I want him to like me, I honestly do, I just can't....

  There's this guy in my grade. I'm a freshman in High School. I swear, Connor is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. His blue eyes just sparkle when he smiles. And he's suuch a sweet kid. We're pretty good friends. We chat alot, I have his number (I'm not gonna lie we make fun of the attention desperate, flamboyant gay kids) and I really, really like him.

 The first time I laid eyes on him, I was like s---, that guy's hot, and then I realized I had 4 out of 7 classes with him, and I sit relatively close to him in all of them. We started talking and we really clicked.

 So about Connor... He's kind of a jock. He was one of the only 3 freshman on the varsity hockey team, he's gorgeous as heck and pretty popular, but he's still really nice and talks to me all the time. He can be a jerk when he's showing off, but just being himself he's an absolute sweet heart and I completely trust him.

 I'm not popular. I'm not some shy non social freak. I'm in the middle I guess. I'm real good friends with some of the very popular girls, and I'm friends with the non popular girls. I guess I'm average. I'm decent looking. All my friends are like damn girl your so pretty don't even worry about it. And it's not that I'm fishing for compliments, I just don't know what they see. I have straight brown hair, big green eyes, clear skin, shaped eye brows, long eye lashes and I'm good at my make up. I'm pretty thin but my boobs are only B cups, and I'm not that curvy, I wish I was though

So anyway about Connor. I like him so much. I'm not even gonna lie I've never liked a guy this much in my entire life. I pray for him every night, to make sure he's well and happy. In religion when we are supposed to think of God, I think of him. And late at night I listen to my ipod. I actually have a whole playlist of songs dedicated to how I feel about this guy. I love him. Not in a creepy way or an obsessed way. It's just, when he walks by, he's so flawless and perfect. And he's got this light about him I can't even explain it. And he's so god damn beautiful.

So he just broke up with his girlfriend, Megan. She lived in his town, so I never met her (we go to a private school and live in different towns). But, knowing him, she was probably beautiful just like him, and she was probably real sexy, because he only deserves the best. Well they broke up, I don't know who broke up with who though.

I know I don't have a chance. At least I don't think I do. He's always talking with his friend Brian about girls in math class. I don't really know the specifics but I hear a few erratic words like she, boobs, big, hot, my house, your house, hot girl, and I just know he's talking about the luckiest girl in the world. I just kind of wish he would see how much I love him, and that I'd do absolutely anything for him. I'd brake my back for that kid.

My problem, is I flirt, and I guess it's real obvious that I like him (hah but he's oblivious to that fact), but I'm terrified of rejection. I've had quite a few humiliating moments from being outright rejected in the rudest way and the last thing I want to jeprodize is my friendship with Connor. The thing is though, he never really texts me. I have to text him first (though he did get my number from one of my friends, desperately needing to know what the history homework was even though he's got a bunch of friends in my class). But I don't know. I've never had a boyfriend before so I can't even contemplate having a guy I like, like me. And I don't even know what he looks for in girls. I know he thinks singing is hot and I'm damn good at that (but he doesn't know I sing I'm going to surprise pretty much the whole school on April 3rd theres an in school concert and it's a song that I rock at!!!!) And he thinks its cool that I play guitar, but I feel like, there are such prettier, popular girls who like him who he could go out with, why would he settle for me?

The thought that he might actually like me is gradually waning. But maybe theirs still hope? And tips? Advice?? I really need it!!!

Thanks :)
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  • *GoldenGirl*™'s Avatar
    Posted by *GoldenGirl*™ Thu Mar 12, 2009 8:25am PDT

    Sounds like for now he just thinks of you as a friend, and you cant force him to have feelings for you just because you have them for him, I dotn think your feelign "love" you are feeling "lust" "admiration" but you are not in love with him, mostly because to be in "love" it has to go both ways and be returned from him, your not even dating, your not even "hanging out" so just chill out and try to focus on someone who will return your feelings, at your age boys come and go each week, if he hasnt made a move or flirted back, chances are he isnt going to, he just doesnt see you as girlfriend potential sounds like, but there may be another nice boy who does. Good Luck.

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  • Zeng's Avatar
    Posted by Zeng Fri Mar 13, 2009 8:11am PDT

    a freshman ,ur emotional language reduced many of the audience to tears.i just want to say,U will win his heart by ur gallantry.i have no more chance to to be in touch with foreigner like U ,i am a student of china.this is the first time rhat i browse the web page.

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  • LifeMAXX's Avatar
    Posted by LifeMAXX Sun Mar 15, 2009 5:30am PDT

    JUST WAIT FOR A PARTICULAR TIME... IN GENERAL, EVERYONE BECOMES SAD OR BLUE SOMETIMES. YOU HAVE TO BE WITH HIM IN HIS BAD TIMES.

    THIS WILL SURE MAKE HIM REALIZE THAT YOU'RE DIFFERENT AND SPECIAL. THIS TACTIC NEVER FAILS. I BET

    BEST OF LUCK!

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  • Matthew's Avatar
    Posted by Matthew Mon Mar 16, 2009 9:46pm PDT

    Hi! My names Matthew. I'm going to think up some advice for you since it's such a tough place to be where you are at and I've sort of been there myself!

    First of all -.- you're worried about telling him that you are interested in him. Worried that perhaps he won't feel the same about you, and that it will damage your friendship. I can say only from personal experience that I've never had a friendship get worse by professing I was interested in a person... in fact, even though sometimes whoever I told doesn't feel the same way about me, they have all been flattered and some of the time even felt the same way but had just been unsure of how to tell me themselves.

    In other words... it couldn't hurt. Be sure not to tell him you have an entire ipod playlist devoted to him if he doesn't reciprocate the same feelings though - because *that* will potentially damage your friendship;)

    I've got a feeling that he will be more than happy to be with you... guys that age think almost ever girl is pretty or cute in their own way. I remember pretty much ANYONE who wasn't just obviously ugly when I was 16 I thought was cute. Hormones are a trip haha, and honestly they are probably why you think about him so much as well. But enough of the Discovery Channel crap, huh?

    All in all I guess my advice is to tell him that you think he's cute and ask if he is interested in doing something sometime... don't get caught up in all of that traditional sexist crap of the guy having to ask the girl out... believe me... the sooner you get over that load of **** the sooner you will be going out with guys like Connor.

    I hope you take my advice and of course! Good Luck!

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  • stacey's Avatar
    Posted by stacey Fri Apr 3, 2009 11:48am PDT

    well sounds like to me more of a crush than love you can't be in love when you have never been with the guy....but i think that u should find some courage and ask him out or tell him how you feel but try not to come off so strong you might scare him away but good luck!

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  • Andrea's Avatar
    Posted by Andrea Tue Aug 4, 2009 10:22am PDT

    DAmn i can really relate to you!

    we are like in the same situation..except

    i've liked this guy since elementary..and i

    think i've waited too long to tell him now!

    ...just be confident in yourself!

    thats wat im working on :)

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