Before you read this you need to know something. I am a
13 year old girl. If there is a few spelling mistakes, I do
apololgize. I do not use microsoft word and the progam I use does
not have spelling and grammar check. Once again I am sorry if it
does not appear to be up to par for you. I am not a mother, and I
am going based on what I would have liked to be able to see from my
mother. I moved in with in aunt at the age of 2. Please try not to
judge to harshly. The sad part about this is so many mothers do not
follow theses guidelines.
1. Let your kids learn from their mistakes.
We want our kids to be safe, but can we really do that
is we don't let them learn at least partially by themselves? We
need to trust that they can learn on their own. They don't need
to feel like their parents are judgemental because they make
mistakes.
2. Don't try to be their best friend.
Kids make enough friends, and well the last thing they
need is a parent being a friend too. All you dads out there, your
kids are most likely embaressed by you, so they don't
need you to be like a friend. Moms out there, being friends
with your kids just doesn't work. You are meant to be parents
not friends. This doesn't mean you have to be all strict with
them, but it means you should give them freedom with thier friends.
They need to know you are a parent and not just some other
friend.
3. Raise them based on your beliefs.
If you don't believe in spanking your kid, then
don't. If you do believe in spanking your kid, then do. You
have to go based on the laws, but you have a little freedom in
that. use it to your advantage!!!! All parents know when thier kid
needs to be disciplined, so act on it!!!! I am not trying to sound
like an idiot here, but seriously parents need to learn to
disipline thier kids without crossing the line.
4. Let your child know when they did something wrong.
Kids know when they made a mistake, but they need to
know you do too. If they tried to slap you across the face do you
just let them get away with it? I sure as hell hope not. They
need to be corrected by you now, or when thy move out, they could
get in a lot of trouble with the law. If you don't correct them
someone else will!!!
5. Tell your kid you love them.
Sometimes it just helps to hear the words 'I love
you', and your kids are no exception to that. You can never
tell them you love them too much, but you can tell them not enough.
Be sure to tell them a lot because in the end, they will appreciate
it.
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Posted by Thu Nov 20, 2008 12:16pm PST
Report AbuseYou are right, Rosalie. I think your article has alot of validity. Great job. You are correct...many parents do not follows these SIMPLE guidlines. You are a very wise 13 year old!
To all of you out there that are focusing on the grammatical errors: try focusing on what is on this girl's heart. Who cares about the spelling...look at the meaning.
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Posted by Thu Nov 20, 2008 12:33pm PST
Report AbuseSeriously people can you not read that this is coming from a 13 yr old. Honestly I think you all can read between the misspelled words and understand what it is that she is saying. It's a lot more insightful then your rude comments.
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Posted by Thu Nov 20, 2008 12:36pm PST
Report AbuseOne of the things I love about this site is that amateurs can write in and post articles as well as actual paid writers. Most people can tell the difference, but it is still refreshing to see what "regular folks" have to say on any topic. While there were spelling mistakes in Rosalie's piece, I find it encouraging that a young lady wants to try and make a difference in some reader's life. Don't let the posted comments discourage you Rosalie. I am curious though,...why aren't you in school today? :-)
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Posted by Thu Nov 20, 2008 12:45pm PST
Report AbuseRosalie: Sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I assumed you were a mother. You should have stated that in the beginning, it would have been easier to relate.
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Posted by Thu Nov 20, 2008 12:52pm PST
Report AbuseFor all those criticizing this young lady and telling her to use MS Word and what-have-you - she told ALL of us UP FRONT that she did not have access to programs with spell check. Instead of reaming her to check her spelling and grammar, maybe you people need to take a refresher course in ‘Reading Comprehension.’
Good for you Miss 13-Year Old. This was well written. You have every right to speak your mind and give your opinion. Unfortunately, you are learning one of the most important lessons in life - which is not everyone is going to agree with you and some will even judge you too harshly.
Stay strong and know that in the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter how people receive you or your advice as long as you are honest with them… and yourself.
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Posted by Thu Nov 20, 2008 12:58pm PST
Report AbuseHey Habanero - How could you mistake her for a mother??? Her FIRST TWO sentences were: 'Before you read this you need to know something. I am a 13 year old girl.'
How could you be so nit-picky with her 'errors' and miss that??
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Posted by Thu Nov 20, 2008 1:00pm PST
Report Abuse"I am not a mother, and I am going based on what I would have liked to be able to see from my mother." Rosalie said it.
I, for the most part, agree with this. But it is difficult to watch a child fail when you knew they were, told them they were, and tried to help them move through the event without too many issues.
I think one of the things that I see happen a lot is trust issues between parents and their children. As adults, as parents, we've been down that road, and we know what's going to happen. Thus why we push the whole "do it our way" scenario. But we do have to trust that our children, and others kids, will be making wise decisions.
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Posted by Thu Nov 20, 2008 1:16pm PST
Report AbuseI am willing to cut Rosalie a break for the spelling errors because I have seen adults make the same errors. As far as the parenting tips go, these may seem common sense to some of you, but, sadly, they are not to everyone. Hearing this point of view from an almost-teenager speaks volumes. And even though the grammar may not be correct, I hear you. Thanks Rosalie.
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Posted by Thu Nov 20, 2008 1:20pm PST
Report AbuseFOR BEING 13 YOU DID AN AWESOME JOB.. AND HELLO THIS IS SHINE!!! NOT THE NEWS PAPER!! SO EVEN IF SHE WAS AN ADULT DON'T WORRY ABOUT THE MISTEAKS.. BECAUSE I AM 31 AND STILL MISSPELL.. A LOT! IT'S A BLOG NOT A NEWS ARTICLE. SO IF YOU DO NOT LIKE ALL THE MISTEAKS MOVE ON TO THE NEXT PERSONS BLOG. AND REALLY WHY ALL THE CRITICISM ANYHOW?? DID YOUR MOTHER TEACH YOU GUYS ANYTHING?? IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY DON'T SAY A THING AT ALL!! THERE ARE NICER WAYS FOR YOU ALL TO GET THE POINT ACROSS!
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