman at my work have been living a secret life together for the last 18 months. As if that is not enough, this woman already has a reputation of being the office whore, as she has admittedly slept with several other men (and women).
I am a married woman of 7 years and I value and respect the relationship I have with my husband so much. I think for my co-worker to tell me this information without expecting me to react is absurd. I told her she is a home-wrecker and what she is doing is wrong, but she just laughs about it. ARGH!!
So, like I said my co-worker has built up quite a reputation for herself. She is known for being able to get whatever she wants in the workplace because she pouts her lip or does a “sexy” walk. She is NOT even cute by the way!! Anyway, in recent months I’ve been made aware of certain other things she is getting away with (and her boss condones all this)… she racks up huge tabs at the airport bar and expenses it all through the company… when her married boyfriend travels to our area office, he checks in to a local hotel, but then doesn’t stay there—instead he stays with her at her house while our company pays for him to…She apparently had a nervous breakdown last week because she doesn’t see her kids enough while she travels (yes, she has two kids—thankfully not custody though), so get this… the CIO told her to start bringing her kids while she travels during the summer -- ON THE COMPANY DOLLAR! Like, is she sleeping with him now too?
As if the above mentioned stuff isn’t bothersome enough, she and her corrupt boss pull a lot of other shenanigans around here. Apparently they think they are the most important people around here and so far, they’ve been getting away with it. Wasting money, ordering lunches every day on the company’s dollar, rewarding themselves with extravagant gifts—from Tiffanys!!? Hello??
My dilemma is this—should I expose them for the weasels they are or just keep all this info inside and not say a word? Oh, and I may sound like a jealous person, just by how I am coming off… but I’m really not. In addition to me being mad at the fact that there are people out there that lead their personal lives like this, there are people I work with getting laid off and entire departments that are cutting costs. But the corrupt people I share office space with are gallivanting and spending company dollars like it’s in style. What should I do???
Workplace drama. I need advice!
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Posted by Tue Jul 1, 2008 12:11pm PDT
Report AbuseLet me start off by saying that is alot to deal with. I feel and this is only my opinion, I want to start off by saying she should have never told you that. Sense she did you and you have to deal with what was told to you, you should transfer to another office or fined a new job if this is possible. What this women is doing in the dark will come to the light and if you say something you well sound like a hater. I know what they are doing is wrong but some people just are not honest and when you are doing wrong it will come back to you. You may think why should I have to think about leaving because you sound like the better person. Or you could take a different appoach and say for get and just and just be that Hater and tell, but if you do that you have to look at all avenues and be very professional about your hole appoarch and see how this well affect you if you speak on what was told to you. Remember this is only an opinion. I hope it helps in some kind of way. If all else fails Pray on it...
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Posted by Tue Jul 1, 2008 1:01pm PDT
Report AbuseThat's horrible! I thin you should either tell someone or, like Tay suggested, get transferred or find another job. That's unfair to you (and to the rest of your co- workers).
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Posted by Tue Jul 1, 2008 1:31pm PDT
Report AbuseUnless that corrupt boss owns 51% of this company, then he has a higher boss. All companies have accountants to make certain billings are accurate. At some point, someone is going to flag and question those lunches and Tiffany gifts. It will happen, and the fur will fly. For now, avoid that woman like the plague and just do your job. You don't want to down with the Titanic.
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Posted by Tue Jul 1, 2008 6:17pm PDT
Report AbuseGirl leave it alone. Because this may cause your job, when you try to be miss right you always end up loosing. Remember the truth will always come out to light,Can i get an Amen.
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Posted by Wed Jul 2, 2008 4:32am PDT
Report AbuseAmen! This could be a trick to see if you blab then it's your tail! People will always get what is coming to them, eventually. Let it be. Focus on you and your work.
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Posted by Wed Jul 2, 2008 5:09am PDT
Report AbuseHI THIS IS DINESH,SEE IN OUR LIFE SEX IS NOT ONLY THING AND FRIENDS ,RELATIONSHP IS IMPORTAT, JUST THESE ALL TO MAKE LIFE INTREST, IF LOSE SOME ONE AND MAKE SOME ,INTHIS WORLD WE HAVE SO MANY PEOPLE,OK BYE............I NEED I SEE FOR SOME HELP FROM SOME ONE I AM WORKING IN ANIMATION COMPANY ,IN INDIA ,AS I AM WORKING IN THIS COMPANY I HAVE LOT OF CONCEPTS IN MY MIND ,I WANT TO DO SHORT FILM IN LIVE ACTION, I AM FROM VERY POOR FAMILY IF ANY BADY CAN HELP ME I CAN SHOW WHAT IS MY TALLENT.....IF U HAVE ANY TO HELP ME PLESE GIVE MY MAIL ADDRES DINIKUMAR@YAHOO.COM
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Posted by Wed Jul 2, 2008 5:09am PDT
Report AbuseHI THIS IS DINESH,SEE IN OUR LIFE SEX IS NOT ONLY THING AND FRIENDS ,RELATIONSHP IS IMPORTAT, JUST THESE ALL TO MAKE LIFE INTREST, IF LOSE SOME ONE AND MAKE SOME ,INTHIS WORLD WE HAVE SO MANY PEOPLE,OK BYE............I NEED I SEE FOR SOME HELP FROM SOME ONE I AM WORKING IN ANIMATION COMPANY ,IN INDIA ,AS I AM WORKING IN THIS COMPANY I HAVE LOT OF CONCEPTS IN MY MIND ,I WANT TO DO SHORT FILM IN LIVE ACTION, I AM FROM VERY POOR FAMILY IF ANY BADY CAN HELP ME I CAN SHOW WHAT IS MY TALLENT.....IF U HAVE ANY TO HELP ME PLESE GIVE MY MAIL ADDRES DINIKUMAR@YAHOO.COM
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Posted by Wed Jul 2, 2008 6:46am PDT
Report AbuseThanks everyone!! I think I may keep my mouth shut. It's true-- what goes around comes around. Hopefully that will happen to this skank. Why is it taking fooorever though...? ;o)
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Posted by Wed Jul 2, 2008 9:55am PDT
Report AbuseOk, I will be the one to disagree with all the rest which can be me at times. Granted, getting involved with the affair stuff may be a lot more trouble than you think. The company money on the other hand is a whole other issue. You are in a high position yourself which tells me you handle a lot and have to be pretty clever yourself. If just letting it be doesn't get you to sleep at night, try coming up with a way to bring the money issue to light without standing in the middle of the office youself with the receipts in hand. If these morons can hide it so easily, I bet you could expose it without exposing yourself as well. Sometimes we let it be and we can live with that, and other times we to be the ones to get things changing. Weigh your options, and in the end do what you can live with and be proud of. Good luck!! :)
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Posted by Sat Jul 5, 2008 1:58pm PDT
Report Abuseok penny12, here's the deal. I was an assistant store manager for a Fortune 500 department store. I had found out some things within a year that really upset me. Passing the buck, people having sex at work, and worst of all fraud. You could could think that I could go to my boss about it, but I couldn't because he was the big man on campus and was also participating in some of these events himself. If I had exposed them it would mean my job since I was the minority. It came to a point where I was the only one working and everyone would take credit for the hard work that I did alone! I finally realized that we have a wonderful thing called Human Resources which has privacy and protections to back you, if you wanted to give information anonymously. I hated that after the invetigation I was the only manager left because everyone including my boss, was fired. It took at good six months to get back to where the company needed to be, but because of my whistle blowing, the company save over 2 million dollars the following year! If you have loyalty to the company, it will have loyalty to you.
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