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Sunday, December 6, 2009

Is "Where the Wild Things Are" really for kids?

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I just saw "Where the Wild Things Are" over the weekend, and honestly, I never really thought of it as a children's movie at all. It may be based on a beloved children's book that's especially resonant with people of my generation, but a 90-minute meditative film by Spike Jonze doesn't really sound like kid's entertainment to me.

That is, not until people started asking me, "Should I take my kid to it?" And my first thought was, "Really?"

I know why people (especially my age) would want to take their kids to see it. It's a landmark book for them. But there's a big difference between Maurice Sendak's award-winning, 10-sentence book and this movie.

I loved the movie, personally. Director Spike Jonze really knows how to make the dream-like and surreal films I love (obviously not everyone's cup of tea). I thought it was tender, touching, and beautiful--both visually and emotionally. And I especially loved the characters, like Catherine Keener as the hard-working and loving mother.

But now I'm seeing stories all over that parents who take their kids to this movie are leaving either upset or bored and disappointed overall. One CNN article tells this story:

 "It was joyless. There were maybe 15 minutes of the hour and a half that my kids were into it," said James Griffioen of Detroit, Michigan.

His 4-year-old daughter asked, "Why is this movie so sad?" in the middle of their family's matinee viewing, while his son, a 20-month-old who normally can't get enough of the 1963 children's classic, was simply bored, he told CNN.


If anyone had done any advance reading on this movie, I think they'd probably agree that this is not a true children's movie, and I'm not even sure it was intended to be. It is rated PG in that it really doesn't have anything in it that's too violent, sexual, or profane for kids. But I always felt, from watching the trailers, it may just be too out there for a child to grasp or just not the good times that most kiddie fare delivers.

So having seen the movie now, I can without hesitation say you shouldn't take a young child to this movie. It's a relatively dark and sad movie, dealing with a child's struggle with divorce and loneliness. The emotions are tough to deal with at times, and it is incredibly sad at times. The monsters (or Wild Things) are not adorable and can be actually kind of frightening, especially when they're threatening to "eat" lead character Max.

Now, to the question of how old a child should see this movie, I'd recommend 10 to 12 years old at the youngest. This movie is relatively slowly paced and meditative, so if they're not frightened then they're likely to be boerd. Unlike some other kid's flicks that are sad but still inspirational ("Up" comes to mind), it doesn't TRY whatsoever to be enjoyable or uplifting in the end.

To tell you the truth; it was a tough movie even for me, an adult. In some ways, I felt like it was a movie that showed me the complexity of what kids have to deal with to cope with the hardness of life. And it made me want to be a better parent.

Bottom line: Avoid taking young children to "Wild Things" and go see it yourself if you really like that style of film. But as always, everyone knows their children best, so make your own call. Some kids may really get into the vibe of the film, and you may walk away feeling warm and fuzzy as I did. [CNN] [USA Today]
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  • Mrs. Carol B's Avatar
    Posted by Mrs. Carol B Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:22am PDT

    My grandson is 9 and says he doesn't care to see it. Not interested at all.........................

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  • BetsyE's Avatar
    Posted by BetsyE Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:37am PDT

    Obviously it is not meant for very young children. Hence the PG, rather than G, rating. However, I think we do children a disservice by only exposing them to movies and books that are instantly entertaining and full of giggles. Children have deep emotions, and ignoring those emotions by only taking them to Disney movies can lead them to feel like they ought to not show their troubling emotions. I think the movie is an excellent way to show kids that big, scary emotions are ok. I am recomending it to my brother for his 7 and 9 year old daughters. We have always treated my nieces as human beings with real thoughts and emotions, rather than treating them like pets or idiots. They are actually bored by a lot of the b-grade, shallow entertainment geared toward children. I think the movie is not just a kids movie (definitely good for adults too), but that it is appropriate for kids...at least kids who haven't been turned into video game/Disney/Bratz zombies.

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  • Candace's Avatar
    Posted by Candace Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:58am PDT

    My boyfriend and i went and saw "where the wild things are" this past weekend. Im 16 and he is 17 . we both really enjoyed the movie.. but i agree that it is not like the book at all.. i went to the theaters expecting to watch a two year olds kid movie that was going to have me bored out of my mind but instead i was entertained and i really enjoyed the movie

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  • pancakes's Avatar
    Posted by pancakes Tue Oct 20, 2009 12:37pm PDT

    The problem is that children of our generation and the children of now are very different mentally and emotionally. These kids have dora and spongebob and whatever else over stimulating crap they show on tv. We used our imaginations and read books and went on pretend adventures (hence our resonance with the film)

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  • cindy's Avatar
    Posted by cindy Tue Oct 20, 2009 1:45pm PDT

    Yeah...my 6 yr old son does NOT want to see that. He would rather watch Saw than that, but I wouldn't because it is too gorey.

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  • Katie W's Avatar
    Posted by Katie W Tue Oct 20, 2009 1:57pm PDT

    I am 35 and I wouldnt see Saw who in the right mind would

    I hope you told your Son no to going to see Saw

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  • fools_and_sages's Avatar
    Posted by fools_and_sages Tue Oct 20, 2009 6:16pm PDT

    Um. . SERIOUSLY?? You wanted the movie to be exactly like the book?? The book was like ten pages long with about ten sentences. That's about a 2 second movie. Show Max being ignored by mom. Show Max in a boat a couple times. Show Max meeting and dancing with the Wild Things. POOF! Can you say 5 minutes max?

    Maurice Sendak approves of what Spike Jonze did. Stop belly-aching. If the author approves, then the film maker's vision has been endorsed by the person who created the original material.

    Furthermore, while "Where the Wild Things Are" is based on a kids' book, the themes are very adult. It's about a kid who doesn't get enough attention so he creates a fantasy world where he is the center of attention, where he can go on dangerous adventures with creatures who are sometimes unpredictable and sometimes warm and cuddly, where he can figure out who he is with the help of these creatures because the humans in his real life aren't helping much on that front. For such a short book, the theme is highly existential and escapist. The average kid under 8 will think the monsters are either really cute or really scary. The will think Max went on a big adventure and was loved more by his mom when he got back. They won't be looking for the philosophical underpinnings of the story. Heck, neither will most adults.

    There were debates in 60s and 70s over whether Sendak's book was actually appropriate for children because it shows a child escaping into an imaginary world where he raises havoc. Apparently, that debate is nearly moot today. Instead we're going to focus on whether kids will enjoy it. That, my Shine Friends, is a testimony to where our society has gone wrong. We're no longer concerned about the values or the messages kids get from movies. Instead we're worried they might not like it. Kids don't have to like everything and everything is not kid-appropriate. If you don't like the messages in the film or book "Where the Wild Things Are", then don't read it to your kids and don't let them see it.

    Additionally, as one respondent pointed out, the movie is rated PG, not G. That should tell anybody with common sense that kids under 8 or so aren't going to appreciate it at all. And who takes a 20 month old to ANY movie? Probably the same people who take 6 year olds to see the new Halloween and Friday the Thirteenth movies or people who take 6 month olds to the movies and let them cry through the whole thing or people who let 8 year old watch South Park because it's a cartoon. Get a few clues, people. Be parents. Get a babysitter once in a while. All public places are not small child friendly and all movies are not young kid friendly even if they are based on children's books or cartoon. Kids don't have to like everything because everything isn't for them.

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  • Jennifer's Avatar
    Posted by Jennifer Tue Oct 20, 2009 7:36pm PDT

    The original picture book never really had a great feel to it either. The illustrations were in muted tones and the story line did not have a bright and cheery end. I myself am looking forward to seeing this movie and in no way expect it to be like the book. I have learned this over the years of being a teacher that as soon as the movie comes out I have to give my class the disclaimer that it will most likely not be like the book.

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  • Joy in Seattle's Avatar
    Posted by Joy in Seattle Tue Oct 20, 2009 7:45pm PDT

    I'm really upset with the way this movie was chosen to be made. I loved the books as a child, but have no interest in a whimsical, boring, emotional blah fest. As well, it's not something my daughter and I could see together because she'd hate it. I would've loved to see a cartoon.

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  • Theresa's Avatar
    Posted by Theresa Tue Oct 20, 2009 9:01pm PDT

    only one part that involves the main monster and the bird. That was the only thing my son didn't like.

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