One Day My Babies Will Be Men?

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  Posted by Reminiscing Mom Thu Dec 4, 2008 8:42pm PST

  My son(stepson) of 22 just married this weekend... I think back of the times when i met his father and became very attached to now our kids... I have another son( stepson) who is also 18 and a daughter(stepdaughter) 15.... My son who is only 12, is growing fast before my eyes. I believe thier is no mother out ever realy ready for the changes that lie ahead...My son in the 6th grade started shying away from being hugged in front of his friends, while being dropped off at school... Imagine my agony, I have realized crying about it is actually selfish on our part as parents... We as parents have to trust our kids to make the right decisions, and that can only be done with love and guidance of thier parents or guardians.... While letting go is not easy, its fun to watch the changes that go through them, physically and mentally.. Im not saying its not a challenge, cause god knows it is... But tune into your little men, you as parents will learn things about them daily that

  may just make you smile, and at times cry. Going back to my 22 year old, being there at his wedding was one of my happiest days to be able to enjoy thier special day as they become 1....But boy did it make me think of how much he has grown.. And although there will be many dissapointments in his life, it will make him stronger as a person...So dont be so worried, just enjoy it....

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  Posted by Reminiscing Mom Thu Dec 4, 2008 8:42pm PST

  My son(stepson) of 22 just married this weekend... I think back of the times when i met his father and became very attached to now our kids... I have another son( stepson) who is also 18 and a daughter(stepdaughter) 15.... My son who is only 12, is growing fast before my eyes. I believe thier is no mother out ever realy ready for the changes that lie ahead...My son in the 6th grade started shying away from being hugged in front of his friends, while being dropped off at school... Imagine my agony, I have realized crying about it is actually selfish on our part as parents... We as parents have to trust our kids to make the right decisions, and that can only be done with love and guidance of thier parents or guardians.... While letting go is not easy, its fun to watch the changes that go through them, physically and mentally.. Im not saying its not a challenge, cause god knows it is... But tune into your little men, you as parents will learn things about them daily that

  may just make you smile, and at times cry. Going back to my 22 year old, being there at his wedding was one of my happiest days to be able to enjoy thier special day as they become 1....But boy did it make me think of how much he has grown.. And although there will be many dissapointments in his life, it will make him stronger as a person...So dont be so worried, just enjoy it....

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  Posted by Reminiscing Mom Thu Dec 4, 2008 8:42pm PST

  My son(stepson) of 22 just married this weekend... I think back of the times when i met his father and became very attached to now our kids... I have another son( stepson) who is also 18 and a daughter(stepdaughter) 15.... My son who is only 12, is growing fast before my eyes. I believe thier is no mother out ever realy ready for the changes that lie ahead...My son in the 6th grade started shying away from being hugged in front of his friends, while being dropped off at school... Imagine my agony, I have realized crying about it is actually selfish on our part as parents... We as parents have to trust our kids to make the right decisions, and that can only be done with love and guidance of thier parents or guardians.... While letting go is not easy, its fun to watch the changes that go through them, physically and mentally.. Im not saying its not a challenge, cause god knows it is... But tune into your little men, you as parents will learn things about them daily that

  may just make you smile, and at times cry. Going back to my 22 year old, being there at his wedding was one of my happiest days to be able to enjoy thier special day as they become 1....But boy did it make me think of how much he has grown.. And although there will be many dissapointments in his life, it will make him stronger as a person...So dont be so worried, just enjoy it....

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  Posted by momjoy Thu Dec 4, 2008 9:41pm PST

  I had a similar panic recently. I was telling a friend how much fun Christmas will be this year because my 2 1/2 year old will be able to understand and join in the early morning excitement with his sisters. Then she mentioned that all three of her kids (in their 20's) wouldn't be home on Christmas morning because of marriages, fiances, etc. I gasped! Wait...you mean one day I won't have my babies with me on Christmas morning!?! It really made me stop and think that I must do all I can to cherish these special years when they are small. And it also reminded me that I need to be intentional about keeping the "Merry" in Christmas and focus on the family traditions (and not get all stressed out about all the unecessary stuff) so that they will also remember these times fondly. I so agree with the post from HotCrossBuns about how the things we teach them now will follow them into adult hood. Maybe I should stop picking up the dirty clothes off the floor to get them started in the right direction :)

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  Posted by Debra Clyde Fri Dec 5, 2008 9:54am PST

  He He He... Not laughing at you but with you. That dear is one key to break the secret parent code(joke). Laugh everyday!! The other is to teach them that as wonderful as you know they are, they are not the center of the universe, and they must care for others in the universe.

  I have 2 Children and two Godchildren who I would like to have choked on some days and on others I could have hugged all day. Boy-Girl, Boy-Girl in that order from 23 to 17. (Secretly I thank God for the boys :)) My third oldest at 19 has blessed me with a beautiful Grandson. She is not married and that is not what I taught her. My 23 year old son is going through a divorce. Was I a bad mom?, nope. In spite of their mistakes my children (even the 17 year old who is finishing her first semester in college) are awsome, wonderful citizens of this world. The are loving, caring, polite respectful, etc. I had to learn that I did what I knew to do. I lived through the too cool to hug you years, the years where they were smarter than me (I've been stupid more or less since '95 :)) I survived missing my children's graduations because of my career needs, they forgive me too. All in all, I would not give any of them up for the world. I keep their pictures on my walls as though the frame is holding fine art. They are finer art than anything Matisse, Michealanglo, or whomever could have created. Why? God created them for me. My job and your job is to do what you know to do. And Love them ANYWAY!!! Never mind what they say in anger, and never back down (even when your wrong, they do stuff when your not looking). Keep them out of the friend zone, you are their mom. Love them enough to set tough boundaries and be the meanest mom in the neighborhood. (their friends thought I was cool!)and be it proudly. Pray, Pray Pray and Pray. If you don't believe in a higher diety, now is a good time to get one. Laugh, Laugh, Laugh, and Laugh, especially when you want to choke 'em.

  Don't worry now about the future. I told everyone I was raising the best members of society and that was that. I set out to do that and good or bad, I think that is what I got. The best members of society they can be. And they keep getting better everyday!

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