I am indeed a full-time mother, and yes, my daughter does watch Hannah Montana

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  Posted by boobug Wed Apr 30, 2008 11:40am PDT

  It doesn't matter if you are a stay at home mom or a working mom, you give birth and you become a full time mom. Unless you give you child to someone else to raise and never see them, you are a working mom with two jobs, one outside the home and one inside. I am a stay at home mom and I work hard but heaven forbid I try to do everything I do now and work. Women that work are some of the hardest workers I know. I hate people that cast blame on a mother whose chose to stay home or one who goes to work. Being a mother is hard enough without someone adding to the fears that most people harbor about being a good mother. This war has to stop because people get hurt on both sides and it is accomplishing nothing.

  Keep being a good mother Foodmomiac and ignore all those busy bodies out there that need to make someone else feel bad to make themselves feel good.

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  Posted by Gemini Wed Apr 30, 2008 12:29pm PDT

  I get what she is saying. I work because I have no choice but that doesn't mean that I take off my mom coat and put on my job coat. I'm always a mom, 100% of the time. I think about my kids all day and if I need to drop everything because they need me I do.

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  Posted by Alicea Wed Apr 30, 2008 3:20pm PDT

  I have been both. My baby is 10 months old and up to just a month ago, I was a working mom. I was laid off, now I am a stay at home mom. When my daughters pediatritian (I switched to another one) found out I was a working mother, she looked down on me. How dare I not be home with her. I need the money. We were struggling before becoming parents. Now that I am laid off and decided to see if we can afford for me to be home with her, people look at me as lazy and doing nothing all day. You can not win either way. I look at it as, no matter what my job status is, I am a mother. I will ALWAYS be a mother. No matter if you work or stay at home, it is a difficult job, but also a rewarding one.

  The biggest slack I have gotten is for bottle feeding my baby. When I gave birth, I was on heart medication that would have killed her if I breastfed. Therefore, as any responsible mother would do, I started her off on bottles. So many people look down on me for this. How dare I not breast feed her. I am depriving her of nutrients and will make her less smart or healthy. I should not have to explain why I bottle feed, but I find myself doing so everyday. My child is healthy, intelligent, and according to her doctor, advanced on all activities.

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  Posted by Brandis Thu May 1, 2008 2:10pm PDT

  Seriously! I hate the mommy wars, too. I used to be a working mom, but I quit to go back to school and am currently in limbo, so am technically a stay at home mom. Was I better as one than I was at the other? No. I am a good mom- a great mom, actually, and am obviously very confident about it. I don't need to bash other moms (I almost typed "and judge" after bash, but I can't lie- I judge other moms, but only the ones who let their kids get fat on junk or tell their kids they want to give them up for adoption, and I think I'm entitled!) who make a decision that is probably best for their whole family. I think that those stay at home moms who bash the working moms feel a little inferior because they are only a mom, and the working moms feel guilty for being away from their kids, so they attack each other. There are good mothers on both sides, but if you have ever watched Supernanny you also know that there are BAD moms on both sides (ironically almost all the moms on Supernanny are stay at home moms).

  And I totally agree about Hannah Montana. My daughter is too young, but I love Hannah and High School Musical (alright, make fun, I'm used to it) and think they are absolutely non-damaging. Children are going to be exposed to that no matter what you do, and by saying "no way" to the Disney channel parents are only making it that more appealing to their children. As usual I have an example- my parents were strict but not restrictive. They never made anything off limits, but we had limits on everything (if that makes sense). For instance, my sisters and I could wear anything we wanted- tank tops, short skirts, etc. But we never dressed slutty because our parents taught us to respect ourselves. My cousin, on the other hand, is totally sheltered- she was home schooled until junior high and never (even when she was little ) allowed to wear shorts or skirts any shorter than her knees (and of course her mom judged us for the way we dressed). My sisters and I never really rebelled and are now very well balanced and successful adults. My cousin almost flunked out of her first year in actual school and is rebelling against everything her parents have restricted.

  Anyway, power to you, and to all moms who are comfortable with their choices! The rest of you need to get a life:)

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