How do you cope with deadbeat dads?

I'm not feeling so shiny today. You see, my son was recieving his biological sperm donors social securtiy benefits, but because said sperm donor did something to make them cease, we've lost a third of our income. It doesn't help that I can't track the arse down long enough to start collecting the, what(?), $13,000 he owes in arrears. The social security was about all my boy got from his sperm donor, besides a visit to a therapist.

My poor kid. I have no idea how to deal with this, really. This was the money I was going to use to purchase our medical insurance. Now I have no idea how I will insure him!

Delivering the news of financial loss to my husband was painful. I finally had to say to him that I could no longer sit on the phone in silence feeling his stress and mine. I did suggest nailing my ex child support in time to collect any refund he may recieve. I have his social security number somewhere, which is helpful... when he isn't instutionalized.

In any case, I've developed a plan to lure out my ex into my cross-hairs. It's time.

I have the contact information for his family, though I do not know if it is current, I will try mailing them. I'm going under the guise that I want to take him up on his proposition that I buy him out of his paternity. (yep, he has previously made that offer)

Because there is a no contact order, I will use his family members to speak through and vice-versa. That way, I keep my life relatively calm while doing this. I don't need 500 phone calls a day from the arse or to have to go through the process of sending him back to jail. Not for this anyway. With the good sense of his family, I anticipate them using their better judgement for all involved, especially considering the large debt owed in child support.

So, how do you cope with deadbeat parents?