Parenting
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
Can a mom love an ugly baby?
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- by CafeMom, on Thu Jun 25, 2009 10:37am PDT
A new study says that moms
may love pretty babies more than others.
During the study, done by Mclean Hospital, 27 volunteers looked
at images of babies on a computer screen—some were healthy and some
had abnormal facial features. The volunteers could keep the image
on the screen longer than the scheduled four seconds, or remove it
early.
Both men and women kept the attractive babies on the screen, but
women tended to shorten the viewing time of abnormal babies. While
there are many reasons the women may have avoided the less
attractive babies (feelings of empathy, sensitivity to
the images, etc.) the researchers concluded that women are less
inclined to gravitate toward a child with physical
abnormalities.
All I know is that my daughter is gorgeous (aren't all
babies?), and I love her to death.
Does a mother love a baby no matter what it looks like?
Or do you think pretty babies get special treatment?
Written by Suzanne Murray for
CafeMom's Baby Buzz
Related: ugly baby, pretty baby, mother, love, looks matter, cafemom, baby's looks, babies, attractive children
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Posted by Super Abuelita Wed Jul 1, 2009 11:19am PDT
How about "Can a baby love an ugly mother?"
Every mother I know loves their babies, regardless of looks, disabilities, etc.
If the baby is considered UGLY where did they get their looks?
This is truly an assinined question to ask. I am disabled, and have been since birth. Although my mother could have put me in an institution to get help, she raised me, along with my dad.
She taught me self esteem, morals, values, unconditional love, along with so many other lifelong decisions.
I have had 4 beautiful children, and 6 beautiful grandchildren. Nothing in this world could make me feel as if looks mattered.
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Posted by Mammina Thu Jul 2, 2009 12:44pm PDT
Crazy article. To every mom her baby is the most beautiful in the world and for her there is not such thing as an ugly baby. The persons who looked at the photos were not looking at their own baby so this theory does not make any sense really.
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Posted by starfedra Thu Jul 2, 2009 3:50pm PDT
I understand where the author of this article is coming from, as well as all the moms posting here, when I was in high school our neighbor had a baby and when they came over to show him to us my parents were congratulating the couple and my mom holding the baby was just oh and ah, and saying how cute he was, I took a look and my face just revealed my parents what I thought, the new parents asked me what I thought, caught me off guard and my mom answered for me, I went inside right away and told my brother, don't go out, they have the ugliest baby I had ever seen, (I know, mean!! but I was only 16 and did not know a thing about babies) well, that was the only time a baby has looked ugly to me, now I have my own and understand what all the moms have said, when they are your own they are beautiful to you, no matter what and we will never be able to see if our baby was not attractive, now like super abuelita posted, there's the other side of the spectrum, my mom is far from being considered attractive but she is my mom and we as kids would never judge our mom based on looks, she is my mom and I love her, to me she is beautiful even though she doesn't think so herself.
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Posted by Ms. Priss Fri Jul 3, 2009 4:46pm PDT
we come to life via the ugly,{hence}"want to bump uglies? humans are as beautiful as. we make ourselves 'Eyes of the Beholder,"
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Posted by L Sun Jul 5, 2009 8:56am PDT
Looks definately do matter. My second child looks just like his dad. By the time he was a few months old, I had come to LOATHE the father. Of course I love my son to pieces, but I wish he didn't remind me so much of you-know-who. When he makes me mad I think "JUST like his @#%&*@ father".
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Posted by TinaL Sun Jul 5, 2009 2:46pm PDT
Where did the saying "he has a face only a mother could love" come from?
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Posted by Cursed Romantic Sun Jul 5, 2009 5:53pm PDT
Ugly just like beauty is in the eye of the beholder is what I say. So if a baby looks ugly to one person they could be cute as ever to the parents.
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Posted by nockey Thu Nov 5, 2009 6:53pm PST
Honestly, when I was in the delivery room waiting for my baby to come out, I was very nervous. I really thought of that and I was very nervous and also I was nervous about if i was going to pass out because this was my first. As soon as my daughter was born and they turned her around and I saw her face, I said "wow". Those were my first words. I have been a super proud dad ever since. We have made a super cutie category baby and it has motivated me to love her and do anything and everything for her. We have gotten so much attention everywhere we go, there were crowds around us swimming in lakes with girls, we couldn't be to ourselves, it was like our daughter was a celebrity. This is the truthful part of me, if she would have been born ugly, I don't think I would be as enthusiastic as I am now. I would still love her, but I think my motivation and self esteem would be different, and I would take a look at my uncles, sisters nephews, cousins and grandparents to see what went wrong. I would have just gone with the flow of taking care of her, because by law, I would have to and eventually I would have broken up with my wife because I would have thought we were a bad couple to make babies together and I don't think that this article is about deformity of any kind in babies, because I have seen deformities and I have still seen beautiful babies, but I have seen one perfectly healthy baby who was ugly. Even the mom didn't seem to be proud. She didn't show her baby to anyone, she tried to hide it, low budget stroller, low budget clothes, no conversations between her and anyone else, no compliments were said to her by anyone. These are just my honest true feelings.
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