As I look back on my failed marrage being a mother of 4 kids... One always wonders if I had to do it all over again would I???
This is one of the first questions we divorced partents think of when you see your kids as they grow up and faulter on their own...learning lifes lessons and stubbling as we did too at their age, Looking at the paths we choose in life in the past is like looking down a long tunnel..........Wondering what if I did this? Or if I 'd done that what would it be like now?
As I get older, I am finding out my paths in life haven't always lead me where I should have gone, but ventured I did, and now wiser just the same. Sometimes your kids are the teachers on your journey, givers of comfort and hope as we move forward.
What if's or if only's only are a waist of time and a waist of life. When you are faced with this challenge just lay it down. Don't wonder would I have. just hang on to what you have for that moment. For life is full of change. Change is many ways is life, so taking a path and riding it for all its worth is the ride we choosed.
The real challenge in a failed marrage is Will I do that again? There's the clear answer we all know.
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Posted by Fri May 2, 2008 3:31pm PDT
Report AbuseI was married for 25 years.......2 boys.......a basically good life.
Vacations, friends.....active social life........house........picket fence..........good job.......a good life.
The boys are grown......one on his own....the other in college.....the house was sold....vacations are fewer........friends still around........social life still active.........good job.......a better than good life now.........
Was the marriage a failure???...........I don't think so.......I feel it was played out..........and it was time for both of us to move on..........we were not in love with each other anymore.......we were like friends............it was time to be happy.........so we split.........the boys were fine ..........they also felt it was a good thing.........I wish we had done it sooner...
Would I do it again?........why not?........you only live once.....and you may as well be happy for whatever time you have left.......instead of been unhappy and die that way...........
I am enjoying my life ........at 46..............and almost stress free..........and I do have someone in my life.........from my past..........and it is great!
Take chances.........don't be afraid to rock the boat especially when your feelings are involved and you are never too old to fall in love!
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Posted by Fri May 2, 2008 3:57pm PDT
Report AbuseI was married for 25 years.......2 boys.......a basically good life.
Vacations, friends.....active social life........house........picket fence..........good job.......a good life.
The boys are grown......one on his own....the other in college.....the house was sold....vacations are fewer........friends still around........social life still active.........good job.......a better than good life now.........
Was the marriage a failure???...........I don't think so.......I feel it was played out..........and it was time for both of us to move on..........we were not in love with each other anymore.......we were like friends............it was time to be happy.........so we split.........the boys were fine ..........they also felt it was a good thing.........I wish we had done it sooner...
Would I do it again?........why not?........you only live once.....and you may as well be happy for whatever time you have left.......instead of been unhappy and die that way...........
I am enjoying my life ........at 46..............and almost stress free..........and I do have someone in my life.........from my past..........and it is great!
Take chances.........don't be afraid to rock the boat especially when your feelings are involved and you are never too old to fall in love!
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Posted by Sun May 4, 2008 2:56am PDT
Report AbuseI have been divorced for almost 6 years now and was in a very BAD marriage, I have (2) wonderful kids...and their father has been NO PART of thier life for the 6 years (Court Ordered). I have beat myself up many times over my failed marriage and not being able to give my kids a "FATHER" blaming myself.
But thru everything we have been thru and we have been thru alot I have learned that everything happens for a reason and we may not understand it a the time, but we will some day......
We are doing fine on our own and if I hadn't married their fatehr I wouldn't have them, exactly as they are.
So I do have hope that maybe someday I will marry again and that they may have someone to look to as a " Father".....we all make bad choices and I am sure they will too as they grow up....life lessons make us the person we are.
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Posted by Tue May 13, 2008 11:07am PDT
Report AbuseHow do you explain divorce to your children? They love mom and dad so much, but dad doesn't want to be around.
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