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  Posted by Arianna L Wed Jul 30, 2008 10:22am PDT

  I'm thirteen, and I think I'm too young to be dating...I'm in 8th grade. Maybe, if your daughter is mature and you know she wouldn't do anything, then It's okay.

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  Posted by *ANGEL* Wed Jul 30, 2008 10:26am PDT

  I AM 18 AND I HAD A BOYFRIEND AT 13 THAT WAS 16.MY ADVICE IS THAT IF YOU ALLOW HER TO DATE MONITOR IT CLOSELY.IT REALY DEPENDS ON THE GUY AND HOW EXPERENCED HE IS.THE GUY THAT I DATED WAS REALY SHY AND WE NEVER DID MORE THAN HOLD HANDS, AND WE DATED FOR 2 YRS.I WOULD JUST KEEP AN EYE ON THEM AND TRY TO MAKE SURE THEY HAVE PROPER SUPERVISION.

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  Posted by Linda V Wed Jul 30, 2008 10:27am PDT

  12 yr old still young to date.. Today things are different- but still too young...It should be more like friends. Now is the time to tell her about the birds and the bees...One mistake will carry a life time.

  or get her birthcontrol- pill. Try Psychology 101 on her,Be firm,

  but truthful. Keep activities going-busy, busy, busy. A parent

  just has it in there heart and Brain what to say. Good Luck.LOL

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  Posted by mintoes2006 Wed Jul 30, 2008 10:28am PDT

  No, way no matter if she is mature are not. She needs to wait till at least her sophmore year of high school.

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  Posted by figueroa3 Wed Jul 30, 2008 10:28am PDT

  Twelve is way too young to be dating. She has no business even talking to boys on the phone at that age. Squash it now or you'll have big problems later. Stay strict. She may not like it now but she'll appreciate it later. Good luck.

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  Posted by Patty Wed Jul 30, 2008 10:29am PDT

  When my daughter was 12 she had a boyfriend but they were only allowed to go to the movies or school sponsored events. In both cases I drove her and she met him there and I picked her up. There was no independent dating allowed. She was not officially allowed to date until she was 16. She did have a steady from 14 until she was 16 but he could only come to our house or she could go to his when parents were present. He was a little older and driving. I think girls can have boyfriends and meet socially at movies or the pool or rec center but they have to be supervised and not left to their own devices.

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  Posted by mrs timberlake Wed Jul 30, 2008 10:31am PDT

  It all really depends. When I was 12, a "boyfriend" was someone you held hands with at the school dance, now a days.. kids are growing up too fast. I dont think its too early for your daughter to be 'dating' just have enough trust in her that she makes the right decisions.

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  Posted by Sassy Wed Jul 30, 2008 10:31am PDT

  It's never too early to have a "boyfriend", however, the dating should be kept as a group thing until the age of 15 or so...in my opinion.

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  Posted by betty_yellow Wed Jul 30, 2008 10:32am PDT

  No I dont think its early.Its quite normal.I started dating at the same age your daughter did.Dont worry about it anymore

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  Posted by springtime Wed Jul 30, 2008 10:33am PDT

  She's too young to date, that's for sure. But, at school events... games, plays, dances whatever.. it would be natural for them to want to sit together, talk, etc. I was not allowed to date until I was 16, being totally alone with a boy. But from 13-16, I was allowed to be with other young teens in social group settings.

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