My seven year old needs help... I am so lost.

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  Posted by emferguson318 Fri Nov 21, 2008 11:20am PST

  Hi there,

  I would have him checked for autisum. About 5 years ago I worked with autistic children and one that I remember had problems like the ones you are explaining. He had aspirger autisum. I think I spelled that right. He would get mad and throw chairs and hit and spit at the other kids. There are so many different kinds of autisum that they can never hit on just one. But I don't feel that it is ADD or ADHD. Good luck and keep me informed.

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  Posted by "A-me" Fri Nov 21, 2008 11:32am PST

  wow...I have a 12 year old that has also been suspended 3 times for fighting!!! i am at my wits end with him...I love him to death but he test me every second...he gets mad at me n says he hates me and he wants to live with his daddy!! He always has to have the last word! i have takin things away from him and nothing works...if you find out a solution please please please let me know....i will try anything

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  Posted by mighty_mouse Fri Nov 21, 2008 11:36am PST

  i would keep him off any sort of drugs/medication. doctors these days hand it out like candy when they fail to figure out what is really going on. MEDICATION IS NOT THE SOLUTION... it is just putting a band aid on a wound.

  good nutrition and exercise might help too. perhaps if he gets involved in a sport or a project his self esteem might improve...?

  good luck!

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  Posted by Sweet T Fri Nov 21, 2008 11:37am PST

  Having no children, I have no advice to give (sorry!), but I will be thinking of you and your son and sending good energy your way. This has to be so frustrating for both of you, but stay strong, tell your son you love him, and thank the stars you're a good enough parent to see this and not place blame on your little guy. Keep us posted!

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  Posted by Suzanne S Fri Nov 21, 2008 11:43am PST

  Hi, I to teach special ed have you had him tested for autisum or gone to child guidance in you towm. The local childrens hospital child phsy. department can also do a whole batterie of test to help you.Do not let this go any on any more your son is the one hurting. Does he have a IEP? Keep in touch I will help any way I can.

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  Posted by Suzanne S Fri Nov 21, 2008 11:44am PST

  Hi, I to teach special ed have you had him tested for autisum or gone to child guidance in you towm. The local childrens hospital child phsy. department can also do a whole batterie of test to help you.Do not let this go any on any more your son is the one hurting. Does he have a IEP? Keep in touch I will help any way I can.

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  Posted by Lilac Fri Nov 21, 2008 11:45am PST

  Honestly, I would pull him out of school for a year and try to get him some help. Possibly homeschool for a year or so. You want to nip this in the bud before he turns into an angry, agressive teenager. I would also look into other influences in his life to see what kind of TV he watches (too adult ? too violent ?), video games,(violent?) food additives, and try to eliminate anything that could potentially be causing problems. My own daughter who has ADD (not ADHD) cannot TOLERATE artificial sweeteners. Her body cannot process it and she starts sleepwalking, night terrors, vivid dreams where she is acting out her dreams, etc if she eats the artificial sweetner. I read on several websites that kids with ADD/ADHD can have lots of trouble processing that stuff.

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  Posted by Lilac Fri Nov 21, 2008 11:49am PST

  Mighty Mouse...are you a doctor ? Do you have a kid with ADHD or any other medical problem ? Please don't pass judgement on those who choose to medicate. We chose NOT to medicate but I would never , ever dare to pass judgement on someone who does because I have seen first hand kids who really needed meds and it really helped them. Yes, it can be a problem if doctors are not responsible, but there are kids who really need it.

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  Posted by emferguson318 Fri Nov 21, 2008 11:59am PST

  Some people feel that meds are not the answer, My son has been on adderall since the 2nd grade and I would not change a thing. He went from D's and E's to A's and B's.

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  Posted by WhiskeyKaye Fri Nov 21, 2008 12:13pm PST

  Hi all,

  Thanks for the advice. My son is on an IEP and they have completed an FBA on him. I will be meeting with school psychologist on Tuesday because the school board wants to conduct furthur testing on him.

  I am taking him to the doctor on Wednesday for a psychological evaluation. We have been to two different agencies here in town for play therapy, but it doesn't seem to help. I have tried sports, changing his diet, and pretty much everything.

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