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Sunday, December 6, 2009

6 Things he REALLY wants for Father's Day

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Granted, every father has a different take on his big day. Some guys want techie gifts. Some guys yearn for a guilt-free round of golf. Some guys want scrawled evidence from his kids that they think he’s the greatest human being alive—the more primitively personal the card, the better; this ain't a Hallmark moment. It goes without saying that the greatest gift in the world for a father is a hug from his tykes (and a kiss from the woman who deserves most of the credit, anyway), but he'll also appreciate a little something extra on the greatest guy day of the year. (OK, maybe second greatest, after Super Bowl Sunday.) If you're searching for some novel ideas to rescue you from the tie cliche, here are some can't-miss suggestions:

1. Thirty Minutes Quiet Time on the Couch
The man's tired. It's three o'clock, he's on the couch, Tiger and Lefty are battling it out in the U.S. Open (but not on the climactic holes, yet), and he wants to drift off for 20 to 30 minutes free of a child's request for quality time, or the next mission on the Honey-do list. Sleeping in is nice, but a mid-day Sunday slumber? A little slice of fatherly heaven.


2. A Bathing Suit
If you're going to buy him clothes, skip the tie or shirt. Those are for the office, for cripesakes! Buy him a gift that he wouldn't buy himself, and one that comes with the subtle message that you like seeing him at his ease, wearing as little clothing as possible.

3. A Kick-Butt Pen
Guys spend most of their time punching keys or thumb-typing on phones, but there are still times when we need to pull out a ink-filled missile to sign a new deal or pen a heartfelt note. Give a man a pen with substance and style, and it will be loved, coddled, and protected almost as much as his putter. Almost. (You can never go wrong with a Montblanc Meisterstuck.)

4. A Neck Massage
Between staring at the computer, sitting in traffic, coaching her soccer team on Saturdays, and closely tracking the battle between Lefty and Tiger, the man is bound to be tight and tense. While he won't argue with any attention that you may pay to his body, he could really use a hard squeeze on his neck. Really dig in, then slide your hand down to his upper back to find the muscles that's holding all the tension. (This article will give you some ideas.)

5. A Framed Drawing from The Kids

Kid's name, kid's drawing, and a few kid words complete with backwards E's. Frame it and that little masterpiece is going front and center in his office by Monday morning. And you thought what really brought him joy was a universal remote?

6. A Weekly Babysitter
I know, it's counterintuitive to hire a babysitter every week to help you and dad escape the kids. But look at it this way: The relationship between husband and wife is the foundation of the family, and you're not helping the kids if the foundation cracks. Invest in the relationship, and everybody prospers. So buy tickets to the art-house film series or the local theater festival, and commit to time away with him. It's a gesture that benefits everybody, from dad down to baby Jane. Here's how to plan the perfect romantic getaway.

And to help him become an even better father and husband, share this article with him.

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  • Thomas P's Avatar
    Posted by Thomas P Fri Jun 13, 2008 11:29am PDT

    The best Fathers Day gift for me is getting exactly what I am getting. My daughter, who lives with her Mom as the result of a divorce, wants to spend a weekend with just her Dad. I am very happy SHE chose this present for me. We are staying at a nice hotel in Chicago, walking around photographing Chicago life, and going to the 95th for brunch on Sunday. Nearly 48 hours of just my daughter and me time - that is the best Fathers Day gift for me.

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  • EDUARDO's Avatar
    Posted by EDUARDO Fri Jun 13, 2008 11:41am PDT

    why do all these articles always reffer to a father figure that works at an "office", and watches "golf", and wears a "tie". how about the father who came home from school from teaching some kids, or the one who came home from the shop after working on cars all day, the factory employee, the janitor, the hot dog man, MY DAD.

    rrrrrrrrrrrr, i dont know what to get my pops............. he doesnt fit into any category of all the articles i see. this sucks i can never get him a good gift. :'(..... lol he always 'looses' them.

    Eddie

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  • PsychoBillyCadillac's Avatar
    Posted by PsychoBillyCadillac Fri Jun 13, 2008 11:50am PDT

    1. A kick-butt pen? Where's my pen..my pen? I don't have a pen. I don't want a pen. This dad would say, "WTF?" if he got a kick-butt pen.

    2. Thirty minutes quiet time on the couch? Again, wtf! Try, all weekend on the dad gum couch...30 minutes? Are you serious? It's Father's Day WEEKEND...and it started whenever I got up TODAY!

    3. A framed drawing from my kids? I already have those...I don't need a NINTH framed drawing from my kids...How about giving it to MOM on Mother's Day and see if she likes crap like that!

    . . . I don't need a bathing suit. . . I have one and I like it! A weekly babysitter would be nice! A sWexy, hot one would do and mom can take the kids wherever! While she's here (the babysitter), she can give me my neck massage...but we will make it full body massage! Now that's what dad REALLY wants for Father's Day!

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  • The Lumberjack's Avatar
    Posted by The Lumberjack Fri Jun 13, 2008 11:51am PDT

    David Zinczenko must be the pen name for a woman, because surely a man did not create this list!

    We (men) could sit around for 100 years making a list and a bathing suit would be no where on it. We're just getting warmed up after 30 minutes of napping - we require at least two hours. We have more than enough pens - thank you very much. We use our kids drawings for fire starters and our wives are our babysitters - we don't need to hire one.

    The real man's list:

    1. A HD Big Screen TV.

    2. A new shotgun.

    3. A new set of golf clubs.

    4. A new deer rifle.

    5. A remote control that always stays where we left it.

    6. A new bass boat.

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  • Edward's Avatar
    Posted by Edward Fri Jun 13, 2008 12:32pm PDT

    THANK GOD FOR LETTING ME HAVE THE MOST WONDERFUL KIDDS,AND BEAUTILFUL WIFE TO SHARE THAT DAY WITH!

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  • Paul C's Avatar
    Posted by Paul C Fri Jun 13, 2008 12:41pm PDT

    First, if your going to leave a comment, learn how to write! Second, this artcile is clueless about what a father wants for father's day! Wanna get Dad something good...how about an xbox 360!!!

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  • Migra's Avatar
    Posted by Migra Fri Jun 13, 2008 12:56pm PDT

    Those are great ideas for pencil pushers. Buy him a fishing rod, camp gear or a gun. Dad's that work outside of an office and enjoy the outdoors would appreciate something they can use.

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  • jeff's Avatar
    Posted by jeff Fri Jun 13, 2008 2:38pm PDT

    Real men don't punch keyboards or thumb phone keys all day! That's Womens work! I'd just apreciate a phone call from my daughter.

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  • Mc cool's Avatar
    Posted by Mc cool Fri Jun 13, 2008 2:59pm PDT

    Fathers day is just another worthless holiday. People think they must spend money to buy a gift. Fathers, Mothers, and all of our family members, deserve to be thanked for kind acts they have done over the years. We do that every time we see them. I am a father and I want nothing but my daughter to say I love you Dad. She does not even have to say it that day because she says it every time we say good bye when she goes out. No gift or cards needed. All holidays are like that now. I am cutting out the buying of gifts at Christmas. No one wants crap anyways. You can get rid of the madness of the rush by giving up giving too. It feels good not to waste money. With gas prices and the government robbing us blind in taxes we should stop buying junk in general. Kill the economy and the government taxes on products. We win they lose. They just find other ways to rob us. So drink heavy and break the law legally.

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  • Mc cool's Avatar
    Posted by Mc cool Fri Jun 13, 2008 3:09pm PDT

    Take the tie and strangle yourself with it. Men want no gifts on fathers day, or cards or anything. Just the love of the family. Save the money folks. Don't buy crap noone needs. Cards are worthless too. You read em set em on the table like you are going to display it. In the morning it goes into the trash. Thought forgoten money wasted. Company profits on garbage product. Don't shop for any holidays. They all cause stress and suck anyways. Enjoy Christmas for Christ. The rest of the holidays are just freebies by our cheap ass bosses that the government ordered for them to give us off. Memorial Day, The 4TH of July, Labor Day, Thanks Giving, Good Friday for Easter, New years day. That is the day we think how much the next year will suck. So save the money folks. If you don't drink, pick it up as a habit. Beer makes the world go round. See ya.

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