Before you read this you need to know something. I am a
13 year old girl. If there is a few spelling mistakes, I do
apololgize. I do not use microsoft word and the progam I use does
not have spelling and grammar check. Once again I am sorry if it
does not appear to be up to par for you. I am not a mother, and I
am going based on what I would have liked to be able to see from my
mother. I moved in with in aunt at the age of 2. Please try not to
judge to harshly. The sad part about this is so many mothers do not
follow theses guidelines.
1. Let your kids learn from their mistakes.
We want our kids to be safe, but can we really do that
is we don't let them learn at least partially by themselves? We
need to trust that they can learn on their own. They don't need
to feel like their parents are judgemental because they make
mistakes.
2. Don't try to be their best friend.
Kids make enough friends, and well the last thing they
need is a parent being a friend too. All you dads out there, your
kids are most likely embaressed by you, so they don't
need you to be like a friend. Moms out there, being friends
with your kids just doesn't work. You are meant to be parents
not friends. This doesn't mean you have to be all strict with
them, but it means you should give them freedom with thier friends.
They need to know you are a parent and not just some other
friend.
3. Raise them based on your beliefs.
If you don't believe in spanking your kid, then
don't. If you do believe in spanking your kid, then do. You
have to go based on the laws, but you have a little freedom in
that. use it to your advantage!!!! All parents know when thier kid
needs to be disciplined, so act on it!!!! I am not trying to sound
like an idiot here, but seriously parents need to learn to
disipline thier kids without crossing the line.
4. Let your child know when they did something wrong.
Kids know when they made a mistake, but they need to
know you do too. If they tried to slap you across the face do you
just let them get away with it? I sure as hell hope not. They
need to be corrected by you now, or when thy move out, they could
get in a lot of trouble with the law. If you don't correct them
someone else will!!!
5. Tell your kid you love them.
Sometimes it just helps to hear the words 'I love
you', and your kids are no exception to that. You can never
tell them you love them too much, but you can tell them not enough.
Be sure to tell them a lot because in the end, they will appreciate
it.
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Posted by Tue Nov 25, 2008 5:59am PST
Report AbuseMy goodness! People are so critical of others!! The author is very upfront that there are probably spelling and grammatical errors. If that is such an issue, why read the article then? Just to try and knock someone down a peg? Maybe just to make your pitiful selves feel better? Most likely. Yes, the points listed should be common knowledge. Unfortunately, THEY ARE NOT. If you don't like what you're reading, just move on and keep your hateful attitudes to yourselves.
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Posted by Tue Nov 25, 2008 1:17pm PST
Report AbuseRosalie, you are obviously a very bright young woman and I believe you will go far in your life. I wish you the best and thank you for reminding us all of the simple rules of parenthood. Continue on the path you are on. I'm willing to bet some of the best authors in the world have difficulty spelling, so don't let that slow you down!
It is so easy for adults to forget there are good teens out there. Let's hope this is a reminder to us all!
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Posted by Tue Nov 25, 2008 9:21pm PST
Report Abusegreat job rosalie. it sounds to me that at age 13 you are way more mature than your years and your bio-mother. im proud of you for speaking out and offering a teenager's point of view. several points you made were obvious to many but unfortunately, not so obvious to others. if people did not take away something from your article, they must not need it or believe they already know everything. hopefully, others who do need your insight will read this article and become a better parent for it. keep up the good work young lady. several of us are proud of you.
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Posted by Thu Nov 27, 2008 2:17am PST
Report Abuseheres the thing why are we listening to a 13 year old telling us how to deal with our children. I am a father of 6 kids and each one is different. I firmly believe in controlling your children and their actions so they do not have to learn from their mistakes and see how other kids learn because of the ignorant parents raising them.I do not trust my kids and nor shoulfd any parent out there. We try to believe we can trust them and hope for the best, but as much as you try the friends they are involved with ultimately do have an influence on our kids. And it is those kids with the truly ignorant parents who are having an impact on our children and how they think. So keep a tight leash on your kids and only trust them to brush their teeth and wash behind their ears. Kids can be liars and manipulators, not all but most. Good Luck and Happy Holidays...
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Posted by Thu Nov 27, 2008 1:22pm PST
Report AbusePeople what is up with the rude comments? If you read it then you know a 13 yr old wrote it.
Rossalie I think that your article was very heartfelt and true. For being a 13 yr old you are very smart.
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