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Thursday, December 3, 2009

27 Questions to Help You Find the Perfect Sitter

Lara Shriftman: A couple of my mommy friends and I were having dinner in Miami, and we found ourselves talking about child care and the process of interviewing a potential new child care provider or sitter. The mother of four sitting next to me was trading stories with me, and I was telling her about the first nanny I got from a nanny agency in Los Angeles.

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During the interview process, I found out that my potential nanny

: was not legal, didn't drive, asked me if I had a chef, if I had a full-time housekeeper, and asked if I flew private. There was no indication that any of these things existed when she came to my house. I couldn't get over the concept of interviewing someone and have them be the one interviewing me!

Needless to say, after four interviews of the same kind, I decided to create a list of questions everyone should ask when interviewing a potential new babysitter. Having the questions written out ahead of time will help you stay on track (and keep you asking the questions, rather than the other way around!).

27 Questions You Should Ask Every Potential New Sitter:

1) How many families have you worked for in the past?

2) How old were the other children you cared for?

3) Do you have children of your own?

4) What is your philosophy on discipline and education?

5) What are your beliefs about child rearing?

6) Why do you do this type of work?

7) Why do you like being a sitter (or nanny)?

8) How might you and my child spend a typical day?

9) What types of activities would you engage my child in?

10) What are some activities that you think are important to include on a daily basis?

11) Can you give me some examples of difficult situations you have encountered in the past with other children, and how you've handled them?

12) Can you swim, and if so, are you willing to go in the pool with the child?

13) What qualifications do you have?

14) Do you have any formal education in childhood development, or special training in childcare?

15) Do you have CPR and first-aid training?

16) What are three things you enjoy doing the most with children?

17) How do you approach difficulties over meals, bedtimes, or sharing with other children?

18) How would you or how do you comfort children?

19) What are some methods you've followed in other households that you think work well?

20) Would you communicate with me about the things my child said and did that I missed during the day?

21) Are you willing to do light chores while children are napping? If so, which ones?

22) Do you drive?

23) Do you have your own car?

24) Are you willing to work evenings or weekends, if need be?

25) Would you be available to travel with our family on weekend trips or vacations, if need be?

26) What is your salary range?

27) Could you recommend families I can call for references?

I hope this helps you in your search for a sitter you can trust. It has certainly helped me!

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Luxury, fashion and lifestyle expert Lara Shriftman co-founded Harrison & Shriftman in 1995. The agency specializes in public relations, marketing and events for high-profile luxury brands. In addition to serving as a correspondent for Extra with her own segment, Party Confidential, Lara and partner Elizabeth Harrison have authored four books on entertaining, Fete Accompli , Fete Accompli Workbook, Party Confidential and Party Confidential: New Etiquette for Fabulous Entertaining . www.partyconfidential.com
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  • Fluffy Aliens's Avatar
    Posted by Fluffy Aliens Tue Sep 1, 2009 10:19pm PDT

    25) Would you be available to travel with our family on weekend trips or vacations, if need be?

    Isn't the point of trips and vacations to spend with your family? Why would you need a babysitter to go on your vacations with you? I feel sorry for anyone whos parenting skills are so poor that they can't do without their child care provider on vacation.

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  • Mo B's Avatar
    Posted by Mo B Wed Sep 2, 2009 10:17am PDT

    I was thinking the same thing. Why even take the kids on vacation if you want someone else to watch them.

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  • Dawn's Avatar
    Posted by Dawn Wed Sep 2, 2009 11:02am PDT

    because sometimes you need a break from the kids too. It's not that you dont want to send time with them, but it's like having a date night on vacation.

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  • KareB's Avatar
    Posted by KareB Wed Sep 2, 2009 11:15am PDT

    I AGREE....WHY EVEN BOTHER TAKING THEM IF YOU DON'T WANNA SPEND TIME WITH THEM?

    THATS JUST SELFISH TO ME...VACATIONS ARE TO SPEND TIME TOGETHER

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  • ksu's Avatar
    Posted by ksu Thu Sep 3, 2009 8:46am PDT

    I'm a nanny and agree with most of these questions-especially the one about vacation. As a nanny you become a friend of the children and almost part of the family. I've been on vacations with my family and previous families and it's incredibly helpful for the parents. No parent can say that while on vacation they wouldn't love to go on a late night date with their spouse or have a couple's day at the spa-it is vacation for the parents, too. So having your nanny there allows you to have special time with your best friend somewhere other than the boring chain restaurant in your neighborhood you go to on Saturdays.

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  • Joey G's Avatar
    Posted by Joey G Thu Sep 3, 2009 10:15am PDT

    I bet everyone bashing the question doesn't have kids OR is jealous they can't afford to take nanny on vacation with them

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  • sun2go's Avatar
    Posted by sun2go Thu Sep 3, 2009 11:37am PDT

    Ask as many questions as you can that don't involve 1 or 2 word answers.

    But the travel with the family part?!? How lazy are you, they're YOUR CHILDREN YOU CHOSE TO HAVE! That's something. Why even have kids if you don't want anything to do with them. Your kids' memories of family vacations will involve how you dumped them off with the nanny. That's not very loving and involved parents.

    I grew up well off, so it wasn't about affording care. My parents chose to be involved and loving parents. Family vacations were special because it was all about being together, and those memories I cherish. I can't say I'd cherish the memories of being dumped off with a nanny, knowing my parents would rather pay to not deal with their choice to be parents.

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  • Shari's Avatar
    Posted by Shari Sun Sep 6, 2009 7:51pm PDT

    I think people take the nanny on vacation with them because we all need vacations sometimes with our kids and sometimes without. If you have young children and feel safer if they are in the same city as you, but you want a vacation with your spouse you take them and the nanny. Then if there is an emergency it doesn't take you hours to get to your child. It's not selfish to want time to yourself, it would be worse to leave the kids at home with someone. At least this way you can check in on them and spend some of the time with them.

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  • Manders's Avatar
    Posted by Manders Mon Sep 7, 2009 1:06am PDT

    I think that the nanny should be able to go on the vacation too. If the nanny has been like part of the family for a long period of time why shouldn't they go? They are basicly part of the family. That way everyone gets to have fun and parents get alone time, and they can also be there with their kids and spend time with them too. The nanny has to take a break eventually and the parents would be there with their kids then too. I don't really see the big deal of a nanny going on vacation with the kids.

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  • hopefulangelo9's Avatar
    Posted by hopefulangelo9 Tue Sep 8, 2009 6:01pm PDT

    I think we should move past the taking the nanny/sitter on vacation.

    I do not have kids yet but I am a sitter. I baby-sit at minnimum 2 times a week, and I htink the questions you have here are verry good questions to ask and have had them asked before.

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