Deadbeat doesn't pay child support - I want FULL custody! In need of his recent court records, too.

my ex left the state we were divorced in several years ago.  within the first year of being gone he quit making child support payments.  He was previously married, so I knew he had a history of avoiding his obligations.

not receiving money from him consistently allowed my stubborn streak to kick in (I can do it myself!), and the headache of having less dollars in our pocket is significantly less than the headache involving money, contact, and visitation.  our state also determined that my earnings exceed the minimum to qualify the child for state health insurance, so I'm stuck paying full price for whatever service the child needs.  additionally, the child and i continue to live in substandard housing, making monthly contributions/rent to the pocket of the slumlord that manages the property.

over the previous two years, what income from the deadbeat that has arrived has been in the form of federal and state income tax returns and economic stimulus checks.  monthly statements from the collecting/reporting agency within my state declare over $20,000.00 remains owed by him.

court paperwork arrived from him earlier this year - he wants to modify the child support order, decreasing it by almost $200 each month.  his ability to provide financially is relative to his trade and training - he can and has earned more than $100,000 yearly.  the fact that he is not in the same professional industry now relates significantly to his inability to make good decisions (nailed using drugs!), and has created for him a unique place as a 'Ward of the State' he lives in.  i also was told that drug court in his state took precedence over any other financial obligations - in what world is this accurate?

last night i was online, and shelled out cash from my bank for one of those online criminal records reports, since i know all pertinent data - name, dob, ssn, etc.  with my heart in a frenzy, and the child banished to the bedroom for my right to search privacy, i clicked the links, and upon printing out copies of what there was, i was disgusted to note nothing newer than five years, and nothing on him from the state he's in!  court documents in my state show as public record - i can search for any court docs here online, but can't see what's in his state - are court records for-purchase items because i'm across state lines?

i need his criminal records from his current state of residence - i wish to ask the courts here to deny his request to modify child support. i also want to submit my own request to modify, showing significant change of circumstances in that i have provided sole support for in excess of 5 years, that with the distance between parental residences (out of state mentioned above) reduces feasibility that either parent can follow the custody arrangement as previously assigned by the court that maintains jurisdiction, and that his drug usage and abuse constitute reasonable grounds to award legal and physical custody to me, with supervised visitation at my discretion.

an attorney is out of the question - i have had to go months or years without insurance (or maintenance) on my vehicle (gasp!) so i could continue to afford small things like groceries, clothes, or laundry money.

i would appreciate anyone's help. i'll communicate with you, via email, if you'll post your address in the comments.  i have no idea if he or any of his friends go anywhere near Shine's website, so i'm cautious about using names or getting too specific.

thanks bazillions, Shiners!