Do we say "No!" too much?

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  Posted by stephanie Thu Jul 9, 2009 8:33am PDT

  No is good to use sometimes, but I don't repeat it more than two times, on the third she gets a time out and she understands better this way.

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  Posted by Leah Thu Jul 9, 2009 11:18am PDT

  I raised 4 kids. I said 'no' once and redirected their attention. If they did it again I repeated 'no' along with a swat on the diaper or hand and again redirected their attention. If they tried it a 3rd time, I repeated 'no' and put them in their playpen with no toys and walked away. Eventually they got the message.

  This also works on my 2 grandbabies.

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  Posted by BlueWaterBaby Thu Jul 9, 2009 11:19am PDT

  In our house, NO means NO! Do not keep asking because the answer will not change. Maybe when my son was a wee little tot and just learning the meaning of NO, I may have switched it up and used other words, like don't touch, no sir, HOT, etc. But now that he's old enough to know the meaning of NO period...I will say NO, sometimes along with an explanation so he'll understand why, because I know after I say "No", he'll say "why". But in the end, NO MEANS NO! No questions asked and we do not cave!

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  Posted by Kristina Thu Jul 9, 2009 10:27pm PDT

  I may have read this wrong, but I thought the point of the article was, the way we say no. For example do we explain to our children (depending on age) why the answer is "no", as in "If you pull on kitty you and kitty will get hurt" in a soft tone. Or do we learn to just spat no when we see our child going near the cat. After the 100th time to the grogery store, you know your kid will ask for that candy, so do you fiercly say no so they stop asking? Or do you try to keep explaing to them about how bad they are for you, or that you're about to have dinner?

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  Posted by K Fri Jul 10, 2009 1:36am PDT

  WHEN MY SON STARTED PRESCHOOL I NOTICED THEY USED THE PHRASE "NOT OK" I WANTED TO REINFORCE THE SAME RULES AT HOME AS SCHOOL HAD..SO WE USED NOT OK ALL THE TIME IT WAS SHORT SWEET AND TO THE POINT.

  "NO" WAS PRIMARELY USED WHEN THEY WERE IN DANGERN(CARS,STOVE,ECT) TO GET IMMEDIATE ATTENTION..

  I HAVE FRIENDS WHO USE EXPLAINATIONS WITH THEIR TODDLERS, I SEE THE CHILDREN TUNE OUT AND NOT UNDERSTAND.

  NOW MY CHILDREN R OLDER AND I EXPLAIN THAT I SAY NO BECAUSE I LOVE THEM. IT IS EASIER TO JUST SAY YES TO BRING PEACE AND QUITE, BUT I NEED TO BE THEIR MOM NOT THIER FRIEND.

  GOOD LUCK ENJOY EVERYDAY YOU ARE BLESSED!!!!!!!!!!

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  Posted by Kristy Fri Jul 10, 2009 2:26am PDT

  my parents say no WAYYYYYYYYYYY to much!!

  your only a kid once and i need my freedom!!

  theyy want me to work right when i turn into an adult and yet tthey always say no when i wanna play or go to the movies

  so im like

  if im not gona have any fun now than im not gona work when im an adult

  pshhhhhh ill just have fun when i turn 18

  i need fun in my life =DD

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  Posted by lovey Fri Jul 10, 2009 6:43am PDT

  For crying outside...a child can't understand a long explanation of why they can't do something. Just tell them no. Too many parents want to negotiate with their children. Who's the parent anyway? It's your job to tell them no, get over it.

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  Posted by Kikki Fri Jul 10, 2009 1:02pm PDT

  Just because the kid is using the word doesn't mean you use it too much. Maybe it just doesn't have any consequences behind it if they don't obey. Say it once and mean it. I accidentally let the s- word fly in front of my friend's 20 month old and she still repeats it back to me, from just one time. At least it sounds more like "sit" when she says it. I'm in the babysitter hall of shame for that one.

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  Posted by D Fri Jul 10, 2009 3:52pm PDT

  if you say no and mean it, then you can never say it too much and mean it. If you say no and don't mean it then you are always saying it too much

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  Posted by Gypsy woman Fri Jul 10, 2009 4:48pm PDT

  wait till the toddler is a kid and then no becomes we'll see or maybe, over & over. I must say those words at least 20 times a day.

  I think asking please don't and then saying thankyou work the best and teach the toddler manners they will need too!

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