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Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Mom of Tweens: How to keep your tweens busy without summer camp

Photo Credit: Jen Singer

Photo Credit: Jen Singer

At some point, probably about two weeks after school lets out, your tween may utter the two most dreaded words of summer break: “I’m bored.”

If you don’t want (or can’t afford) the structured keep-em-busy activities of summer camp, how will you fill the rest of the summer’s 14-hour days…about 980 hours total?

Older tweens are often too mature for babysitters but too young to hang out by hemselves. Unlike preschoolers, you can’t trick them into believing that folding laundry is a fun afternoon activity, and the lure of the TV, the computer and the video game player can be very strong.

But before you frantically start dialing summer camp directors, consider these tips for keeping your tween happily busy this summer:

  • Back their small business. Summertime provides your tween with all sorts of ways to earn money in your neighborhood while simultaneously keeping them busy. They can pet sit for vacationing neighbors, landscape, clean houses and serve as mother’s helpers. They can set up a lemonade stand or a bake sale at the end of your driveway or in front of your apartment. They’ll learn how to price items and promote their goods all while staying busy.
  • Make your own water park. Even if you don’t have a pool, your kids can stay cool in your yard or driveway. Set up the sprinkler and the Slip n Slide, fill up a kiddie pool and hold a water balloon fight. Keep the kids busy creating a refreshing obstacle course on hot days. Be sure to ask the neighbors to donate snacks and drinks for the oodles of kids you’ll no doubt attract. Or, let the kids charge a small entrance fee to cover costs.
  • Let them catch it on film. Turn your kids into journalists by letting them keep tabs on summertime either through a homemade community newsletter or an invitation-only blog. They can interview neighbors and friends and write up their stories. Let them use an inexpensive digital camera or someone’s old camcorder to add visuals to their creations. The need for more content will keep them entertained all summer long.
  • Change the scenery. After a few weeks at home, their bikes, basketballs and board games might seem ho-hum. Plan some mid-summer day trips to give them something to look forward to during the long summer break. Head to the beach, a museum, a ballgame or an amusement park. If you’ve got room, bring along a friend for each of your kids to cut down on the “She started it!” complaints.
  • Have a progressive playdate. If you’ve ever heard of progressive potlucks, it’s when neighbors move from house to house, eating an appetizer at one house, salad at the next, and so on. Do the same with a playdate. Ten kids play at your house for an hour, and then move to the next and so on. Your tweens have something new to do at each house, and the parents all get a much needed break.

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  • user's Avatar
    Posted by user Tue Apr 29, 2008 11:56am PDT

    I like these ideas but i live in an apartment, don't know my neighbors and nothing is within walking distance. Any suggestions?

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  • Jen Singer's Avatar
    Posted by Jen Singer Tue Apr 29, 2008 2:12pm PDT

    Do they have someone who can take them places by car? If so, see if there the local park has activities for kids their age. Sometimes movie theaters have daytime movie marathons (in the nice cool air conditioning). Some Home Depot stores hold kids' workshops for kids ages 5-12: http://www.homedepot.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ContentView?pn=Kids_Workshops&langId=-1&storeId=10051&catalogId=10053&cm_mmc=THD_marketing-_-Clinics_site-_-Digitas-_-KidsClinics

    Around the apartment, they can set up a cooking studio, even putting on a cooking show which they can film. They can also have a board game marathon, moving from Life to Monopoly to Risk, etc. at the sound of a timer.

    Finally, ask them for ideas. When I told my kids about the make-your-own blog idea, they decided to write a movie and film it. They started last night.

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    Posted by Karen Tue Apr 29, 2008 8:56pm PDT

    Theses ideas are all well and good, but what about working parents???? I am a single mom of a 12 year old, he is a good kid, but when he gets with his buddies his brain turns to mush.

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  • QuirkyDolls's Avatar
    Posted by QuirkyDolls Tue Apr 29, 2008 11:57pm PDT

    Great ideas Jen - I like the video taping the best. One of our favorites is to build their own putt-putt golf course with all kinds of home made obstacles, twists and turns. The whole course can span inside to outside and even through several yards. This keeps them busy for several days. They even had a 8" board lying over a small kiddie pool!

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  • kerry's Avatar
    Posted by kerry Wed Apr 30, 2008 4:50am PDT

    Get to know your neighbors!! Get out there and introduce yourself, or maybe have a summer activities brainstorming session that you invite some Moms with kids to. They want to meet you and connect as much as you want to meet them, make the first move!

    Also, check out colleges and universitys nearby, they have alot of cool but educational programs for kids in the summer, and alot of tweens are psyched to keep learning(really!)

    Lastly..Your Library!! As a librarian I can vouch for the unbelievable summer reading programs getting ready to kick off at your local library..and its free! If your child thinks they are to old..see if they have a junior volunteer program, they can help with kids programs, and start building their resume!

    Happy Summer!

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  • user's Avatar
    Posted by user Wed Apr 30, 2008 11:55am PDT

    One more thing, I will be home too and bored too. I have to save on gas since i can't work and must stay with kids. Any ideas for a 2 year old, 8 years old and 12 years old (all girls) Must have a budget and I am the one that lives in the apartment. (see 1st comment) THANKS!!!!!!!

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  • Jen Singer's Avatar
    Posted by Jen Singer Sun May 4, 2008 10:51am PDT

    Karen M.

    Are there any people in your neighborhood who work from home and could use an assistant or a mom who needs a mother's helper? Or can he help out at a camp for younger kids? Any kind of responsibility, even if it's just for a few short hours a day, would help keep him focused.

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  • Jen Singer's Avatar
    Posted by Jen Singer Sun May 4, 2008 10:53am PDT

    Stephanie,

    It's tough when you have such diverse age groups. Your two older girls can keep busy on their own while you concentrate on your 2 year old. But you can all go for a daily long walk (weather permitting), which will get you out of the apartment and give you something to do. And, your tweens can earn credits toward a movie night (at home, if need be) by helping you with your toddler. Every diaper they change earns them points toward a weekly reward.

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  • malibucake's Avatar
    Posted by malibucake Fri May 9, 2008 11:33am PDT

    Oh Dread, I am reminded that I, too, will be at home with boys 11, and 13. "I'm BORED" is only a few breaths (days) away.. I think they will enjoy some type of creative arts activities, but getting them excited about anything is a real challenge!!!

    One child likes to work with his hands and create, the other waits for inspiration which can take forever!

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  • MAXA's Avatar
    Posted by MAXA Wed May 14, 2008 1:42pm PDT

    Tweens, Summer, and the dreaded, “I’m bored.” -

    In a few, short days, children will be out of school. Parents have already planned summer activities, booked a camp, or prepared for those long summer days. One of the first things they’ll hear from their tweens is… “Mom, I’m bored!”

    Some parents will respond by saying, “Why don’t you go outside and play?” Right, like that’s going to happen. They might also suggest video games, computer time, or the always present TV. After all, these have been great babysitters in the past, haven't they?

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