okay you think you have finally found the perfect man for yourself, but you are not perfect for him in his eyes..

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so you've finally found the perfect man for yourself and he says you are not his perfect match at all.. what do you do?  I have recently been told this by a man that i love dearly.. we have never been in a real relationship but over the years we have spent a lot of time together and have taken many summer vacations together.. Our sex is the bomb and has taken me for an emotional ride because he always wants to just put me on the shelf until he's ready for more fun.. I have recently told him I am finished being his extra curricular girlfriend if i am not good enough to really be with him.. We live in different states but i am willing to relocate if he wants me to but he says he's scared because he isn't use to having an unconditional relationship with some one that feels so right.. I dont understand..  Is there any one who can give me any advice on if i made the right choice of cutting him off?

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  • neicey's Avatar
    Posted by neicey Sun Aug 23, 2009 2:26pm PDT

    DID YU EVER THINK THAT MAYBE HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YU...ITS NOT ALL THAT BAD ITS LIFE ND SOMETIMES YU GET BRUSHED OFF BUT IF YU WANT HIM THAT BAD TELL HIM HOW YU FEEL ND PUT HIM UP ON THE SHELF UNTIL YU READY FOR HIM...GUYS NORMALLY TREAT THE ONES WRONG BUT WILL MAKE IT WRK WITH TRASH,PUT YHUR FOOT DWN...IF HE WANT IT TELL HIM NO! ND IT DOESNT MATTER HOW BAD YU WANT/NEED IT YU WNT SETTLE FOR LESS...IS IT SOMEBODY ELSE HE'S SEEING IN THE CITY HE LIVE AT,JST DNT MAKE UP TOO MANY EXCUSES FOR HIM ND YU BE THE ONE HURT IN THE END!

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  • emanuelle's Avatar
    Posted by emanuelle Mon Aug 24, 2009 4:54pm PDT

    thanks neicey21215west .. you have just spoke the reality of this whole situation.. i guess we as women always pretend we dont know what the deal is and close our eyes to reality just because we dont like the truth..

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  • betty1's Avatar
    Posted by betty1 Tue Sep 15, 2009 10:56pm PDT

    Oh, oh. Red flag waving! You will NEVER be ok with this man. Cut him off now!! He is like some men I met when I was young and single. These men do not want a long lasting relationship! They are selfish and only want women who pose no danger to their lifestyles. He is unable to make a commitment that is serious. I'm surprised he is seeing a young single female. These guys usually only see unhappy married, or older women so there is an excuse not to take the relationship further. They always have an out when they want to end things. Even if he hooks up with singles, he will find something wrong with those women every time. Men like that seem (to me) to dislike women, in general. That's why they won't commit.

    Please, please find someone who will really love you and want you for yourself as you are. The good guys are out there. They're just a little difficult to find sometimes. Look to very good friends or family to steer you right. They care about you and usually know someone who is at least interested in a good relationship. Of course, not all relationships will work, but you may be pleasantly surprised by who you meet.

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