The answer lies in making sure that we have a talk with our kids so that they hear our own messages about life, not just the media's. For example, with Jon and Kate, it's important that we remind our kids that this is just a show, and it only reflects one family's reality. In fact, every family is different, and each has different circumstances, experiences, and values when it comes to ending marriages. Whatever else they are, reality show meltdowns like the Jon and Kate divorce do provide teachable moments. Maybe they're ones you'd rather not address, but if you don't, you're letting your kids learn from TV personalities instead (probably not a good idea). Instead, why not do the following:
- Talk to your kids about how unreal reality shows are. They may not be scripted, but ask kids how they'd act with a camera in their faces 24/7. Also talk about the fact they're only seeing one hour out of 24. What got left out? Could an incident look totally different if different material was included?
- As far as Jon and Kate go, ask your kids what they know about or think of divorce. If your kids are watching the show, they should be old enough to have some opinions or experience on the subject.
- If your family has been through a divorce, talking with your kids about what they think will happen to the Gosselin kids could be very revealing -- and lead to some great discussions.
- Impress on your kids that every family is different, with different experiences and reasons for divorce. And, by all means, pass along your own personal feelings and wisdom on the topic.
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