Dating while pregnant

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  Posted by Jeb Thu Jul 2, 2009 11:46am PDT

  Uh, I imagine the husband will have something to say about this......

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  Posted by Phoenix Thu Jul 2, 2009 12:09pm PDT

  Posted by Sue 3 minutes ago:

  "In this society that has few values I can see why many of you are giving her kudos."

  Sue, in an ideal society of civilized people, there is value in compassion, tolerance and understanding. There is value in support and love in times of hardship. Being single, pregnant and looking for a partner is surely one of those times. You are extremely quick to pass judgment on a person and situation of which you have very little knowledge. There is no evidence at hand suggesting that baby suffered as a result of this woman's choices. There is an entire world of people out there, with beliefs and standards that vary widely from one end of the spectrum to the other. Open your eyes and realize that nobody needs to conform to your own personal set of morals except you. Practice some humility.

  Love,

  Hates Intolerance

  P.S. When I said I understand the social stigma, it's because people like yourself create it.

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  Posted by Mrs. P Thu Jul 2, 2009 12:10pm PDT

  Lulu, I am old enough to know the responsibilies of being a single mom. I stick by my views on the subject, "honey".

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  Posted by Ester Thu Jul 2, 2009 12:16pm PDT

  YEAH I AGREE I BET SHE DUMPED HER BABY SO THAT SHE COULD "DATE" SHE'S PROBABLY A w----. ...LOL..

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  Posted by hotmomma Thu Jul 2, 2009 12:27pm PDT

  Wow- I'm hearing a whole lot of narrow-minded comments! Aren't we supposed to be more evolved than this? There are many circumstances in which a woman can become a single mother. Any person that has ever had sex in their lives JUST ONCE is at risk of becoming pregnant. ( And yes even if you are are on birth control so don't even try that one on me...) And I also know lots of married people who have kids together and they are terrible, uninvolved, absent, selfish parents and the children would be better off raised in foster care. Are these children better off simply because their parents are married to each other?

  The only stigma against single mothers, and single mothers who decide to date, is not necessarily society in general, but other competitive, jealous women! I am a single mother and I get compliments all the time about how well my child is behaved, so what does that say?

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  Posted by bellarosa Thu Jul 2, 2009 1:06pm PDT

  I am more surprised about the fact that pregnant women in NYC can find dates than I am about them dating (More power to any woman who can successfully navigate the NYC dating terrain - pregnant or not).

  I just do not know very many NYC guys (at least - the successful, high-powered ones) who would take on such upcoming responsibility. The exception being Seal and Heidi Klum - and I think they knew each other long before she got pregnant with her daughter.

  My personal opinion is that as long as the woman puts her child first at ALL times, I really do not care what she does.

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  Posted by Angela Thu Jul 2, 2009 1:09pm PDT

  I just don't think your main focus while being pregnant should be meeting guys and going on dates. I dont think it's necessarily BAD or unacceptable, and things happen and I'm sure a good mom-to-be would make it work, it just seems weird.

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  Posted by elle Thu Jul 2, 2009 1:37pm PDT

  I think that if a successful woman, pregnant or not, is able to meet and date a man she is interested who in who is also interested in her then more power to her! Who cares, if she is pregnant. Like a few other posters have said, being pregnant is such a different experience for women now then it was years ago.

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  Posted by Nicole Thu Jul 2, 2009 1:56pm PDT

  I think that it's interesting that people see her being pregnant as something negative. We have no idea how she got that way, whether by choice or possibly left by her partner who didn't want the responsibility, could even have been a widow like others have suggested. The fact that she choose to KEEP the babies is commendable and who cares if she dated, that doesn't mean that she was having sex with all of them. Not only that, the article doesn't tell us how long she dated into her pregnancy only that she was "showing" which could mean anytime since every woman "shows" at different times. I think it's wonderful that she kept her self in positive spirits and brought two babies into the world regardless of her obstacles!

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  Posted by Mary Ann Thu Jul 2, 2009 2:22pm PDT

  Why not date while your pregnant? She may date her future husband and step-father to her child. More power to her and good luck mama!

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