Many years my son has been lazy, misbehaves, lack of appreciation. My son has an opportunity of having a friend over for a wienie roast but, I asked him to pick up his toys, does he? No, his legs don't work and the TV has his attention. So, I try to explain that if his new friend comes over he might get someone to spend the weekend over if his mom thinks were clean, good people, and it's safe. He continues to play with his toys. I push, bargain, and try to reason. Nothing works. I don't know what to do? I know that I have one chance to grow him up with the right principals, concepts and why. His actions promote reactions if he only understood more.
I read my first mini course of Martha's book and I found out that when a parent is asking for a task to be done this may seem to be like taking away his/her freedom. I haven't done what the mini course has suggested yet but, I am very enthusiastic about my conversation with my son. The conversation is going to include: Why do you think we have fences? If we had a little one would she be safe without a fence? Fences keep her in while keeping the bad out. What if there was no fence would she stay in the back yard? or would she go into the street after the ball? Fences keep the bad out: if a dog walked into the backyard that wouldn't be good. Obeying the rules is like a fence. Keeps you safe while you have freedom while keeping the bad out. Makes good sense! This type of conversation is at a 7 yr old level. I liked also how habits are formed.
There are three types of habits:
automatic we're born with like breathing
automatic habits: things we do over and over that become
habits
conscious thought: things we consciously do
These conversations are written so, you have a step by step of
leading the conversation with your kids into thinking and finding
out the reasons why you ask them to do things such as:
pick-up. The book also gives you a chance to listen to what
your kids have to say. I know where he is in
understanding life.
This book has given me hope. I can give my kid a
chance to understand whats expected of him and why.
Just a glimpse of the book:
Educating the heart develops good character
qualities and includes such things as . . .
Honesty
Kindness
Integrity
Unselfishness
Being a willing and diligent worker
Doing chores without being told
Reaching out and helping others
Learning conversational skills
Making and keeping friends
Growing up is hard to do and they want to know how to do it right!
They really want the answers
to questions like . . .
"What is life all about?"
"How do I fit in?"
"What are the rules?"
"Why do I have to follow the rules?"
"Why do I have to do this . . . that . . . or the other
thing?".
"How come? . . . who says?. . . so what? . . . who
cares?" . . . etc.
