DEAR MARGO: For more than a year, I have been dating an emergency room doctor who works with her ex-fiance. She knew he was not right for her and left him over two years ago. He admitted many infidelities throughout his life and even now is dating another person in the practice. I am not the jealous type, but recently she admitted that a few months ago they spent time together at his house around his pool and in his bedroom "watching movies," though I was told she picked up an extra shift. He was supposedly going through a hard time and of course wanted her back. She tells me nothing happened, but admits lying to me. She promised to take a lie detector test, but now has backed out and says I should believe her without a test. We do love each other and had planned to marry, but we are now in a standoff. She's hurt that I don't believe her, and I am hurt that she ever saw him and not totally convinced of her fidelity. Where do you see this going?
--- TEXAS GUY
DEAR TEX: I have some reservations about a romance, let alone an engagement, where the words "lie detector" come up. You need to decide whether you believe her, and I guess that would come from a gut feeling. If only for the sake of determining how you feel, tell her you'd like to put this all behind you and see if you can get back to where you were. Putting aside the old bf and the bedroom movies, you will be in a better position to evaluate your instincts about her fidelity. If you find you are unable to put it back together, that's an answer, too.
--- MARGO, EXPLORATORILY
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