Before you read this you need to know something. I am a
13 year old girl. If there is a few spelling mistakes, I do
apololgize. I do not use microsoft word and the progam I use does
not have spelling and grammar check. Once again I am sorry if it
does not appear to be up to par for you. I am not a mother, and I
am going based on what I would have liked to be able to see from my
mother. I moved in with in aunt at the age of 2. Please try not to
judge to harshly. The sad part about this is so many mothers do not
follow theses guidelines.
1. Let your kids learn from their mistakes.
We want our kids to be safe, but can we really do that
is we don't let them learn at least partially by themselves? We
need to trust that they can learn on their own. They don't need
to feel like their parents are judgemental because they make
mistakes.
2. Don't try to be their best friend.
Kids make enough friends, and well the last thing they
need is a parent being a friend too. All you dads out there, your
kids are most likely embaressed by you, so they don't
need you to be like a friend. Moms out there, being friends
with your kids just doesn't work. You are meant to be parents
not friends. This doesn't mean you have to be all strict with
them, but it means you should give them freedom with thier friends.
They need to know you are a parent and not just some other
friend.
3. Raise them based on your beliefs.
If you don't believe in spanking your kid, then
don't. If you do believe in spanking your kid, then do. You
have to go based on the laws, but you have a little freedom in
that. use it to your advantage!!!! All parents know when thier kid
needs to be disciplined, so act on it!!!! I am not trying to sound
like an idiot here, but seriously parents need to learn to
disipline thier kids without crossing the line.
4. Let your child know when they did something wrong.
Kids know when they made a mistake, but they need to
know you do too. If they tried to slap you across the face do you
just let them get away with it? I sure as hell hope not. They
need to be corrected by you now, or when thy move out, they could
get in a lot of trouble with the law. If you don't correct them
someone else will!!!
5. Tell your kid you love them.
Sometimes it just helps to hear the words 'I love
you', and your kids are no exception to that. You can never
tell them you love them too much, but you can tell them not enough.
Be sure to tell them a lot because in the end, they will appreciate
it.
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Posted by Wed Nov 19, 2008 11:59am PST
Report Abusethere are so many grammatical errors in this article, its hard to take it seriously....
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Posted by Wed Nov 19, 2008 3:05pm PST
Report AbuseWe should let our children learn life lessons, you are right about that. I think though we should guide them in the right direction even though it may not always work. Both of my children have always known they can tell me anything. I promised them years ago that I would always try to understand and always be there for them no matter what.
I don't pretend to be a professional mother but I do believe that being there when they do make mistakes and helping them understand and figure out the right thing to do makes alot of difference.
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Posted by Wed Nov 19, 2008 3:13pm PST
Report AbuseUm, okay seriously...who writes these articles? I mean, a five-year old could probably come up with something more creative and relevant. I've noticed so many spelling & grammatical errors in articles on Shine, my head is spinning. What, you people can't afford to hire real writers? Or spellcheck?
"We want our kids to be safe, but can we really do that is we don't let them learn at least partially by themselves?" Seriously, that's all you can come up with?! These are all general knowledge, common sense tips! This is not going to help anyone. What a waste of time.
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Posted by Wed Nov 19, 2008 3:19pm PST
Report AbuseI agree with what you're saying, but like most of the other's have pointed out, there's this great thing on microsoft word called spelling and grammar check! Also, these things truly are a given. If they aren't a given to you, you probably shouldn't be a parent.
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Posted by Wed Nov 19, 2008 3:23pm PST
Report AbuseI agree with what you're saying, but like most of the other's have pointed out, there's this great thing on microsoft word called spelling and grammar check! Also, these things truly are a given. If they aren't a given to you, you probably shouldn't be a parent.
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Posted by Wed Nov 19, 2008 4:02pm PST
Report AbuseSome good stuff, but some questionable stuff. Number 3 walks a very fine line. I mean, every day I see women raising their kids according to their beliefs, but their beliefs are soundly unacceptable in our society.
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Posted by Thu Nov 20, 2008 5:52am PST
Report AbusePlease learn to use spellcheck. It was hard to concentrate on the content of your article due to the mispelled words.
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Posted by Thu Nov 20, 2008 11:57am PST
Report AbuseLOOK PEOPLE, I AM A 13 YEAR OLD GIRL... I MAKE MISTAKES... I SEE SO MANY PARENTS OUT THERE THAT DON'T GO BY THESE BASIC GUIDELINES. I AM DOING THE BEST I CAN!?!?!?! I WROTE THIS MYSELF BECAUSE I HAD A MOTHER WHO WASN'T THERE... WHO DIDN'T KNOW HOW OT DO THESE THINGS... I MOVED IN WITH MY AUNT AT THE AGE OF TWO... DON'T JUDGE ME BASED ON A FEW MISPELLED WORDS... ANS P.S. i DIDN'T USE MICROSOFT WORD!?!?!?!
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