How to stop spinning your wheels in Love

How to Stop Spinning Your Wheels in Love
by Dr. Lara Fernandez

I got off the phone yesterday with a friend who reminds me of my past self. She has experienced success in her career and is respected by her colleagues, has all the work she could ask for and leisure time to enjoy the rewards of success.

But there's something very wrong. She was exhausted and frustrated with the direction her love life has gone. She told me she just didn't know if she "has what it takes" to be in a healthy, loving committed relationship and that maybe God just has different plans for her than she thought around love. She's been dating and dating and getting into various monogamous relationships, none of which worked out very well. Actually, several of them recently ended very painfully. My heart went out to her, I've been there.

I call this the "spinning your wheels" syndrome. It happens when you find yourself constantly running on the hamster wheel of your love life. Only to realize that when you "get" to where you think you want to go ( yet another relationship), it's not what you had envisioned. The experience falls flat in comparison to what you thought it would be. Where is the bliss? Where is the freedom? Where is the joy from this person you love so much? These are all very good questions.

And, here are three steps you can take immediately that'll help you get off the never-ending "merry go round" and enjoy more ease in your life. These are the very steps I took to shift things in my life to a place where I truly loved my life, and got to now love it with my soulmate Johnny in it

Step 1: Create Your Personal Definition of Success in love

When it comes to experiencing success in love, so often we see that definition being (according to the external world) solely about just having someone to call your husband or wife or even just getting a date.

I believe that you can get a date. Anytime, anyplace. Right now, you could get on the Internet and "hook-up" with someone within 24 hours. You could probably find an "okay" relationship within a year and end up in a committed relationship that's just okay.

This is why it's so important as you look at defining (or re-defining) success in love for yourself, that you look at the entire picture of your life with you connected with your soulmate.

Here are some things to consider as you contemplate this... that go beyond just getting into another relationship. Who is the type of person that would make your heart and soul just sing? How do you want to spend your life with him or her? How can you expand your expectations for your love life in a healthy way? What kind of support do you need in place right now to help you experience your definition of success in love? How involved and invested are you (with your time, your energy, and your money) in the process of doing the inner personal growth work that will magnetize your soulmate to you? How will you feel when you're with your sweetie?

These are all questions to consider as you define what real success in love means to you. You'll see that this journey to your soulmate is about much more than "getting a date" or "finding a relationship"... it's about you being more YOU at your highest vibration and it's about fulfillment, peace of mind, and joy in your life...NOW (which is a huge part of your magnetizing POWER!).

Join me next week as I explain the 2nd step to stop spinning your wheels in love!


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