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Sunday, November 8, 2009

MySpace Victim's Mom Seeks Justice

Tina Meier talks to momlogic.

Last week, a federal judge tentatively threw out the convictions of Missouri mom Lori Drew, who had been charged with fraud in connection with a fake MySpace page targeting her 13-year-old neighbor, Megan Meier. Megan Meier later committed suicide.

Megan's mom, Tina Meier, talks to momlogic about this shocking ruling.

momlogic: When did you find out about the judge's decision, and what was your reaction?

Tina Meier: The decision came down on Thursday, July 2nd. I feel aggravation and disappointment. I truly feel that the message the judge is sending out is a bad one. It's stating that if we as individuals use the Internet and don't read the terms of service, we can still make a false profile, harass someone, impersonate someone, and do whatever we want ... and if something happens, we are not held liable because we didn't read the terms of service. This is a horrible message to be sending sexual predators, husbands, wives, exes, and anyone who wants to cause harm or get revenge on someone else. Now, what I am doing with the Megan Meier Foundation is asking anyone who disagrees with the judge's decision to please contact the judge's court clerk and let him know why you disagree. The judge's decision is not 100% until it's in writing. I am not sure when that will be, so I am asking people to write him as soon as possible. The AP did an article right after the decision and they did an online survey asking how many people agreed with the ruling. Over 90,000 people clicked on the survey and over 89% disagreed. These are people who use the Internet. We need to stand up and protect our children. This is one step towards asking the judge to do something positive and set a precedent.

ML: Where will you go from here?

Tina: I am fighting to let the judge know there are people out there who disagree with his ruling. If he doesn't read the letters or listen, then there is nothing more I can do, but we need to get our voices heard. The jury found Lori Drew guilty, but he threw out the decision and now she goes free. Right now, the decision is still tentative until it's in writing, which is again why I am asking people to write the judge as soon as possible.

I can't let this decision stop the course I am on. I am going to continue to get out there. There are two components. The first is legislative. There is a federal bill out there that has been proposed by Congresswoman Linda Sanchez in California. We need a law that will state if you use the Internet to harm or harass someone, you need to be held accountable -- just like when you drink and drive and kill an innocent family on the road, you need to be held responsible. On the federal level, it will cover everyone, and not just go state by state. The second component is to get into the schools and continue to talk and educate the kids, parents, educators, etc. We need kids to understand the effects this has on others, when they get into arguments or harass each other online. I want to show them real life stories of how people have taken their lives when this could have been prevented.

Do you think the judge's decision should be overruled? Comment below.

LINK: http://www.momlogic.com/2009/07/myspace_suicide_victims_mom_se.php

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  • another hockey fan's Avatar
    Posted by another hockey fan Thu Jul 9, 2009 7:17am PDT

    This is completely insane!! I feel so sorry for Ms. Meier. That Lori Drew witch should have been charged with a murder conviction and gone to prison. Now, she's free to go out and do it again if she so chooses and anyone else who knows about this can do the same thing already knowing they won't get caught. UNBELIEVABLE!!! It blows my mind how F89098 up our judicial system can be sometimes.......

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  • impatientmom's Avatar
    Posted by impatientmom Thu Jul 9, 2009 7:25am PDT

    Lori Drew is guilty of MURDER, because her hateful behavior caused a 13 year old girl to commit suicide! If Mrs. Drew had a problem with a rumor she beleived Megan Meier spread, perhaps she could have spoken to Megan and/or her mother about it. Creating a fictional character that would eventually drive someone to suicide, is COWARDLY and CRIMINAL!!!!!!!!!

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  • Beth's Avatar
    Posted by Beth Thu Jul 9, 2009 7:37am PDT

    Yes, Lori Drew is a wretched individual who deserves some seriously bad karmic retribution. What she did was at best horribly immature and at worst murder....except it really wasn't and that's what the courts are saying.

    I understand that Ms. Meier wants Drew held responsible but the truth is life sucks. And it's not fair. Her daughter had "issues" and was clearly not prepared to deal with life's cruelties. If it hadn't been this that sent her over the edge it would have been something else.

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  • Holly's Avatar
    Posted by Holly Thu Jul 9, 2009 9:10am PDT

    I agree with the fact that this poor girl had major issues and if it wasn't this that pushed her over the edge, it would have been something else. I also think that the Mrs. Drew should have paid better attention to what was going on at home. If she really wants education on internet safety she should have been teaching that in her own home. This is a terrible thing. when I was suffering with sever depression, my mother was the first to notice and help me out. This could have been prevented with a little more caution an all sides.

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  • 's Avatar
    Posted by Thu Jul 9, 2009 9:21am PDT

    About the Meier girl. This only shows how being a teenager truly sucks sometimes. Too bad the parents involvement caused havoc. Communication with your teenager is important.

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  • Ahleah G's Avatar
    Posted by Ahleah G Thu Jul 9, 2009 9:42am PDT

    I don't know that I would consider her actions murder, maybe manslaughter. Either way she does bear some liability for this girl's suicide. And not reading the terms of service is no excuse. While I doubt most people read them, you have to check a box saying that you read and understood. So therefore if she checked that box she is still responsible for abiding by the terms of service even if she chose not to read them.

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  • JohnG's Avatar
    Posted by JohnG Thu Jul 9, 2009 10:28am PDT

    f-- itttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt she shoulddddddddd be in jailllllllllllllll

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  • Beth's Avatar
    Posted by Beth Thu Jul 9, 2009 10:46am PDT

    What I find head scratching about the whole thing is that in a television interview when this first started Ms. Meier said she was aware that her daughter had an online "boyfriend," thought that she was becoming overly attached to him and had tried to caution her daughter against being so. She also said that she kept tabs on what her kids did online.

    So I'm confused. And all I can think it that this girl was far far more troubled than even her parents realized.

    Not that any of this deflects the sheer wretchedness of what Drew did. Personally, I'd love to see her flogged in the city square, get a chance to toss rotten produce at her. How an adult could be that immature and malicious is beyond me.

    All I can say to Ms. Meier is take comfort in the fact that while you may not be able to hold her legally responsible, that woman is known world wide now for being malicious, immature, petty, nasty, cruel and just plain pathetic.

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  • YvonneM's Avatar
    Posted by YvonneM Thu Jul 9, 2009 10:50am PDT

    We need more information.

    What is the law the woman was convicted under in state court?

    And what law does the federal court judge cite to overturn the state court ruling?

    You can't argue to a judge on emotion - you have to argue that his or her interpretation of the law is incorrect.

    It is not common for a federal judge to overturn a state conviction, so prosecutors would likely appeal to the circuit court if they disagree with the district court decision.

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  • Rachel's Avatar
    Posted by Rachel Thu Jul 9, 2009 11:19am PDT

    I feel bad for the mother who lost her child, but the other mother is not a murderer. What she did was so wrong and mean-spirited, but she did not kill that girl. If a student is picking on another who then goes home and commits suicide...it is considered suicide, not murder. This is no different and I am glad the court ruled the way it did.

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