Momversation: Do You Swear In Front of Your Children?

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  Posted by mommaofsun Thu Jan 22, 2009 10:43am PST

  Nope. Made that mistake ONCE. My son went to school calling people D***s all day and trhe school called and I of course play dumb, not having any idea where he heard such a work. Haven't done it since.

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  Posted by HotCrossBuns Thu Jan 22, 2009 12:00pm PST

  You bet. Sometimes there is nothing like the proper curse word to get your point accross. I also drink (responsibly) in front of them. I grew up in a very large Irish Catholic family, both are a way of life. My kids know that behavior like that has it's proper time and place, though, and until they are adults it is off-limits to them. (I had the same rules, and to this day I still get the tongue click and the head shake from my mother...who taught me most of the words I know!)

  I did catch 6yr old Kid3 telling 10yr old Kid1 to "stop acting like an a$$,"the other day. It got him 20 minutes at the kitchen table writing, "I will not say nasty words" over and over again. He'd have gotten hot sauce for it, but I had used the last of it in a recipe.

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  Posted by mommaofsun Thu Jan 22, 2009 12:20pm PST

  Reading you post, HotCrossBuns, made me realize a time when my oldest child was 2 and in a church day care, which he hated. I went after work to pick him up and was informed by the direcor of the day care, that she asked him about unfinished work from that day, and he told her "you can take that work and shove it straight up your A**". It took every ounce of restraint to keep from laughing.

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  Posted by ouwa Thu Jan 22, 2009 12:34pm PST

  I have an infant and I definitely curse not at her but in front of her. Sometimes I just do it without even realizingc; I don't intentionally say, I don't care about the impression I'm making on her I'm going to curse anyway, it just happens. But I know I would definitely be ashamed and embarrassed if she grew up repeating some of the words I use (douche bag; prick; f--- ; d---- , etc). But I also think there are words said in front of children that are worse and more harmful like stupid, idiot, shut up, etc.

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  Posted by Christa Thu Jan 22, 2009 3:14pm PST

  I curse in front of my kids, and my kids are aloud to curse. They really don't, I guess it isn't fun if you are allowed to ;-). We did talk to them about the possible side affects of using bad words (offending some people, making some people mad or uncomfortable), and I guess that was enough of a deterrent. I don't swear in front of other people either, and never in anger towards another person.

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  Posted by Kellie Fri Jan 23, 2009 6:22am PST

  Good topic for discussion!!

  I curse in front of and with my girls, ages 15 and 13! It started out as "Word Wednesday" but has become 7-days! They are allowed to curse as part of expressing themselves, just not take the Lord's name in vein, curse in excess or towards adults, if that makes any sense!! A large majority of kids (all ages!) curse, even though their parents will swear up and down "not my child"!! Case in point, I was reffing a bball game and a 9-yr old boy dropped and "f" bomb! I called a techncinal and his dad swears his son did not and would never say such a thing because he goes to an Episcipol school!

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  Posted by DeAnn Fri Jan 23, 2009 6:45am PST

  We try not to. Sometimes it slips, though. Our son is very cognisant of what words are good and bad. He can recognize curse words, but chooses not to use them. He tattles on his friends to us when they get together away from parents and use bad words just to use them.

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  Posted by user Fri Jan 23, 2009 7:13am PST

  My hsband and I were just talking about my potty mouth last night. I do cuss in front of my oldest (13) the most but I am more careful around my 8 year and REALLY careful around my 3 year old. I was raised in a non-cussing household and now I cuss a lot. It didn't even start until I was 18. My husband thinks it funny that I cuss. Mostly I say F@#k! One thing to add, we started watching Weeds on DVD recently and my cussing level has gone up. Gotta be careful...

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  Posted by Harlem Fri Jan 23, 2009 7:34am PST

  What mother doesn't curse in front of their kids?

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  Posted by EW Fri Jan 23, 2009 7:56am PST

  I use "bad" words alot. More than I would like. Its because I get frustrated and I get tired pure and simple so I have no excuse and I really never will (sometimes a good release of emotion is good for me). I will try to teach my little boy to be polite and well mannered which to my amazement he is already such a darling, but I am not going to freak out about it. I really do not want him to call people names or curse directly at them. Thats just rude and I wont tolerate it.

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