Empty Nest Syndrome

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  Posted by sliver Thu Jul 10, 2008 6:55pm PDT

  call me

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  Posted by Ofeelia25 Thu Jul 10, 2008 7:27pm PDT

  What you're feeling is perfectly natural, and I feel for you. But look at it this way, now you get to find yourself again! I bet there were tons of things you always wanted to do, but couldn't because of your responsibilities. Now you can take a class, get into that hobby, or travel! Soon enough your house will be full again, with tons of grandkids! The important thing is to try to keep busy, even if it means getting a part time job, to keep depression at bay. ;)

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  Posted by Jan Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:17am PDT

  I know the feeling all too well. 4 years ago we drove

  my daughter to Residence at University and I cried all

  the way home. I only have one child. I would go in her

  room and sit and look around at "her stuff" and just

  wonder where the time went. The visits home were short.

  Well, with new friends and activities on the go, she

  was itching to always get back. You may find eventually as I did, that eventhough they are out there "finding themselves" because this is what it is all about, home

  will become comforting again to them for different reasons. These feelings will fade to a degree as you get used to the situation. I still get very teary-eyed when she leaves after a visit, but that will never change I don't think. In the meantime I agree with the advice to find something to do just for you. An in-depth hobby is very helpful. I work, so that keeps my

  mind occupied. Just keep remembering that you have done your job (and believe me, it's not over)and now they are doing what they have to do.

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  Posted by cheriss2020 Fri Jul 11, 2008 6:40am PDT

  I kno what your feeling. Last summer my youngest of 4 kids had her first baby, and had wanted to stay here at home for the time he was born (much to her fiance's dismay). After she had a chance to rest and feel better, she began moving out slowly, watching me the whole time, I think she was concerned about how I was going to feel. I tried to just put on a brave face around her... But inside I was crying the whole time. It was a hard long and lonely winter here. My husband was good about TRYING to understand what I was feeling. I realize its a natural thing that the kids grow up and leave to make homes of their own. And yet, with some women, it is still a thing that causes inner conflict with their maternal side.

  Its been almost a year here, and even though I have finally begun to feel a little better, when I look back at the year, I know I had to drag myself through a lot of those days. And lol, I'm looking for a puppy.

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  Posted by Henry & Theresa Sun Jul 13, 2008 6:52pm PDT

  i can relate because i am going though the same thing, now my hubsand wants to adopt a child ,i am un- decided ,but you know now is atime to do something for ourselfs, we have raised our children and my huband works all the time also so i know ,home alone ,try ladys night out, or join a group ,go back to school. i am going for photograhpy, it is hard ,because we have always been their, but it past but you never forget/......

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  Posted by Henry & Theresa Sun Jul 13, 2008 6:52pm PDT

  i can relate because i am going though the same thing, now my hubsand wants to adopt a child ,i am un- decided ,but you know now is atime to do something for ourselfs, we have raised our children and my huband works all the time also so i know ,home alone ,try ladys night out, or join a group ,go back to school. i am going for photograhpy, it is hard ,because we have always been their, but it past but you never forget/......

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  Posted by Henry & Theresa Sun Jul 13, 2008 6:52pm PDT

  i can relate because i am going though the same thing, now my hubsand wants to adopt a child ,i am un- decided ,but you know now is atime to do something for ourselfs, we have raised our children and my huband works all the time also so i know ,home alone ,try ladys night out, or join a group ,go back to school. i am going for photograhpy, it is hard ,because we have always been their, but it past but you never forget/......

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  Posted by Henry & Theresa Sun Jul 13, 2008 6:52pm PDT

  i can relate because i am going though the same thing, now my hubsand wants to adopt a child ,i am un- decided ,but you know now is atime to do something for ourselfs, we have raised our children and my huband works all the time also so i know ,home alone ,try ladys night out, or join a group ,go back to school. i am going for photograhpy, it is hard ,because we have always been their, but it past but you never forget/......

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  Posted by Suzanne Mon Jul 14, 2008 8:54am PDT

  I am a single Mother of a 18 yr old Boy. We were so close his entire life.I had to work my butt off.The night of his graduation party he told me he was moving to his Fathers house,I alomst died his Dad has a drinking problem.I really did not think he would do this I came home from work the next day he was gone.He will not take my calls,his My heart is broken,my house is sill

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  Posted by Suzanne Mon Jul 14, 2008 8:54am PDT

  I am a single Mother of a 18 yr old Boy. We were so close his entire life.I had to work my butt off.The night of his graduation party he told me he was moving to his Fathers house,I alomst died his Dad has a drinking problem.I really did not think he would do this I came home from work the next day he was gone.He will not take my calls,his My heart is broken,my house is sill

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