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Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Birthdays on a Budget

Phew! My youngest son just turned four and the last few days have been a whirlwind of activity.  I feel a bit bad for him because he's never had a birthday party before.  We just always felt he was too young. And, to be perfectly honest, his birthday is so close to the holiday season, money is always tight and a birthday party is the last expense we need!

But now he's four.  He's being invited to parties and he wanted one for his birthday.  So, we decided to throw a party, but did not want to spend a lot of money. 

I'm a bit believer is Birthday's without Pressure.  I don't feel the need to compete with other parties, to reciprocate invites or to invite everyone in my kids' classes.  I set a limit on the number of invites (usually their age +1), then ask them who they want to invite.  Helps not only keep the chaos minimal, but it also keeps the cost down.

So, what can you do to make sure your kids have a fun party without going over the limit? 

Make sure you have a budget and do your best to stick to it.  It's much easier not to over spend if you keep track of what you're spending.

Explore your options.  It's fun and exciting to go to an indoor play and party specialty places.  But they can be very expensive.  I know some people are willing to pay extra so they don't have anything to worry about.  Unfortunately, I don't have that luxury! Look around and be creative.  If you can't have the party at your own home, try local parks and playgrounds or your local community center.  Or, instead of paying for the full party, pay for a small group of friends to go to a play place, then back to your house to finish up the party with cake and ice cream.  Or consider off-peak times.  Some play places offer considerable discounts for weekday parties.

Keep it simple!  There is no need to spend money for the kids to be entertained.  Print up some coloring pages, throw down blocks, Lego's, cars, doll's or whatever your child likes to play with.  I had our box of Legos and some puzzles and the kids had a great time.  Throw kids together with some toys and they will entertain themselves!

Don't feel the need to feed the kids a meal.  Or, if you want to, pick something quick and easy. Our local pizza place has $5 cheese or pepperoni pizza's available all the time.  It was quick and easy and the kids loved it.  If you don't want the added expense, then have the party between meal times and just have a few snack-type treats.

Make the cake yourself.  If you're keeping it simple and small, making a cake is a breeze.  Not only do you keep the cost down, you also cut down on left overs!  And to decorate it?  Look at your child's favorite toys, clean them up and use them on the cake -- Pokemon figures, Thomas trains, Polly Pockets, Dinosaurs... whatever you have, use it.

Finally, use your resources and use what you already have.  Can't bake? Perhaps you have a friend that can.  Ask her and this can be the birthday present. Do you know people that own any businesses that may give you discounts on party supplies or bounce houses for your yard?  I looked at what I had on hand when it came to the goody bags (which are optional).  I had been given lots of Kung Fu Panda activity CD's and had lots of left over Halloween candy. 

With a little planning and creativity, it is possible to throw a fun, exciting party for your kids for under $100.  The final cost for our birthday party was $75, and $25 of that was the clubhouse rental.  All together there were 20 people -- 12 kids and 8 adults.  Every one had a great time and no one missed any bouncy castles or people dressed up as a big mouse.

It's not about being "cheap" or "thrifty" -- it's about being "resourceful" with your budget and making the dollars stretch!




Mimi Jenkins blogs about educational and enriching things to do in her city daily at Being Savvy Atlanta.  She is also a stay at home mom to two boys who keep her on her toes.  She also has a personal blog where she blogs about life with the boys at The Things We Do.
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  • Blahbee's Avatar
    Posted by Blahbee Thu Nov 20, 2008 11:17pm PST

    This is lovely. My daughter's birthday is right after Thanksgiving, so we call this season The Big Three--Thanksgiving, Birthday, Christmas. My husband calls it The Broke Three because of the expense! Another great idea is to have a birthday party at a dollar theater if your city has one. That's what we are doing this year. So inexpensive and the kids don't know the difference!

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  • 311 is Life's Avatar
    Posted by 311 is Life Fri Nov 21, 2008 7:03am PST

    Sounds cheap to me.

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  • Mimi-pz's Avatar
    Posted by Mimi-pz Fri Nov 21, 2008 9:35am PST

    Maybe cheap, but the kids and adults had fun. And why go into the poor house to compete with other parents? I'm not going to throw a big party I can't afford. Especially in today's economy. I want my kids to learn that "bigger isn't always better."

    We all had fun. The kids ran around and got tired out, the cake was the biggest hit -- more so than any store bought ones of my past. So, you say cheap... fine. But don't judge what you don't know.

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  • JosieM111's Avatar
    Posted by JosieM111 Fri Nov 21, 2008 12:31pm PST

    Kids don't want more than to have fun running around, eating pizza and then eating cake. What more is there to birthdays then that? Love these ideas - love the suggestion of getting back to the basics and leaving excess behind.

    The Lego cake is brillant.

    j.

    www.lifeofjosiem.com

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  • Scsedey143's Avatar
    Posted by Scsedey143 Fri Nov 21, 2008 1:01pm PST

    My son is turning 4 on December 2 and for the past 3 years I have thrown large parties at our house for him and since he was not in school, most of the kids were kids of our friends. That made our parties so large because it ended up being more adults than kids. Then I fed everyone and bought theme plates, cups, napkins, cake toppers, table clothes and goodie bags. By the time my husband and I were done spending it cost us upwards of $500-$700 with his gift. But this year we can't. In this economy, we do not have the money now and with Christmas coming, I would hate to undermine santa (even though his sleigh is a little lighter this year too). Anyway, I did some research too and I decided on McDonalds and I will tell you, I am thrilled. So far, our day includes 1 hour and a half of time (and that is fine with me), a cake, decorations, 10-12 kids, a happy meal each, someone sets up and cleans up and I will throw in a little extra an order a platter from the dollar menu for the adults. I could not be happier with how happy my son is. He doesn't get McDonalds too often and so to him its a big treat with an indoor playground and his friends are coming and this year in total with the gift, we are spending $175. which is a huge difference from prior years. I am thrilled by this. So, I don't think you have to spend a ton to make your kid happy and feel special.

    I don't think its cheap either. Its about how much fun the kids have. I don't think my 4 year old knows how much I have spent on any year.

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  • brandi d's Avatar
    Posted by brandi d Fri Nov 21, 2008 1:14pm PST

    i took a class at my local craft store and learned how to decorate cakes. i save tons of money on cakes for family functions plus my friends always have me bake cakes for their kid's parties. i charge $20 a cake. thats better than store bought cakes plus they are tasty and look way better 'cause i have time to spend on 'em and its just overall rewarding for me.

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  • Brenda, Shine Community Manager's Avatar
    Posted by Brenda, Shine Community Manager Fri Nov 21, 2008 1:53pm PST

    Mimi-pz, Is that a lego cake? If so, how did you make it? I think it's so clever!

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  • geenabee's Avatar
    Posted by geenabee Fri Nov 21, 2008 7:14pm PST

    Great ideas. McDonald's is a great idea too; I think I'll check into that. My 5yo's B-day is Jan 4, right after Christmas/NewYears. We've done ChuckECheeses twice, and I really think we need to keep it low key this year. I was thinking about the Nat Sci center. They do an exploration party w/discounted child tickets, and time in the picnic area. It's still kind of expensive, but it would be unforgettable for Nate.

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  • itsallaboutska's Avatar
    Posted by itsallaboutska Fri Nov 21, 2008 8:58pm PST

    i love the lego cake!! I think this is a great idea...it's not cheap; it's smart. I've always found those parties to be the ones you remember better..you can only go to Chuck E. Cheese so many times before it becomes routine, but in your home, you can do whatever..and it's always something different. Great ideas :D

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  • dvlsh1's Avatar
    Posted by dvlsh1 Fri Nov 21, 2008 10:35pm PST

    I love the lego cake. I love the idea of getting back to basics. Im a single mom and I live on disability income so I can't afford to have big blow out birtday parties for my two kids. A freind of mine has 3 kids and spends 200 dollars + for each child's party. Im glad she can afford it but I sure cant. Heck when I was a kid a "typical party" was you invited a few freinds had cake n ice cream opened gifts played musical chairs pin the tail on the donkey n everyone went home.

    No one ever had hurt feelings, or whined they were bored. This year at my daughters bday party I just ordered $5.00 pizzas from dominos had generic soda n a cake. My freinds daughter and her cousin ( both kids are freinds with my daughter) asked me " where are we going what are we doing?" I said "this is it." I didn't know what else to say! I think simple parties are great and I can afford them a lot better then some party that would cost as much as a month's worth of food or power.

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