User post: Sometimes losing your job can turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to you

A few years ago, I wanted to go to a local restaurant I had never been to before that featured jazz bands. I called to make a reservation, and by chance, the person who took my reservation was the owner. I arrived at the restaurant with a woman that I had just started dating. I was greeted warmly by the owner, given a choice table and treated like I was his best customer. The owner even sent over complimentary drinks. To say the least, I was puzzled by this behavior but because I was trying to impress my date, I acted as if this type of thing happened to me all the time.

When my date excused herself to go to the lady's room, the owner came up to me and said "You don't remember me, do you?" I told him I didn't. Then he said, "You fired me. And I wanted to thank you. Although I was devastated when I was laid off, it turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me."

He went on to explain that after he was fired, he came home and took over his family's restaurant. He had always loved jazz, so he decided to start bringing bands in on weekends. He added: "I love running the restaurant and it is a huge success. Although I didn't really like the job you fired me from, it paid well and I never would have left on my own."

On a single day last week, more than 70,000 jobs were lost when layoffs were announced at a number of major companies, including Caterpillar, Pfizer, Home Depot and Sprint Nextel. On a personal note, my future son-in-law was also laid off this month. January saw 568,000 jobs lost bringing unemployment to the highest level in 14 years. That is lots of bad news in the job market and I expect we will see more in the coming months.

Losing your job is never easy. It is traumatic for the people losing their jobs. It causes hardship for their families. For individuals being laid off, there is a common fear, however unfounded, that they will never find jobs as good as the ones they just lost. For most people, the truth is exactly the opposite. They will not only find something, they will be happier and will ultimately be even more financially successful.

Despite the din of bad economic news, there are opportunities out there. Good economic news either seems not to get reported or is dismissed as an aberration. On the same day the layoffs were announced, the National Association of Realtors reported December home sales posted the largest monthly gain in seven years. While one month does not signal a turnaround in the housing market, the sales of more homes, even at lower prices, will lead to work for mortgage brokers processing loans, contractors doing home improvements and retailers selling appliances, carpets, furniture and home furnishings, among others.

As someone who has been through major layoffs as a senior human resources executive, here is some advice for those of you who may experience a period of unemployment during the current economic downturn:

Stay positive. While there are many more people seeking work than there are available jobs at the moment, there are jobs out there. According to the most recent available statistics from the U.S. Department of Labor, there are 2.8 million job openings employers are seeking to fill.

Read the business news every day. Look for areas of growth where your skills might be needed. Identify companies that are expanding into new areas or launching new products. Determine where the government will be spending money. Be willing to take temporary work for companies that are experiencing sudden growth. Alternatively, offer to consult for a company that may not be doing so well but where your skills can add demonstrable value. If you can get your foot in the door and show what you can do, it will often lead to a full-time position.

New opportunities open up every day. You need to be alert for them. Our new president has barely unpacked and the IRS has already announced it is seeking to hire hundreds of new tax collectors and auditors. If you had been vigilantly reading the news, you would already be aware of that; if you were interested, you might already have an interview lined up.

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  • FiredFor's Avatar
    Posted by FiredFor Fri Feb 13, 2009 11:06am PST

    Uh...I'm not a senior human resources manager. And the most direct reports I've ever had is about 10.

    But I remember every person I've ever had to fire. It's one of the worst things about being in a management role, and I don't think I'd ever forget anyone I've had to do this with -- especially since it follows a pretty rigorous examination to get to that point.

    You really didn't remember this person? Kinda sad.

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  • lee's Avatar
    Posted by lee Fri Feb 13, 2009 12:03pm PST

    I have been through two bankruptcies, two restructurings, several mergers and unfortuately over the years as the head of HR I have been responsible for overseeing layoffs in thousands and have terminated many of the senior level individuals personally. Each actually was very difficult for me (but not as difficult as for the person being fired). I never lost my empathy for the person being let go but no I don't remember every single person I had to fire over my 20 year plus career. The ones I knew and have stayed in touch with though are all happier and better off today.

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  • buddhabrown's Avatar
    Posted by buddhabrown Fri Feb 13, 2009 12:53pm PST

    Great article, and thank you for posting. It reminds me of the old stand-by saying "when one door closes, another one opens". I just wish more people would realize they control their own destiny and open their eyes to opportunity instead of just floating around wherever the wind blows them.

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  • Scoot's Avatar
    Posted by Scoot Fri Feb 13, 2009 3:43pm PST

    I think that it's ok if you did not remember. I am glad that it worked out well for the person who was fired. It is strange how things work out sometimes. I am sure that this example is not a typical one. Many folks who are fired or laid off often have extreme hardships that follow.

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  • Lorien75's Avatar
    Posted by Lorien75 Fri Feb 13, 2009 4:34pm PST

    I lost my job three months ago, and am still actively looking for work. It was truly a devastating experience, but I know that in the long run it will be a good thing. I too was in a job i was miserable in, but it paid well and I wouldn't have had the drive to look for another. Luckily i got a decent compensation package, and am eligible for employment insurance until i find something new. I would have preferred to walk out the door at a time of my choosing, but now i'm just eager for the next adventure to start.

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  • Jason and Suzanne's Avatar
    Posted by Jason and Suzanne Sat Feb 14, 2009 9:00am PST

    Yesterday. Yesterday, Friday the 13th my layoff of 2 months became permanent termination from the factory. Now the shop has only about 20 people left. I feel destroyed. Hopeless. Scared of loosing all I see. But, I am not alone. My friends and co-workers suffer along with me. And here in Michigan, as the highest unemployment state, there is just not much hope but to pray for the new government to give us all new, better, more secure lives.

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  • Susan's Avatar
    Posted by Susan Sat Feb 14, 2009 12:12pm PST

    I live in a city/town in Indiana. We are nothing but factory and restaurant based. I manage a small dealership, and am floundering. The company as a whole is doing well, but days, and days can go by without even a phone call, let alone sale.

    This is a very stressful job, and honestly, as I watch my co-workers still succeed, they imply that I'm not capable of selling a pack of gum.

    Although, I know better...It's difficult to be treated differently. I'm the only female Manager in this small company, and honestly, I have to work twice as hard to get the same results as my co's.

    There's no jobs in this area, and I have my family dependant on me to survive, but as I read the Initial post about the restaurant manager being fired, I too wish I'd get CANNED, and move on to a better life.

    And You all are in my prayers...your not alone.

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  • Phinka's Avatar
    Posted by Phinka Sat Feb 14, 2009 2:56pm PST

    Excuse me, but the least a company can do after a person is forced to leave work for cutbacks is to offer counselling and job placement free of charge! This is really not asking much. A burrito, are you serious? No thanks!

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  • saneti's Avatar
    Posted by saneti Sat Feb 14, 2009 3:35pm PST

    Bush should have been impeached and he should apologize to the American

    people for 8 years of corrupting the country. Where ever he is I hope he gets a taste of his own medicine.

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  • Kevin's Avatar
    Posted by Kevin Sat Feb 14, 2009 4:48pm PST

    We should all spend this time becoming better individuals. Often times when working everything revolves around that one aspect of our lives. look to unemployment as a chance to unwind forget scedules and values and just get healthy inside and out.Work will come again.

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