My son is home!!! And I am really mad at his father.

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  Posted by rockin' mom Mon Dec 29, 2008 11:42am PST

  Damn, girl!!! WTF is wrong with him? I don't see how anyone could let their child stay in pain. Heck, if my daughter starts to feel bad, I take her to her doctor. We DON'T have insurance. I pay my $83 because I want her to be better. Poor thing. I hope his finger is ok!!!! My goodness. No offense, but your ex sounds like a COMPLETE JACKASS. :)

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  Posted by Murphy Mon Dec 29, 2008 1:10pm PST

  i agree with catholic mom that is child abuse in the child services eyes because how do they not know that ur x didnt slam him thumb in the door and that is just plain GROSS that his father didnt make ur son take a shower... eww

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  Posted by ThinkingReal Mon Dec 29, 2008 1:11pm PST

  WOW CATHOLIC MOM... I THINK ITS A MESSED UP SITUATION TOO! HOWEVER,IS IT POSSIBLE THAT HE THOUGHT IT WAS NOT THAT SERIOUS,..

  29, A SLAM IN THE DOOR... I REMEMBER AS A CHILD KIDS DOING THAT AND I DONT RECALL THEM GOING TO HOSPITAL... WAS THAT ABUSE? DONT KNOW... JUST OLD SCHOOL, "PUT A ICE PACK ON IT, IT'LL BE OKAY" I DONT THINK WHAT HE DID IS AT ALL OKAY, BUT IF YOUR SON WAS NOT CRYING, OR WAS IN PAIN... OR SHOWING THAT IT HURT.. THE DAYS MOST LIKELY JUST WENT ON AS PLANNED.. KIDS WILL BE KIDS.... SHOULD HE HAVE TAKEN HIM? MAYBE.... MEN ARE DIFFERENT THEN WOMEN... ITS FACT.... THEY HAVE THIS " MAN UP" THING WITH THEIR BOYS, AND ITS POSSIBLE YOUR SON WAS TRYING TO DO JUST THAT... NOT SHOW THAT IT HURT THAT BAD.... BEING A TOUGH GUY.... I KNOW YOU ARE BEYOND TIRED OF THE WAY HE IS WITH YOU AND YOUR SON, AND FROM THE BLOG I READ PREVIOUSLY YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH ALOT.. I EVEN HAD TO DELETE MY COMMENT AS IT WAS SO MUCH I WANTED TO SHARE WITH YOU , AND TOO MUCH.. , JUST KNOW THAT THERE WILL BE THINGS HE WILL DO THATS GOING TO GET UNDER YOUR SKIN, BUT IT IS WHAT IT IS.... BUT IN IT ALL YOU HAVE YOUR SON... AND THAT IS WHAT REMAINS... PS: EVER SEE THOSE THINKING OF YOU CARDS THAT ARE BLANK INSIDE? GET ONE, PLACE THE CO-PAY BILL INSIDE, AND SIGN YOUR NAME... ~WINK BE WELL-TR

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  Posted by ThinkingReal Mon Dec 29, 2008 1:24pm PST

  OKAY, I'M BACK... AS FOR THE SHOWER PART.. YES! AS AN ADULT YOUR EX SHOULD KNOW BETTER THAN THAT.. BUT YOUR SON COULD HAVE EASILY WENT TO SHOWER TOO... AFTERALL, HE IS A BIG BOY NOW.. YOUR EX NEEDS TO KNOW THAT NEXT TIME THIS HAPPENS HE WILL HAVE TO COME TO WHERE YOU ARE.. PLAIN AND SIMPLE, I AM INCLINED TO BELEIVE HE DID NOT TAKE HIM TO ER BECAUSE HE DID NOT WANT IT NOTED ON HIS VISIT... MAKES SENSE? ANYWHO... BE WELL-TR

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  Posted by 29_and holding Mon Dec 29, 2008 1:34pm PST

  Bryan, Sorry I am married. I have been for a while. But thanks for your support.

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  Posted by 29_and holding Mon Dec 29, 2008 1:37pm PST

  Catholic Mom, I really do not think that it was child abuse but I would say it was neglect.

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  Posted by 29_and holding Mon Dec 29, 2008 1:42pm PST

  TR, I will concur that perhaps he tried to "man up". That would work for Christmas eve. However once the day went on and then the next, and then the next, something should have been done. My kiddo could not bend it or pick up anything with that hand. His whole left hand was swollen to the size of mine.

  I have slammed my daughters finger in the door. And I too have just put ice on it. If it had changed colors and sizes the way my sons had then I would have taken her. I truly believe that his father just did not want to take his head out of his ass long enough to take care of him.

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  Posted by darkprophetgkh Mon Dec 29, 2008 1:52pm PST

  I hope your kid is okay. This guy, your ex, seems like quite a jerk. But I have to say that it is possible that the injury may not have been all that painful until many hours had past and the damage would have been much more obvious (swelling, discoloration, tenderness). Did you get the whole story from your son about what happened? Did he refuse to go, saying that it wasn't too bad at first? Even if this was the case, your ex is still a jackass for not keeping an eye on things to notice what was going on with his own kid. I only mention this cause I was a child of divorce and as described I accidently caught my thumb in a truck door many years ago. It didn't seem to hurt much until it got out of control and then I didn't want to ruin the really good time I was having then. I had the accident right before going to visit my dad. Nothing was going to stop me from making that trip. And my dad is a doctor (he's dead now). My thumb got packed in ice which melted and I fell asleep on the train. So when my dad finally saw me like 8 - 10 hours after the accident, he freaked! lol. I was in real pain, but I was sooo glad to see him. You love your kids you hate your ex. same old, same old story. Things happen we all hope our kids survive unscathed. Even though he seems like a douche... may I suggest that you not yell at him. It ain't all that constructive. Try to explain your concerns and reinforce the idea that you guys need to keep each other informed about anything that happens with a kid and that it's a team effort raising a child. I know this may not be easy. I know what your dealing with, trust me (my ex is a real wackjob). My son just turned 21 and Ive been through about 18 years of all kinds of BS (vicious misunderstandings, neglect, inappropriate rage, paranoia, deceitfulnes and when we were stll together... cheating).

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  Posted by ThinkingReal Mon Dec 29, 2008 1:59pm PST

  lol.. OKAY, THEN ... 29, YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE UPSET... WOW ... POOR LITTLE FELLA, WISH YOU TOOK A PICTURE.... DONT STRESS OVER WHAT IS DONE OKAY? BE WELL-TR

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  Posted by 29_and holding Mon Dec 29, 2008 2:02pm PST

  GKH,thanks for your comments. my kiddo complained to him that it still hurt. He told me that he did. That being said. I will not cause a stir over this. His father knows how I feel. I told my son that I was upset that his father and nana did not take care of him the way they should have. That is as close to bad mouthing them as I got. I would love to pick up the phone and wail on him but it would do no good so I am not going to waste my breath.

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