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Tuesday, November 24, 2009

From Cookie mag: Jenny McCarthy is on a mission about the realities of mothering, romance, and of course, vaccinations

No matter whether you agree with Jenny McCarthy on vaccinations, gluten-free diets, or that autism can be cured, you have to admit that she is a woman on a mission.

In the September issue of Cookie magazine, she's even referred to as a "Mommy Warrior" for her activism and outspokenness on what she believes is the link between autism and vaccinations and her efforts to address spectrum disorders with diet and education.

She's not the type of mother to go quietly about the business of caring for her child's special needs, nor does she waste time or space on a page speaking diplomatically about the cause. She's ambitious, wanting to open schools for autistic kids, and she still seeks out time for herself, arguing that date night is non-negotiable. For that, I adore Jenny McCarthy. And even though our opinions on vaccinations differ, I love the way she speaks her mind because she is -- as Cookie also says -- "wickedly funny" and hardcore and very real.

Jenny McCarthy has certainly fallen under fire for being the way she is. Last year, actor Amanda Peet spoke out strongly against parents who choose not to vaccinate, calling them "parasites." [Read the interview with Amanda Peet here.]

Other parents joined the chorus (here on Shine and many other sites), prompting McCarthy to respond with a clarification that she is not anti-vaccination but is against the way they are administered to children who are potentially more vulnerable than others:

"I think vaccines are one of the greatest things ever invented," she said. "I used to be [Peet] before I had a kid with autism."


Here are a few more rallying words on mothering mistakes, why she loves partnering with Jim Carrey, and life with 7-year old son Evan, all from the warrior herself.


On her advice for parents who are conflicted about following their instinct or their doctor's advice.
"We're the generation of parents who are saying, 'Listen to us. We are the bosses of our children.' I want parents to realize that, and not get pushed around by doctors who say, 'Oh that's 100 percent safe.'"


On her work as a board member of Generation Rescue, an advocacy and research organization that calls for eliminating toxins and delaying shots.
"Vaccinations are safe -- dot, dot, dot -- for some kids. Vaccinations are not safe -- dot, dot, dot -- for other kids. Let's protect the ones who are weak. We are pro-safe vaccine. Vaccines are not just one size fits all. If you gave everyone in the world penicillin, there would be adverse effects for some people, and possibly deaths."


On her relationship with actor Jim Carrey, who has also spoken out about his commitment to increased autism research.
"It's wacky-weird that not only does he not want to get married, which I love, but he also doesn't want to have more kids, which I love."


And finally, a confession about what she thinks it is totally normal for parents to think.
"I can't stand my kid right now. And anyone who says that isn't true is not living in today's world of busy moms."


What do you think, now that you know more about Jenny McCarthy's mission?

Do you agree with her about matters of vaccinating, mothering, and love?


[photo credit: Matt Jones]
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  • Habanero♥™'s Avatar
    Posted by Habanero♥™ Thu Aug 6, 2009 6:41am PDT

    There are so many Jenny haters, or at least that is what I have read on Shine.

    I have found that people who do nothing and have no real causes in life take the stance that McCarthy is a zealot. At least she speaks out and does her homework, whether you agree with her or not.

    My girlfriend has as autistic son who is 5. She decided to take a different route and overhaul her son's diet. I saw the boy yesterday at a softball game I was playing in. The boy was driving a golf cart from one sport activity to another. A year ago he would not been able to even sit still in the cart.

    Is it coincidence? Maybe......maybe he has grown and matured a little.

    So if what McCarthy preaches is complete nonsense to some, if it gives even one parent and one child hope then I respect what she has to say.

    The last time this topic came to surface on Shine the haters came out in droves. I think we need to walk in her shoes and have a little compassion for the amount of work she has put into regarding thimerisol and vaccinations and her research into autism.

    The same was said about Suzanne Somers and Bio-identicals.

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  • MistressMinx's Avatar
    Posted by MistressMinx Thu Aug 6, 2009 6:53am PDT

    I think she has a good head on her shoulders and I give her credit for standing up and questioning what happened to her child and how to make things safer for our kids. I admire her greatly.

    I also agree with her - my child has not been vaccinated because I have seen what happens. And, I'm sure I'll be told I'm endangering my child, and questioned as to what kind of mother I am - same things that I'm asked when I tell people I had my child at home.

    And, I'll tell those people the same thing I tell everyone - each parent makes the choices they believe are best for their child. And, we live in America, so luckily I have the freedom to make those choices.

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    Posted by another hockey fan Thu Aug 6, 2009 6:55am PDT

    I'm not a fan of hers particularly, but I think when you are in the spotlight and you have the opportunity and ability to stand up for anything you passionately believe in (and like the previous poster said, have done your homework to back up your rationale) then DO IT! Never give up or back down. So what if some people strongly disagree and throw personal punches. The world is full of naysayers and those naysayers have naysayers.

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  • Richmond Native's Avatar
    Posted by Richmond Native Thu Aug 6, 2009 6:57am PDT

    For one month cut sugars and high processed foods from your child's diet, put them on a regular bedtime schedule and I am confident you will see a difference! Eat from the earth, you and your children will feel better!

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  • Habanero♥™'s Avatar
    Posted by Habanero♥™ Thu Aug 6, 2009 7:11am PDT

    Sunbeachrose: You may take a beating for your post but I, for one, agree with your stance. WHY not give it a try? Parents refuse to believe that food could possibly effect their child's behavior, their physical problems, their weight and their social abilities.

    I can't believe that parents are putting frozen Kids Meals in plastic containers into the microwave to heat them. These people are killing their kids but are too lazy to care.

    Eliminate HFCS and ALL processed foods for one month is a great idea. It won't happen, though!

    As much as I hate the McDonald's concept at least they had the common sense to rid their restaurants of Styrene containers for food and hot drinks, unlike Dunkin' Donuts.

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  • Sweetcakes's Avatar
    Posted by Sweetcakes Thu Aug 6, 2009 7:19am PDT

    I am a mother of a seven year old son with Asperger's Syndrome.....if it had not been for Jenny I would not have been able to find a better school for my son. I agree 100% with the fact that one vaccine does not fit all. I have a very low tolerance for precsription drugs....whenever I am given pain killers I cannot take the full reccomended dose, it makes me ill......so why would it not be natural for my son not to be the same....to require a less amount of vaccine or at least less at one time.....children are getting four to five shots at a time when they are only three months old...(check it out yourself) no one really understands the topic unless YOU have a child suffering from this. But equally I hate it when they always show children with severe Autisim as the example....it makes it very hard for people to accept my son who is "high functioning"....they need help too.

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  • April Hughes's Avatar
    Posted by April Hughes Thu Aug 6, 2009 7:32am PDT

    My daughter is "on the spectrum", and I have gone with my gut and had her vaccinated because if you know anyone who had Polio as a child, it's devastating. Children in the modern world have been protected until recently, when old diseases are making comebacks. No, vaccines are not safe for everyone, but they did not cause my daughter's disorder. Life has risks, but the risks of sustaining a vaccine injury are minimal compared to the many children who had polio in the middle of the last century. You are gambling with your child's health. My daughter has improved dramatically over the years, not through diet, or alternative medicine. She has received great services through her school, and has attended social skills groups. She is fully mainstreamed now, has typical friends. Many children overcome mild autism, as Jenny's child has done, and as mine has done. Don't let people scare you into not vaccinating your child, it doesn't cause autism, neither does diet. I know so many parents of children with autism, and the diet has not made one iota of difference in their behavior, unless they truly have Celiac disease or a gluten allergy.

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    Posted by saylavie Thu Aug 6, 2009 7:49am PDT

    You never heard of autism when I was younger. Was it around then too? Misdiagnosed, or not diagnosed? Makes you wonder. Are they so sloppy with the vaccine making now, and were better back when I was young? I doubt it. I wonder if it could be environmental, instead of the vaccine. Because we take so many short cuts today. Everything is microwaved, processed, and so on. I would fight too, though, if I believed as Jenny does that the vaccine is the cause.

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    Posted by April Hughes Thu Aug 6, 2009 7:55am PDT

    Saylavie, my daughter would have been labeled as "slow", or "quirky" many years ago, she is not severe, those children are around, but they don't account for the whole "1 in 150" going around now. My husband would have been labeled too, he was socially isolated, a bit slow to develop, but now he has a master's degree and is a wonderful person, even though he doesn't make a lot of eye contact. In some ways I don't mind the labeling, because it has made my daugther's school years better since she gets help and they are aware of her issues. If you think back, we all knew that weird kid in school who didn't fit in, or was completely dorky... Well they call that autism now, or "on the spectrum".

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  • xy's Avatar
    Posted by xy Thu Aug 6, 2009 8:18am PDT

    I am sorry but seriously I feel that when celebrities get caught up in the medical world it scares me just how much the public listens. I am a med student and there are no links of autism to vaccines. My instructors have told us time and time again that vaccines are to help our immune system grow to become stronger which adjuvants act like a lock and key to increase the response of the vaccine to our immune system thus creating antigens to have a greater defense against outside aggressors to whatever the vaccine was tailored to. I understand that people are frustrated and seek different avenues to convince themselves that whatever remedy they found is helping. Professionals are searching for the cure they are not meaning to harm anyone. Vaccines are safe. Please don't join the bandwagon.

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