Okay maybe its just me,but this has been the hardest thing lately. I have only had a very minimal dating life for the last 3 years. I dated one guy for about 6 months over a year ago,and that was it ! In 3 years !!! I find that no one wants to just date. And by that I mean,go on dates that eventually lead to a monogamous relationship,but not neccesarily lead to marriage or cohabitating. The men I meet are either really young,and we all know what that means. (I hate the label "cougar") Or they want to get serious too quick & start playing "family",which for better or worse my son HAS a father. Or they just wanna play the field and sleep with mutiple women while dating you. What happened to good old fashioned dating ?
I meet guys everywhere,Target,Grocery shopping,work,sports events,ect.........But why cant I find one guy who is content to just date ? And why do they all think that dating has to lead to marriage ? Been there,done that,not sure I wanna go back ! lol I just want someone to go to a movie with,a grown-up movie. I need a break from family films ! To go out to eat,a real restaurant. Im tired to C.C's pizza and other kid friendly places. I wanna be a grown woman,not mommy,just for a night here and there. Because I have a very full life and dont need a man to validate me.
So why is this such a problem ? I have theories and they are not pretty. Mainly the dating websites that are out there. Men can go online and lie about who they are and find numerous woman to casually date & sleep with. So where are the men who arent like that go ? And where do we find them ? That is my new mission,to find them and share it with other single mom's who are having this problem.
So help out people,lets find those men !! And then all us single mom's can be alot less stressed,because everyone needs a break from being "mommy" !
Sunday, September 7, 2008
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Posted by Wed Jul 23, 2008 1:02pm PDT
Report AbuseI hear you. My neighbor is an attractive 38 year old divorce. She hadn't been out in over three years either. She met a nice guy who asked her to dinner. She went, and they had a good time. When he left he said, " I enjoyed the evening. I hope you will call me." So, he was putting the ball in her court, and that's fair. So, did she call Mr. Nice Guy? No, she did not. Her reasoning..." There just wasn't any chemistry".
I think that's part of the problem. People want instant fireworks, and it's just swell and then some if that happens. But most relationships need some time and care to get off the ground. In the meantime, what's wrong with a movie, a concert, or sporting event with Mr. Nice Guy? Or Ms. Nice Girl?
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Posted by Wed Jul 23, 2008 1:29pm PDT
Report AbuseI'm a single mom and I haven't had a "boyfriend" in more than 6 yrs. Lots of relations but no relationships - LOL
I think that most men - especially on dating websites - are so used to getting sex easy without having to date anyone that they just don't bother. In my experience with online dating, I've met too many who were just looking for someone to take care of them financially. They just weren't in any position to date me because they could not afford to date. Just crazy.
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Posted by Wed Jul 23, 2008 3:01pm PDT
Report AbuseSpringtime and Mentagurl are right.
I know exactly how you feel it is getting harder to find men willing to date. A friend of mine is a single well educated woman with a career. She has not been on a date in at least three years. She is only 27.
Try to stay optomistic.
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Posted by Thu Jul 24, 2008 9:39am PDT
Report Abusethere is hope i am a twenty one year old single mother of two I met a guy on a dating site yes lol i know but he was in iraq most of the time we have dated but he is home now and everything is exactly the way i expected it to be we have a wonderful time together with out him jumping in to play daddy so ladies i recomend soldiers our government has taught them right lol
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Posted by Thu Jul 24, 2008 7:06pm PDT
Report AbuseIm that type of man who just wants to date and have fun. The thing is its not always the men who want to go deeper in a dating relationship. In my situation the woman I was dating wanted to get serious fast and I was like slow down and she was older. You have tp expect stuff like that because if your looking for perfect just dating with good men good luck.
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Posted by Fri Jul 25, 2008 5:50am PDT
Report AbuseI know what you mean! I'm also a single mom and haven't dated but maybe a couple of times since my divorce. Thats ok, because I have my little girl and I haven't found a good man that I'd WANT to date yet anyways. They are all just horny and that irritates me and turns me off immediately. I told one guy, "I am not a walking vagina, I am a person and if you don't want to be with me for ME, then hit the road!" Needless to say.... he hit the road! LOL! Thats my mentality on it all...
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Posted by Fri Jul 25, 2008 1:49pm PDT
Report AbuseI agree with what you're saying. It is hard out here. If you're independent, attractive and have common sence it seems like most men don't want that. Most men want someone who is easy, has low self esteem, uneducated and that has nothing going for themselves. Most men don't want to wait to have sex. They feel if they take you out that same night they should get compensated for it..whatever.. I have been a widow for 4 years and I have been in 2 relationships since. One was with a military guy..bad idea. He was back in forth to Iraq and he didn't get the couseling that he needed and he was very verbally abusive. The other guy was childish and we fussed all of time about nothing. I don't have time for nonsense and foolishness. Had to let both of them go. Let me know when you figure out a place for single mothers to meet good guys..
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