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Monday, December 7, 2009

Giving up a child...........

                      A women that carried you for 9 months means the world to you, you also mean the world to her. A mother wants to make sure she gives her child the best life it can have whether its with her or another family.  For all mothers it is hard to give up there child. For some mothers it may look like it was easy for them but it wasn’t. How can someone carry a child for 9 months and give it up right after birth? When you carry that child for nine months you become close with the child. You have a connection with the child.  When you hold your child in your arms for the first time and feel the love you have for your child and your child looks you in the eyes for the first time how can you give it to another family? For some families a new baby brings joy for other families it brings sadness. Sadness from a miss carriage or to see go with another family. For a mother to give her child to another family and trust that the family will take good care of it and give it a better life then she could proves that that women is strong. No matter what she has been put threw in life giving up a child is the bravest thing any women could ever do. If you think its easy it isn’t. When you are pregnant you might think to your self I can do this and feel sad in the end but once you see the child you created it changes your mined. Keeping a child isn’t just about the love it is also about can you afford the child? Yes love is important and so is taking good care of your child.  To me my mother is the bravest person alive that I know so far. She gave up three or four of her own kids.  She had my older half brother when she was 19, then me at 20, then my younger half brother or sister at 21, and my younger half brother or sister at 22.  To do it once is hard but three- four times must be really hard. I can understand why she gave me and my brothers and sisters  up. I know she lived on her own and she didn’t have her parents support for whatever reason. She might have had a job to support one person and not two but for what ever reason I still care for her and still love her no matter what. I am going to look for her this year starting in December.

                                                     Only picture I have of her and me.

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  • Patriot's Avatar
    Posted by Patriot Mon Sep 21, 2009 5:38pm PDT

    Oh thats sweet, you are such a sweet girl

    Patriot

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  • Kenz at AllTheWeigh.info's Avatar
    Posted by Kenz at AllTheWeigh.info Mon Sep 21, 2009 5:45pm PDT

    I can't imagine how hard that must be....all the best to you and to her..

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  • Cutie's Avatar
    Posted by Cutie Mon Sep 21, 2009 6:34pm PDT

    good luck honey

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  • Ada Shadow~Dark pearl's Avatar
    Posted by Ada Shadow~Dark pearl Mon Sep 21, 2009 6:37pm PDT

    Wow.... 4 kids she had to give up? I womder if your half-siblings are thinkiong the same thing for looking for her.

    This really is a very sweet post, Katie. You look so cute in your mother's arms. I am sure that you will find her, and you will meet her.

    If she is not what you thought she would be, then that's okay. I just hope she knows that she has an amazing daughter.

    *Hugs*

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  • bunny's Avatar
    Posted by bunny Mon Sep 21, 2009 6:48pm PDT

    good for you! it takes a stong person to really understand and forgive in a situation like this. I have a feeling that your mom hasn't gone a day without thinking of you and your siblings. She probably feels really guilty and struggles with forgiving herself. I pray that you find her in good health.

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  • Jill S's Avatar
    Posted by Jill S Mon Sep 21, 2009 7:52pm PDT

    sometimes there are no real answers. no best solutions to a given problem or set of problems. we do the best we can.

    dont give up your search.

    after much thinking, there is another solution for unwed moms unsure of how they will be able to raise their children. couples with no children who adopt, find they will often need a nanny or sitter or child care site to watch them while they work. my suggestion is this: why not offer the mother to stay with them, then keep both the mother and the child in the house. this way, the child gets not only the real mother, but safety of a house, and 2 more parents. plus, this way the couple can determine if they are ready for this responsibility. then say at a year or by the time school starts, or whatever is decided, slowly break away? or sooner.. abrupt would be abandonment for the child. just thinking..

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  • wildchild's Avatar
    Posted by wildchild Mon Sep 21, 2009 7:53pm PDT

    MUCH LUCK TO YOU ON YOU'R SEARCH.

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  • Mary Frei's Avatar
    Posted by Mary Frei Tue Sep 22, 2009 2:01pm PDT

    Good luck to you on your search. Your birth mother was very unselfish to give you up. My husband and I would like to adopt and hope that one day soon we are lucky enough to do so. Hugs to you...

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  • legz's Avatar
    Posted by legz Tue Sep 22, 2009 2:03pm PDT

    awww that's a beautiful baby

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  • dANIELLEP's Avatar
    Posted by dANIELLEP Tue Sep 22, 2009 2:06pm PDT

    Awwwwwwww!!!! My eyes are watering Katie thats so sweet you look so cute.. as a baby lol.. My best wishes to you girl. Love ya!!

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