Sometimes privacy can be tricky. If a persons life is involved... of course the answer of yes to snooping. Because snooping can far out weigh the issue of privacy. However, the trick is to handle the situation in a manner that is best for all parties. (children,etc)
Ex: If you discover your spouse is cheating, put it on the table and BY ALL MEANS CONFRONT THEM ABOUT IT. Running away will always leave doubt about what if I would have stuck it out and then they might have changed. Now sometimes to keep from hurting each other and to invest in the trust factor again... some distance from each other might suffice. Even if one of you state to leave the other alone, CONTINUE to try and call and talk or meet daily for a walk in the park, a movie, coffee, or a walk on the beach, unless one party THREATENS A RESTRAINING ORDER. Perhaps a real date in a hotel away from all of the problems in the world can sometimes straighten out a lot of things. This is where it can prove to both parties that their relationship was or was not meant to be. After all, you probably did this when you courted. This sometimes can breath life back into something that became boring. It might help the parties to realize what happened. But make sure to put some type of counseling (marriage) back into the equation. A neutral party can sometimes be quite enlightening to everybody. I guess this sort of explains a persons return back into a somewhat abusive situation. But do place limits on the scenario. No Hitting each other,etc. If LOVE was present in the beginning... it will be there when you need it at the end to, regardless to the decision of to make up or break up. MOST IMPORTANT... KEEP YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS OUT OF IT. (THIS IS WHERE THE COUNSELOR CAN PROVE QUITE BENEFICIAL)
