Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Have not been around much, so here's what's going on!!

Hello dear shine friends. I have not really been on alot lately, so i thought  i better let  everyone know what's up.

My husband started drinking heavily again and i have been really pushed to the limit. I have kicked him out of the house, had to for my own safety. He's still bothering me via the phone. I have taken steps i need to for me and the kids.

I have been a bundle of nerves and have been quite depressed. Yesterday i took a "me" day and decided that this is not the way i am going to live anymore. I have decided after 18 long years of marriage, to file for divorce. It has not been an easy decision to make, but i know that my husband is not willing to change and i cannot and will not live with the violence again. It's just not worth it and i feel in my heart i have lots of living left to do.

Many of you have sent me encouraging e-mails and i am so lucky to have such good friends. I am sorry if i have seemed distant to anyone, that was not my intention. I just was not much good company for anybody.

I have missed so many of you and i hope each and everyone of you are doing well!

I look foward to hearing from everyone!!

SF

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  • Habanero♥™'s Avatar
    Posted by Habanero♥™ Sun Sep 20, 2009 4:26pm PDT

    Lovely...you are doing the right thing and don't second guess yourself. You have endured years of this crap. Run, do not walk, from this man and do not look back.

    ♥You know how strong you are!!!!♥

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  • ♥~♥MaggieRed♥~♥'s Avatar
    Posted by ♥~♥MaggieRed♥~♥ Sun Sep 20, 2009 4:28pm PDT

    hi STRAIGHT FOWARD

    It's me MAGGIE RED ☺

    LOTS OF LOVE & PRAYERS to You & your teens, MY SISTER .

    IM SORRY I HAVE NOT BEEN HERE FOR YOU :(

    God is awesome!!!! GOD is here for us ,24/7!!!!!! I too have been battling with Satan and a husband who is also adicted to alcohol.

    :)WE WILL PROSPER!!!

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  • LADY-JANE's Avatar
    Posted by LADY-JANE Sun Sep 20, 2009 4:33pm PDT

    HUGE HUGZZZZZZZZZZZ FOR YOU :o)

    I UNDERSTAND AND LOVE YOU ~ ~ ~

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  • Kendra's Avatar
    Posted by Kendra Sun Sep 20, 2009 5:09pm PDT

    You're doing the right thing, my dear, I feel for you. You're a strong woman, and will get thru this. I wish you nothing but the best!

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  • Super Abuelita's Avatar
    Posted by Super Abuelita Sun Sep 20, 2009 5:11pm PDT

    Lovely,

    Know that we are here for you. You are in our hearts and prayers. We are in this together. "As weak as I was then, is how strong I am now." Remember, you are loved and being watched by God.

    Super A

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  • jax.rebel's Avatar
    Posted by jax.rebel Sun Sep 20, 2009 5:36pm PDT

    Thanks for coming down to my place. And look. You got to do what you got to do. You got to take care of yourself. I grew up with a drunk father so I know what it's like. Good luck to ya. Stay in touch.

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  • J Montana™'s Avatar
    Posted by J Montana™ Sun Sep 20, 2009 5:49pm PDT

    I have been through a divorce. I feel your pain, hunny.

    You can call me anytime that you want to.

    I love ya!

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  • Mrs. Carol B's Avatar
    Posted by Mrs. Carol B Mon Sep 21, 2009 7:55am PDT

    Thank you for stopping by, LovelyLady. I am doing as well as I expected. The left wrist was easier but the right one had other problems from when I was a kid so it's not going as smoothly. But, like I said it's what I expected.

    Sorry to hear you are going through a divorce. It is never easy. I divorced my 1st husband after 22 yrs. of being emotionally abused. It still wasn't EASY. If knowing that I survived and went on to meet and marry a wonderful REAL MAN who had never tried to change me, stop me from doing anything I want, sent me to Nursing School to fulfill my dream of becoming a nurse, and has just been the absolute greatest friend I could ever have - if this helps you then I'm glad to have shared it with you. You said you have Shine friends you email. If you chat with Mama Kaye, Emma Mae, or Irish and would like to email me then please ask one of them for my email address or have them send me yours. You are not alone. I would never try to tell you what to do but pass on information and tell you what has worked for me and others like me who've been in similar situations to arm you with knowledge and the strength you need to make your own decisions. Take care of yourself.

    Hope your week is starting out peacefully. :)

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  • Sarah Y's Avatar
    Posted by Sarah Y Mon Sep 21, 2009 8:47am PDT

    Hey Straight,

    I am sorry that you are going through all of that, but you sound really strong. I will pray that God continues to give you strength. There is always a reason for everything that happens in our lives. Just take it one day at a time and try not to worry about the future.

    My prayers are with you.

    Love,

    Sarah

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  • m@r!@'s Avatar
    Posted by m@r!@ Mon Sep 21, 2009 9:33am PDT

    Hi Straight,

    You know I get this 100%. I am here for you just like you've always been here for me. I'm sorry for your pain but you are kickin A$$ by putting your children & yourself first.

    I just might be next...

    Love you, woman. You WILL get through this. And you are NEVER alone

    (((hugs)))

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