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  Posted by Mrs. Carol B Mon Apr 20, 2009 9:51am PDT

  Jessy,

  Thanks for stopping by. Soooo sorry your prom night was full of drama like that. Take a deep breath. Try not to stress about it if you didn't do anything wrong it's not your problem. Let them work it out. If Mike is the good guy you say he is he'll realize what is going on. I don't like the part about him punching walls though. That is not a good sign, Jessy. Be careful. My first husband David punched walls, bit his tongue, conveniently knocked things over that just missed hitting me and was very jealous for no reason. I couldn't even watch TV with him because if a guy was on the TV he'd watch my expression, if I smiled or laughed he would say "you want him?" He was an emotional abuser. My Mike is nothing like him. Be careful, it's easy to let your feelings for your guy cloud your thinking.

  I'm glad your Mom is doing better. It can take a while for her to be 100% back to her old self. I'm sure she has a follow-up appt. with her MD. By then she should at least be off pain meds. I hope your week goes well for you. You might have to stand up for yourself and refuse to continue the drama. I know you can come out on top of this mess.

  Keep me informed. Otherwise, I'll just worry about you like one of my own kids.

  CarolB

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  Posted by Krabby Cakes Mon Apr 20, 2009 9:56am PDT

  Wow what a b!tch! thast is not kool at all.Then again some girls are so immature.They probably hate their life and are just out to ruin everyone else's.I'm glad you did go to prom and enjoyed it.If your b/f knows you then he shouldn't let these lies come between the both of you.High school is almost over and you won't have to see your "good friend" so much anymore.Good luck and i hope your b/f realizes how much you love him and don't want to lose him.Oh and i do know where oakbrook is.My b/f works out there.

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  Posted by Mrs. Carol B Tue Apr 21, 2009 11:20am PDT

  Hi Jessy,

  Thanks for stopping by. Hope things are coming to light for you in your situation with Mike today. I try to live by what I call the "three day rule." If something happens I don't act on it immediately unless it's a dire emergency. I give it 3 days. I mull it over, look at it from all sides, then I decide what to do about it. Sometimes it rights itself and I am spared a confrontation, some heart ache, or just plain being bothered. Sometimes I see my part in the whole situation differently. A quick reation to a situation can sometimes worsen things. Some people will say you're a coward for not jumping in and responding. I think it is wise and shows maturity to formulate your thoughts before a confrontation. I even like writing things down better than a verbl affront. Writing does not bring with it an "audio attitude" and there are no facial expressions or body language to cloud what is being addrssed. You can edit a letter before you give it, once words are spoken there is no taking them back. Even the letter should follow the three day rule. Write it, read it, reread it, edit it, read it than by the 3rd day you either send it or throw it away because the problem has worked itself out. A lot to think about, huh! I hope this helps and you don't think I'm a busy body. I don't like it a bit when people I care about are going through a rough patch. Good thoughts are always here for you. Hope your week brings pleasant surprises.

  Your friend,

  Carol B

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  Posted by Wed Apr 22, 2009 2:06pm PDT

  thanks for reading my blog. how can someone all that drama in one day

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  Posted by Mrs. Carol B Fri Apr 24, 2009 4:48pm PDT

  Hi Jessy,

  so sorry about your friend. Hope she gets the help she needs. How are you doing in all this? Worry about you my dear.

  We took our grandsons to the circus today. I'm pooped.....

  Will try to catch up with my Shine friends tomorrow.

  Peace to you,

  Carol

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  Posted by Mrs. Carol B Sat Apr 25, 2009 11:41am PDT

  Jessy,

  Stop by and see my new painting "Spring Lamb" he's sure to make you smile. Hope things are better, dear.

  Peace to you and yours,

  Carol B

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  Posted by __A_YAHOO_USER__ Tue Apr 28, 2009 9:42am PDT

  Wow, Jessy it sounds like this girl is No friend at all to do some shady stuff like that to you, and to top it off, she did not have CONCRETE evidence that you even did anything!

  I would drop her like a bad habit! And explain to your BF that she made it all up to break you guys up, and unfortunately it sucks people are like that hon.

  Just be careful and make sure friends REALLY have your back and are not just gonna run with what they hear, cause growing up you are gonna hear A LOT of "he said,she said" and you have to learn to decipher who's LYING and who's telling the TRUTH.

  cause SOME will lie just for their own personal gain(like your friend did)

  so, it's been cool rapping with ya, be cool and I LOVE these pics you look GREAT in your Prom dress!

  peace

  V

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  Posted by Mrs. Carol B Tue Apr 28, 2009 11:28am PDT

  Jessy,

  Just got a chance to look at these pics. Wow! you looked lovely. And, you and Mike make a nice looking couple. Is that the same dress you showed a pic of on a model? It actually looks better on you!

  Have I asked this before - was it your senior prom? Do you have college plans?

  How is your Mom doing?

  Did you ever get that book "Secrets about men every woman should know"?I am just soooo full of questions!!!

  I'm like a nosey grandmother. Hope you don't mind.

  Have to run for now. Have a great night, Jessy.

  Peace to you,

  Carol

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