Coping With Nosey Family Members While Pregnant

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  Posted by Straightfoward(lovely lady) Fri Sep 5, 2008 6:19pm PDT

  Family can be so fun, can't they? I went through this 14 years ago with my first born. It was i did not do this right or that right. People too frequently told me i was bigger than a whale, but guess what i lost it all so i had something to rub in on them...lol. It will get better, and remember you and that baby are the most important... Just really be honest and tell them how annoying it is to you to do this. I am sure no-one really realizes what they are putting you through. It will be ok....congrats on the baby.

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  Posted by SomeOneUpNorth Fri Sep 5, 2008 7:51pm PDT

  Yes i know what u are going through when i was pregnet with my son i went through all of the same s---. It get annoying yes but they love u all u can do iss listen to them and ignor what they say.lol sorry thats what i did .. good luck sweety only 4 mounths togo! just tell them how u feel and that u are upset about it. maybe they will back off.

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  Posted by Juli Sat Sep 6, 2008 12:29am PDT

  i just needed to spend a little less time with certain family members while I was prego, and afterwards too. When they asked why they hadn't seen or heard from me in a couple days it was a good chance to kindly say that I was having a hard time with everybody acting like I didn't know what I was doing...that I was frustrated with the barrage of opinions. That I know my body and I trust my doctor. Focusing on the doctor is great because they have more authority than what someone read on the internet yesterday.

  I even had comments about my choice to try to breastfeed my soon. I was having a really difficult time and was constantly working with the lactation nurse at our hospital. The family response? Well, I didn't breastfeed mine and they turned out ok. Augh!!!

  I know they all mean well, but sometimes they need to be told, in the nicest way possible, shutup. Sometimes avoiding them after a particulary brutal family event is just easier...

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  Posted by Anonymous07 Sat Sep 6, 2008 7:55am PDT

  Let them know exactly how you feel and hopefully they will see that they are annoying you and try to be a little more respectful of your feelings. They think that they are just trying to help, but really they are only driving you insane. I went through the same thing. I had to grin and bear it because my family is overbearing and they don't care either way. Hopefully yours is a little different. Good luck!!

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  Posted by Misty Sat Sep 6, 2008 8:21am PDT

  I know how you feel. My first child with my x husband his family was a nightmare. from the begining in their eyes it was my fault because they thought he didn't want to have children. they cause havac everyday till they disowned my x for sticking up for me and our child. what got me was when i delivered they had shown up at the hospital acting like all was good and there were no problems yet it had been 3 mths since we'd seen any of them. now i'm pregnant again. i'm only starting into my 4th mth and am already showing (i did with my 1st son too) and the love of my lifes family mostly mother has been trying to literally drill it in my head it's a girl and no if and's or butts about it. that's all i ever hear. plus trying to tell me that i need to this, i need to do that. it's so annoying. then there is his father, bless his heart, who thinks he can come up with a name. no we are talking names like ceasar, julius, and other names of sort or from like names in fantsy games. that part i can handle cause it's kinda cute and funny and like "oh my god". I really feel your pain. some people just don't understand pregnancy and preparing for a new baby can be stressfull at times as it is without all the "advice" people try to give. sometimes with what people say i think to myself if they want to be so "involved in the outcome" maybe they should be the ones pregnant!!!!!

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