We’re not alone: Madonna, Heather Locklear and Christina Applegate all text message their exes

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  Posted by sunshinegirl Wed Oct 8, 2008 12:01pm PDT

  I agree with the CF, if children are shared btw ex's then there is a reason to talk or text. I have been down the road of texting an ex and no their were no children shared. But the times I text him after a 4 and a half relationship were justfied I think. It has taken me a year to get over him, so I think if you text an ex, there are still feelings there. The times I text him in a year, were to say happy birthday, merry xmas, and to tell him my grandpa died. But the changed person he was, never even replied to any of them. Did me a favor more or less, because it reassured me we did the right thing in ending our relationship. We turned into 2 different people and wanted different things. I think it was pretty cold that he didn't even say I'm sorry after I text and left him a voicemail telling him about my grandpa, who had let him into his home and was a part of the family to the extent of him calling my mom, mom and my grandma, grandma. Like I said people change. I have no desire to ever text or call my ex again. But if the situation was reversed and someone he loved dies, and he cared to tell me, of course I would respond with atleast an I'm sorry for your loss and your family. I'm just a caring person and have compassion even after a lot of heartbreak.

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  Posted by Sara Thu Oct 9, 2008 8:25am PDT

  *~well i used to txt my exes but once u find some1 new who makes u happy theres really no need to bother with the ones who piss u off. unless u have kids together lol~*

  ~kisses~

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  Posted by princess813 Thu Oct 9, 2008 1:51pm PDT

  no sh!+ Sherlock

  they are humans too idiot just MUCH richer than us and well known...

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  Posted by Christine B Thu Oct 9, 2008 2:48pm PDT

  I text my ex-boyfriend and I really decided to make a goal of not doing it anymore. It just upsets me because he doesn't give a hoot about me. Currently, I am unemployed and that makes it more difficult. Now though, I realize how harmful the texting is to my own self-esteem. It makes me look desperate and foolish. I deleted his cell phone off my e-mail and have not texted him for 3 weeks. Hopefully I will have the willpower to just say no to texting! Because feeling devalued and desperate is far worse then not having anybody to text!

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  Posted by SarahP Thu Oct 9, 2008 3:12pm PDT

  why do you do it. control or something why not just move on.

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  Posted by Teena Fri Oct 10, 2008 2:10am PDT

  How sweet... I guess if both parties can geniunely be civil and respectful, keeping in touch can be a good thing (especially for the children). This technology values that communicating at a distance is necessary to keep relationships in tact in some way. Good for them.

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  Posted by Sesame seed Fri Oct 10, 2008 10:48am PDT

  I would not text my ex for any reason. He is outa my life completely. I dont see any reason for it. Not interested in him anymore and never will be.

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  Posted by Fri Oct 10, 2008 8:32pm PDT

  I think it shows a sign of maturity and acceptance of the fact that even though they are separated, they are still civil and could stay in touch as just friends. With children or without. This is actually what being human is about. Some things in life cannot be changed but should just be accepted as they are.. In my point of view anyway.. :-)

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  Posted by Tiggerbounce2009 Sat Oct 11, 2008 5:28pm PDT

  I think texting your ex is okay. I text my ex all the time and he writes back. I just think that if you are comfortable texting an ex then do it. No your girlfriend or boyfriend might not like it but if theres nothing going on between you and your ex while you are with somebody then your cool.

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  Posted by Allison Sat Oct 11, 2008 8:48pm PDT

  Ugh...so glad I read this article and the comments. I was looking for people I know on Facebook and entered an exes name (WHY I don't know) but there he was...S**T!!! First instinct was to send a message but I decided to stop and figure out 1. did I want him to know anyting about my life now and 2. would I be prepared if he a. didn't respond or b. responded that he was either married, in a relationship, has kids, etc. So I decided not to reach out to him especially since I remembered that the last time we saw each other things were weird anyway. I am very glad that I found this article because your comments were a welcome slap in the face :-)

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