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  Posted by graylady Thu Jul 31, 2008 9:09pm PDT

  Don't you even think about suicide,you have alot going for you,you have an aunt that loves you enough to try to protect you from a boyfriend that provoked her by doing something to her girl she didn't like.You are doing alot better than most,alot of people can't afford to go to clubs.You were just hit by alot of stuff that you have to work thru.You got a whole life ahead of you so kick yourself into gear and make the most of it.

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  Posted by Kat Fri Aug 1, 2008 8:52am PDT

  Dude. Your family sounds like a mafia! Is there any way you can sit down with the Aunt and your parents and talk open and honestly about what's really going on? They should know that their selfish behaviors are causing you personal trauma. However, you wanting to die because of that is just stupid (sorry, but it is!). You should go out and find your own life to live and let those silly parents of yours grow up a bit before they get to have you back in their life!

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  Posted by tcon402001 Fri Aug 1, 2008 9:00am PDT

  Dearest Confused,

  I am writing to you to help try and get you through these trying times. SUICIDE is not an answer!!!! It's not even an ESCAPE!!!! It's an unknown sense of closure, but, no one can prove it will get better after that, wew have no idea what else might be waiting out there afterwards. Might be a whole lot worse than what you have now. And as a mother who was very very young when I had my 4 children ( I was under 19 for 2 out of the 4) I can only try to explain the reasons your mother may have held back information or even omitted it. She most certainly wanted you to love and respect her. She wanted to spare you any ill natured things she may have done in the past because she already knew those errors of judgement were in the past and didnt want you burdened with the knowledge of her mistakes. I agree with you though she should not have lied to you about your father. But I sense she also may have been very young at the time and she is also human and humans are prone to error by nature. Sounds more like she wanted you to think highly of her. Not as a deceptive cheat but as a loving nurturing mother. Try to forgive her discresions and try and re-bond with her and your father. Don't runaway!!! Take hold of the reins and move slowly and cautiously to regain and reconstruct your relationships. Make them all new and all better than ever. Use the newly found info to strengthen your spirit and use it to avoid making the same errors. I will pray you are blessed with the strength to get through this safe and sound.

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  Posted by tcon402001 Fri Aug 1, 2008 9:01am PDT

  Dearest Confused,

  I am writing to you to help try and get you through these trying times. SUICIDE is not an answer!!!! It's not even an ESCAPE!!!! It's an unknown sense of closure, but, no one can prove it will get better after that, wew have no idea what else might be waiting out there afterwards. Might be a whole lot worse than what you have now. And as a mother who was very very young when I had my 4 children ( I was under 19 for 2 out of the 4) I can only try to explain the reasons your mother may have held back information or even omitted it. She most certainly wanted you to love and respect her. She wanted to spare you any ill natured things she may have done in the past because she already knew those errors of judgement were in the past and didnt want you burdened with the knowledge of her mistakes. I agree with you though she should not have lied to you about your father. But I sense she also may have been very young at the time and she is also human and humans are prone to error by nature. Sounds more like she wanted you to think highly of her. Not as a deceptive cheat but as a loving nurturing mother. Try to forgive her discresions and try and re-bond with her and your father. Don't runaway!!! Take hold of the reins and move slowly and cautiously to regain and reconstruct your relationships. Make them all new and all better than ever. Use the newly found info to strengthen your spirit and use it to avoid making the same errors. I will pray you are blessed with the strength to get through this safe and sound.

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  Posted by tcon402001 Fri Aug 1, 2008 9:01am PDT

  Dearest Confused,

  I am writing to you to help try and get you through these trying times. SUICIDE is not an answer!!!! It's not even an ESCAPE!!!! It's an unknown sense of closure, but, no one can prove it will get better after that, wew have no idea what else might be waiting out there afterwards. Might be a whole lot worse than what you have now. And as a mother who was very very young when I had my 4 children ( I was under 19 for 2 out of the 4) I can only try to explain the reasons your mother may have held back information or even omitted it. She most certainly wanted you to love and respect her. She wanted to spare you any ill natured things she may have done in the past because she already knew those errors of judgement were in the past and didnt want you burdened with the knowledge of her mistakes. I agree with you though she should not have lied to you about your father. But I sense she also may have been very young at the time and she is also human and humans are prone to error by nature. Sounds more like she wanted you to think highly of her. Not as a deceptive cheat but as a loving nurturing mother. Try to forgive her discresions and try and re-bond with her and your father. Don't runaway!!! Take hold of the reins and move slowly and cautiously to regain and reconstruct your relationships. Make them all new and all better than ever. Use the newly found info to strengthen your spirit and use it to avoid making the same errors. I will pray you are blessed with the strength to get through this safe and sound.

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  Posted by dance4eva709 Fri Aug 1, 2008 8:09pm PDT

  ok first of all I know what your going through. Im going to be completely honest. your mom sounds like a B**** and your dad just sounds like an A**. Im soooooo sorry this happened to someone like you. you seem like a good person and suicide is really no answer at all. PERIOD! suicide it BAD!!!!!!! In my life I have learned that people with bad parents most likely turn out to be some of the best people. Again im very very sorry that you were born into that lifestyle and I wish you the best of luck. My heart truely goes out to you.

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  Posted by racyn Sat Aug 2, 2008 8:04am PDT

  i have alot of pain also ,...you have to stay god will send the angels for us, i know its taking forever........every day the hurt slooooooooooowy grows to make some sort of sence

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