Parenting
Monday, November 9, 2009
Finding your kid's first love letters
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Suzanne over at
Mother in Chief has sent me on a stroll down memory lane. While poking around her mom's attic,
she recently came across a box of love notes from her junior high and high school days. Go check out the post -- she includes the exact text in all its typo-filled glory. It's wonderful and hysterical.
But back to parents and love letters.
Did your mom ever find a love letter a school sweetie gave you? Mine did and even though it was the most innocent note ever, I was mortified. I was probably in seventh or eighth grade and the letter just said something like, "Will you go with me?" along with the requisite hearts.
Suzanne's post talks about how her old letters were perfectly folded for a quick slip into her school locker, a detail that I just loved (I wonder if kid's even write love letters these days or is it all about texting).
Have you found love letters your kid has received? Did you read them?
Related: school crushes, parenting, love letters
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Posted by HotCrossBuns Fri Aug 15, 2008 3:20pm PDT
I was cleaning out under Kid1's bed one day during the summer after 1st grade,and I found a "letter" from the boy who had a crush on her. It was one of the usual " luvs ! Do u luv me bak? sirkl "yes" or "no". I giggled a lot and immediately took it to my bedroom and snuck it into my memory box. I can't wait to pull it out someday in the future when she's married and has her own child!!
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Posted by dawns Fri Aug 15, 2008 10:06pm PDT
this has not happened yet but i plan to read them lol
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Posted by SilverFlower123 Sat Aug 16, 2008 3:11pm PDT
My daughter has her own "memoirs" we laugh when we get together and go over them.
This is a sweet blog Charlene Prince :)
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Posted by choco_kat_ Sat Aug 16, 2008 11:20pm PDT
I remember when I was in grade school that my mom would think she "secretly" read love notes that I stash someplace I never thought she'd discover.. I say secretly because I fold them in an origami kindda way, and she'd never be able to fold it back. I would just later find it in the same place i 've hidden it but folded in a funny way. :)
I am a mother myself already but my kid's just 3 and a half years old. But i definitely plan on doing the same when he grows up. :)
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Posted by Yalanda Sun Aug 17, 2008 10:18am PDT
I was doing laundry one day and as always checked the pockets of the jeans and low and behold there was a note. I did read it and left it in her room after. We discussed it later and I was pleased to say my daughter was very open with me. Then 13yrs old now 15 and the communication is still open. Thank God!
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Posted by linna Sun Aug 17, 2008 6:47pm PDT
I found many letters in my son's drawer, I read them all. I know it's against what I taught them about privacy, but as mom I must be a detective. I didn't tell him what I did but later I will. I think he will understand.
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Posted by Maoni Sun Aug 17, 2008 11:15pm PDT
I remember my mother finding a love letter of mine and totally freaking out. I was made to sit down in front of my father and explain it and then listen to a 2-hour lecture thereafter. I felt so ashamed and betrayed. From then on, I was darn near methodical with being secretive and how I disposed of evidence. There was no discussion on how this was just one stage of many that teach humans how to interact with one another... definitely, no lesson on how to respond - whether interested or not (a lesson that would have done me well in the future). I don't think I would have minded it being read for content (making sure it isn't overly sexual) and then it being secretly returned. I am now a mom with a young son. Though I plan to be an active and concerned slouth, I'll keep the forum open so that small normal things are less of an issue and real integrity, morals, and honor isn't something he'd have to sneak about with when deciding how to act on love-letter puppy love.
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Posted by KB Mon Aug 18, 2008 10:09am PDT
I understand it at a mothers point of veiw, but think of the kids. We feel as if we hae no privacy. No one is perfect, if you feel that your kid is in danger, than go 4 it, search the room. But if everything is going good than leave it at that. My mother has invaded my privacy. We "were" best friends. I would tell her everything and anything. Now she knows nothing about me, except for the letters she finds. Do yourself a favor, give your kids space. I know i will never have the same relationship with my mom.
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Posted by Nikki Mon Aug 18, 2008 10:39am PDT
How odd that this is a topic! I recently got reaquainted with a 7th grade crush and he told me that he still had my love letters to him in a box.....those are over twenty years old now!!! That was so cool and sweet to me that someone would still have them!
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